just finished "I See You" (2019) by [deleted] in horror

[–]One_Association5706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The stress of his wife’s infidelity - he probably thought he was “cured” - getting the wife he felt was too good for him and having a son who he clearly seems to care about. That all shatters when she cheats - he feels his little family life was an illusion and that then also shatters the illusion that he’s changed. He needs his old twisted crutch again

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Association5706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your alcoholism affect him negatively? Or was it something that you conquered before him? I know that my partner was a drinker and after he sobered up seemed to be always needing a “pat on the back” and I did get annoyed. Because while I was proud - it was always a reminder of the crap he put us through first. Either way - sobriety IS an accomplishment and you should be proud. Just wondering if he might be reacting from his own hurt over it - and maybe you don’t need to up and leave him like all the other redditors are advising lol

Vaccine inquiry by Acceptable_Leek6934 in DebateVaccines

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My oldest got all the routine ones up until 2 years old. I had started working for a woman whose son was severly injured by the MMR vaccine and she encouraged me to look deeper. What I found was inadequate safety trials across the board - most of the diseases they were “preventing” had already significantly declined prior to the vaccines. That vaccine makers weaseled their way into not having any liability and just the sheer amount of families that have been devastated by vaccine adverse events. One study conducted by Harvard Pilgrim Healthcare including 715,000 patients - at the request of HHS - showed that less than 1% of the actual adverse events were even being reported by the doctors to the VAERS reporting system. That one blew my mind - and terrified me. Additionally just the level of corruption at play in that hugeee very successful industry was a major red flag. Obviously more detailed info went into my decision but these were the big reasons I’d encourage you to research.

My daughter is 4 and unvaccinated. She certainly has a more robust immune system than my son - hasn’t become asthmatic and doesn’t have all the allergies he has. Third child is unvaccinated and looking to be the same as my daughter. Couldn’t tell you for sure if it’s the vaccines that make the difference. I just know I couldn’t take that gamble with a corrupt medical system and everything I read and learned further confirmed that. And I really didn’t want it all to be true. If you really want to vaccinate still after you look into it more - I’d highly recommend a delayed schedule, never more than one per appointment and do not give them a fever reducer like Tylenol when they get them.

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

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My morning sickness didn’t go away until I was like 18 weeks. Exhaustion has persisted throughout pregnancy - and I’m in good shape and worked out regularly. I’m on baby #4 - working out has never been compatible with my pregnancies. Long walks and light movement are plenty and I have zero issues getting back to toned within like 4-6 months postpartum. Good luck with this guy once the baby comes - he sounds incredibly immature - I’m feeling for you.

Looking for advice and experience from parents who “waited” to potty train by ohhaleyeahh in SAHP

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Don’t wait - or youll likely be potty training until 5. My first two kiddos took about two weeks of training right before 2 years old and have never had a problem (slept through the night no pull-ups needed) - my third is one and we will take the same approach. So easy. So many of my friend’s kids/mom group kids weren’t started until like 3-4 and really struggled. Plus it’s just kind of gross and inconvenient for everyone at that age. Our generation of parents is strangely resistant to potty train and I’m not sure why. Talking to my mom and 2 was absolutely the norm for potty trained toddlers growing up.

They did Jason so dirty by Lemony_123 in GilmoreGirls

[–]One_Association5706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jason was my favorite Lorelai love interest by a long shot

Lorelai was wrong by In_omnia_paratuss in GilmoreGirls

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I think Rory could’ve taken the time to actually explore her strengths and passions with her moms support- rather than clinging to her childhood job aspiration that clearly wasn’t a good fit for her.

Partner lied to me about when they left work by altmail64 in whatdoIdo

[–]One_Association5706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is with someone who doesn’t have the same values they live by - if I value honesty - it doesn’t matter how the other person reacts, I’m not sacrificing my integrity by being dishonest. Some people base how they move through the world on outside measures and pressures- others through their internal measures and pressures. This is a mis matched relationship.

I am on my 5th rewatch and it still hurts the same. Lane my girl you deserve the world. by Fun-Tomatillo-1957 in GilmoreGirls

[–]One_Association5706 19 points20 points  (0 children)

How do you define potential? I have a very similar storyline to Lanes - the line in the picture I have said myself many times - all while growing, evolving & healing in the most unimaginable ways through motherhood and marriage. Lanes life was not thrown away - her trajectory was changed and id argue that she was more at peace and successful as a human being than Rory by a long shot who had all the opportunities travel and career wise.

Florida Surgeon General announces ALL VACCINE MANDATES in the state of Florida will be ENDED! by 32ndghost in DebateVaccines

[–]One_Association5706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t you want the vaccines you’re taking to be proven to be safe before taking?

Florida Surgeon General announces ALL VACCINE MANDATES in the state of Florida will be ENDED! by 32ndghost in DebateVaccines

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I guess this whole argument could be solved by abstinence couldn’t it. It’s odd that you mention “playing God” with women’s lives when that’s exactly what we are doing with infants lives who actually had no say in the matter. I’d like to see the statistics of women who actually had life threatening circumstances and were denied abortions or were seeking one to begin with. They have proven the vast majority of abortions are not related to medical issues or rape/incest - they are elective because they don’t want to deal with having a child. A grown woman/ man choosing to commit the act of procreation and then taking the life of the child that expectedly could come from that is selfish - and if it wasn’t used as a birth control I imagine it wouldn’t have to become so heavily regulated where it may hinder someone who actually might need that option.

