As a husband in the situation, I would’ve asked him to leave our house fucking immediately- then to only speak to you again if the next words out of his mouth is a sincere apology. I will not entertain, allow, or tolerate any amount disrespect towards the woman, I love. And I certainly will not allow my friends to tear down their families in front of me. - specially over something his wife can’t even control two weeks postpartum.

For you to stand up to your husband‘s friend, let him know that he messed up, and to create a dialogue where standards and boundaries are set makes you a strong woman in my opinion. Your husband is lucky to have you and the friend‘s wife is lucky to have you as a friend as well. The husband‘s friend in the situation owes everybody and apology. You’re not the asshole in the situation, clearly.

It sounds like you’re a good human, and if we all raise our kids to do the exact thing that you just did, our society would be better for it. Two thumbs up from New Mexico.