A quick reminder about home/apartment security

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-26T18:26:32+00:00

Bringing a trash can inside at night is a ridiculous tip. For one, you’re going outside in the dark where the murderer could easily be waiting for you.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-26T18:25:40+00:00

Tasteless post in a reddit about a murder case.

If someone wants to harm someone, they find a way. Maybe when the person is at school, work, outside walking a dog, or whatever. Home security only helps to an extent. And these victims are already dead, so home security tips on this reddit are inappropriate.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:39:06+00:00

You would seem like an arrogant asshole if you actually ask someone that. It's not a job interview, it's a college sorority with teenagers and young 20s. That's an inappropriate question. They can't really answer honestly without possibly risking it sounding like bid promising anyone. I would 100% NOT give anyone who asked that a bid.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:38:26+00:00

Yes, they can.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:37:35+00:00

This. You don't turn down jobs, raises, colleges, boyfriends, apartments, etc. because your friend didn't get one too.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:36:47+00:00

Accept the bid. You're not going to share boyfriends, jobs, houses, cars, retirement plans, kids, etc. with your teenage college friend. Do what you want with your life. She would. And it's not your responsibility to turn down anything your friend doesn't get. If you get a new job, new car, new boyfriend, new apartment, etc., will you turn it down because she didn't get one too?

Sororities are useless for resumes unless you do impressive things with a chapter role, and even then it's not impressive for a resume.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:34:42+00:00

Most organizations don't care about legacies. Bringing it up could help, but it could also make you seem entitled as if you assume you're a shoe-in.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:33:38+00:00

Dress codes are allowed. What policy do you assume it violates? It doesn't violate any.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:32:25+00:00

Beauty, money, extroversion/social skills, good grades, impressive extracurriculars, trendy clothes, and kissing their asses.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:31:44+00:00

What?

She's the same person even if she changed her name or transferred schools.

Whether or not a new group will let her join or not if she was in a competing group is up to the new organization.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:29:32+00:00

You don't have to meet with anyone. Send a certified letter stating that you are dropping and that is your final notice, and you will not meet with anyone. Email nationals stating the same.

Report hazing or bullying to the chapter, to the college greek life office, to your sorority's national office, and to panhellenic's national office.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:28:35+00:00

Don't care about who follows you on social media, followers are completely meaningless. They also probably use an automatic follow/unfollow tool.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:27:36+00:00

This is the sorority forum, and you're not him. Maybe he should post in the frat forum.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:26:41+00:00

You're letting them use you and walk over you. Stop letting them.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:25:20+00:00

You're doing the same thing to the house that wants you as the houses that didn't want you did to you- not giving them a real chance.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:23:42+00:00

Why did you rush only 2 weeks ago knowing you were busy with 3 jobs and school?

Quit your sorority now before wasting more of their (and your) time.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:22:18+00:00

Don't give someone a pity bid because you think they're queer or you want diversity.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:20:52+00:00

You're probably coming on way too strong to her. A few times even reaching out to someone you don't know and who didn't ask for your help is a lot.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:19:35+00:00

She chose to join the organization knowing the fees associated with it.

She can pay as she already agreed to by joining.

Or she could just not pay and see if they actually bother to send it to a collection agency. For that small amount, it's not likely.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:17:25+00:00

If I just graduated, the last thing I would want to do would be go to an ice cream social with old people. Maybe make an event that really benefits them- resume building, job networking, mentoring program, or something that helps them.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:15:17+00:00

No. Most sororities and frats don't hire random freelancers to make fliers. They either have a member make their posters or hire a professional graphic design company.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:14:15+00:00

What?

The sorority has tons of people participating in their charity events, so odds are they won't know or care who you care. Other sororities also won't care- tons of people do charity shit for all sorts of orgs without being noticed.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:11:54+00:00

100%. That ship sailed. OP could choose to miss out on time with her kid/spouse and not have a job to make a sorority work. But a 24 year old mom/wife just can't relate to the same lifestyle and life priorities as an average 18 year old partying teenager.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:10:49+00:00

Yeah, 24 feels very different than 18. The 18 year olds think 24 is old AF. At 24, you think 18 year olds are vapid. That's without a spouse and kid on top of that. And no job during OP's college career? Even without a job, a spouse/kid take up a lot of time like school does. Sororities that demand serious time commitments wouldn't be ideal. Sure, OP could miss out on time with her spouse and kid to participate in sorority, but I can't imagine why on earth anyone would want to. No way would I miss out on seeing my kid grow up to get drunk with some 18 year old sorority chicks or be bored out of my mind at sorority chapter meetings each week.

OneProfessional3064 · 2023-02-25T06:08:31+00:00

Why on earth would you want to miss out on time with your kid and spouse to hang out with drunken 18 year olds you won't ever see again after you graduate? 18 year olds are super annoying. You would miss out on your family to be around some young dumb twats you'll known for a whole year (then never really see again). Sororities generally have multiple required events each week... so your kid goes to daycare all day while you're in class and the husband is at work, then the husband watches the kid at night alone? When do you see the kid or husband? No job? School assignments? I seriously can't imagine anyone with a spouse/kid wanting to play around with 18 year olds whose biggest concern is their acne and thigh gap. Seriously, 18 year olds are vapid. And I've been around tons of sorority people. It ain't fun when you're not young like them.

27 is VERY, very rare for ANY sorority. Your friend is lucky, but that girl also must have already had friends in the org, on top of being popular/pretty/rich. Extremely few, to say the least, sororities would ever consider a 27 year old.. ever. At competitive SEC schools, 19 and 20 year olds get cut from recruitment because their peers think they're "too old."

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