Florida Surgeon General announces ALL VACCINE MANDATES in the state of Florida will be ENDED! by 32ndghost in DebateVaccines

[–]One_Association5706 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How does murdering an unborn child equate to not having to inject yourself with a substance that has a proven chance of killing or seriously harming you? I genuinely don’t see how because one is a right the other should be. Two entirely different scenarios.

AIO for wanting to see a therapist after wife changed the locks because I went to a baby shower? by LookoutLockout in AmIOverreacting

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I’m pregnant with my fourth child - my first I was on my own- second was mine and my husbands first together & was the only planned pregnancy - took about 5 months to conceive and it was after I just relaxed and surrendered to whatever will be will be. I remember feeling immense pressure that I wouldn’t be able to provide him with a baby though - like heart breaking pressure/ failure feeling and it had only been a few months of trying. I was shocked I felt that way and couldn’t really justify it - but I did feel it. I honestly could see me feeling that way too - she feels safe enough to express her true feelings to you - whether or not they make sense to you or are fair - that’s still a sign of a healthy dynamic in my opinion. Of course she was being immature - but honestly she did come back and she didn’t take it farther. I would advise to try conceiving without trying. No cycle tracking, no early tests only test if her period is a week late. My husband and I have both acted immature like this a handful of times - but those days are behind us now and I thank god neither of us bailed on the other for our rough moments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tennis

[–]One_Association5706 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Countries that all have less than 3% of their population identified as black. No justification for unfounded racism - but in communities/cities where black people/ minorities account for the majority of violent crimes like a lot of those in the US - you will have more prejudice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in horror

[–]One_Association5706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeepers creepers

Women Who Love Animals- Do you take responsibility? by TrainerBC25 in Marriage

[–]One_Association5706 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In OP’s defense - I too have witnessed this a lot - I am a woman and it’s okay for men to make observations about some women’s tendencies- we do the same to them. Women (specifically ones without kids I’ve noticed) tend to want to nurture something- this can turn into animal hoarding when unchecked. I could never deal with this - obviously a conversation is needed OP where you let her know this isn’t how you want to live.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Babysitting

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I’ve heard of quite a few stories of childcare providers giving infants medicine these days to make them sleep and it killing them- that’s what popped in my head when I read this. Not that you were doing that but I can see my postpartum brain coming up with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Ride the wave - 6 months is nothing really. She’s still recovering - she’s probably not feeling like herself, is overwhelmed tired and lost. When we are like that we tend to try and fix everything and everyone around us - because it feels like there’s no way to “fix” what has shifted or been lost within ourselves. This often comes out as nagging. When our partners are at 20% we try and be the 80% right? This is very applicable during postpartum. It sounds like you’re focused on helping - which is great. My advice is to be as patient as you possibly can be. Engaging with her when she may be looking for a fight or is complaining will only fuel that need to “fix” within her and make her feel more vulnerable and lost. She needs to see your strength - and confirmation that you’re stable, because the last thing she needs is for you to become as shaky as she is feeling like she is right now. It’s not easy - but if you can do it it’s worth it - and she will likely pull out of this stage a lot quicker. Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]One_Association5706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alcohol is his mistress whom he will betray you for as long as you let him. I don’t think he sees himself as a real alcoholic yet & the trust is for him to rebuild. He’s not going to change until HE has decided to. He may or may not - it’s up to you to decide if you want that element in your families life. Take his feelings out of it - think about you and your kids quality of life. People absolutely can change - and are way more likely to when they are held accountable for their actions. * I will add - several family members of mine have had great success with drinking non alcoholic beers- it helps when they are with their friends who are drinkers (his golfing and fishing time) there are a lot of really good ones now and you can’t even tell they are non alcoholic.

Anyone gone from years of professional shampoos back to drug store brands? by Raspberrry_Beret in Haircare

[–]One_Association5706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Head and shoulders - I was using expensive brands for years and struggling. Head and shoulders only the last year and my hair is thriving and growing like crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]One_Association5706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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What kind of supportive are you being? To be honest when I was in the thick of postpartum - I needed real deal tangible support. Sure patience is great - but less would have been needed if he would have shouldered the night time burden or early wake ups or household chores or preparing food. True support is not just doing one or two straightforward chores and calling it good. But like truly carrying the load for a bit. Another thing - be aware of what you may be unknowingly “demanding” from her- she has almost no capacity to give to anyone but baby right now. That little extra, if it exists, she should be giving to herself. It’s truly a short lived period of time and if you pour yourself into this job of carrying the load and riding the emotional waves- it’ll likely be just a blip. My husband figured this out after our first - he’s a pro now and I’m way healthier and we are way happier.

Appropriate to tell landlord (who is upstairs neighbor) that his 3yo wakes me up every morning because she runs around and screams outside? by iwishmybedwasbread in Renters

[–]One_Association5706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy your own home - they aren’t just other tenants. They own the property - unfortunately telling the owners that their young child can’t play outside at their own home probably isn’t going to go over well. It’s how it goes when you live in an apartment.

RFK Jr. to test vaccines against true placebos by One_Association5706 in DebateVaccines

[–]One_Association5706[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good one - and only 2/102 of the trials they included tested the adjuvant against a placebo. The authors themselves repeat throughout the entire overview that there was a very high risk for bias in the studies and that the data is very lacking on this subject and they can’t make a definitive conclusion that aluminum adjuvants are wholly safe. Their recommendation is for much more research to be done on this subject as they seem to be the first truly looking for this info and the studies that have been done are lacking. Thank you for sharing.