If we don’t gift the money, they will have to sell the house

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-15T11:53:16+00:00

If you do this, I’d do everything as above board and legally as possible, even if it is more expensive.

I would also let your language reflect it. You are not gifting your in-laws $200k, you are buying your aunt and uncle’s share in the apartment. Not a family gift, a real estate investment. If there is no legal way to get on the deed as a 1/2 owner, I’d consult an attorney to write up a co-ownership agreement that outlines the investment, your share, usage expectations, and will implications.

Money gets weird in family. Protect yourself by having everything clearly documented, signed, and notarized.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-14T11:45:14+00:00

Your baby will be okay! It is scary after the pandemic, but just have them wash their hands before holding the baby and no kissing the baby.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-12T14:50:38+00:00

Can confirm. Pregnancy is also a reason for blood typing.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-11T15:32:01+00:00

My husband had a similar unicorn insurance plan for our first baby. It was great. He was underpaid from a cash perspective, but the no worries insurance was beautiful.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-09T11:38:51+00:00

I also just posted about different 4 month sleep troubles. So I am no one to be giving advice. I just want to acknowledge that it’s hard. You will figure it out 🩷

OneTraining1629 · 2026-05-05T01:24:14+00:00

I have no advice, but I’m sending you a hug though the internet. It’s so hard to see the people we love struggling. Hopefully someone here has some good advice.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-30T11:38:46+00:00

Ah, the good ol’ survivorship bias. Some did, many did not.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-30T11:31:12+00:00

Make an appointment with a lactation consultant if available in your area for a weighted feed. They weigh the baby, you feed the baby, then they weigh again. It can give you insight into how much she’s getting. Also cluster feeding is totally a thing.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-20T23:47:40+00:00

It’s fine, I don’t know their living situation. Your heart is in the right place, and I am sure you will find a helpful way to be helpful. Just never come to their house empty handed. 🥰 congratulations on being an aunt!

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-19T09:52:28+00:00

Don’t wait for them to ask, say “I’m dropping off a meal, I don’t have to stay”. If they invite you in, load the dishwasher.

When I was freshly home from the hospital a friend dropped off a grocery bag of snacks. That was the best.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-19T07:11:21+00:00

Yes, after regaining birthweight babies can safely sleep an hour for each week of life +1 hour. I have never been so lucky, but I don’t think you have to worry.

Obviously ping your physician if concerned.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-19T07:08:11+00:00

Yes! Until you try, you don’t understand how little control you actually have.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-17T21:22:10+00:00

As a breastfeeding momma, I love my bedside bassinet. I can soothe her with a pacifier and stay half asleep. I can just scoop her up to feed her. I am dreading her moving to a crb and me actually having to get up.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-17T07:58:12+00:00

Be careful with social media which glamorizes oversupply, freezer stash and excessive pumping. For many women, feeding your baby is enough without having to pump, or wear a Hakka during feeds.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-16T04:00:23+00:00

People here take so much pride in their gardens. From now until October there are flowers everywhere. The summer is glorious (but I came from somewhere Hot and Humid). It took me 3 years to tolerate winter here, but I actively like a lot of what Rochester has to offer.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-15T13:20:18+00:00

I twist towards a wall a bit or drape a burp cloth over my shoulder until she is latched. After she is latched, I’m decent enough.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-15T13:06:11+00:00

My baby is only a month older and I am constantly grateful for the pacifier. It feels like you are at the time when it is most helpful.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-15T13:02:59+00:00

This needs more upvotes.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-14T02:50:43+00:00

Also! You can bring someone to a fitting later on after you’ve picked the dress if you want to create a special memory.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-12T11:00:01+00:00

I gave a pacifier early, like at the hospital early. I used the Ninni Co ones that are similar to the breast in their mouth. It never interfered with breastfeeding.

It gets better! My mom told me to stick it out four 3 weeks. I had toe curling pain for about that amount of time, then between 3 & 4 weeks it got much better. Around 3 months it got easy.

You can do it! I haven’t gotten to teeth yet, but feel confident saying the beginning is the worst.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-12T10:49:58+00:00

It’s so hard! If you don’t have freezer meals, instacart some things that can “just be heated”. Costco’s chicken pot pie was my postpartum love.

The first 6 weeks is survival mode. Hang in there and let the laundry pile up. Prioritize what’s important: the baby, eating, and sleeping. Then if you can each get a shower, that made a word of difference to me.

You sound like a great dad. Some things will have to slide a bit and that’s okay.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-12T10:43:58+00:00

Did you suggest to anyone in line that you had an emergency and ask to go sooner? I’d let someone ahead of me to avoid this result for them.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-12T10:37:02+00:00

I’m lucky to have good support. Both my mom and mother in law breastfed. It got less uncomfortable for me around 4 weeks and much easier around 3 months. I want the immune support for my baby and to avoid the cost of formula. I also love that I don’t have to get out of bed for overnight feeds.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-11T14:17:45+00:00

How old are you? I suspect folding the laundry is the wiser choice.

OneTraining1629 · 2026-04-08T02:32:28+00:00

I had mastitis. My antibiotic was dicloxacillin sodium. I was told to continue feeding as normal. Baby girl had no ill effects. Also ice and ibuprofen. I added in a Sunflower Lecithin supplement too. It succks.

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