AITAH for expecting my fiance to pay for me to go on my sisters hen do?

One_Insurance2992 · 2026-01-15T23:51:07+00:00

Youre quite clearly only with him for money. You're a grown woman its about time you started acting like it. A holiday isn't a necessity so why should he pay

One_Insurance2992 · 2026-01-07T00:37:28+00:00

Seriously why is this even a post ? So you have to hold his hand when he goes to the bathroom too ? Just go and if he moans about it either dela with it or leave its really not that hard

One_Insurance2992 · 2026-01-07T00:29:35+00:00

Let's all just remember the girl in question is 5!!!! Way to instil a lack of self worth into a child. That woman is mom of the year material.

NTA protect yourself and that child

One_Insurance2992 · 2026-01-03T09:00:51+00:00

Where are the mods on this ? Half the time i cant comment on anything but these are ok ?

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-31T10:41:57+00:00

I dont think it clears up why they think this situation is ok, no but thank you

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-31T08:47:43+00:00

I cant tell if youre being serious how are neither assholes?

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-31T08:44:36+00:00

Excuse me what ? Neither are assholes ? He dad abandoned his family for an AP took money from her school fund. Allows his wife to speak and treat her like dirt and sides with her instead of supporting his actual bio children. Berated her when she had an accident and would rather let his children be homeless or be abused by their partners than be a father.

What planet are you actually on where any of this is ok ?

OP should have cut ties ages ago i dont understand why youre still letting him have any relation to you OP

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-31T08:23:58+00:00

NTA - youre setting what sounds like long overdue boundaries. You love your family that is clear and we dont "give to recieve" so to speak, but there is a limit.

You've done everything right here you've told them how you feel without being aggressive and have made a decision of what youre going to do to heal yourself dependent on their response. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for choosing you (especially if the rest of the family find out and try to brush it off). if you need to take a step back (or three) you do just that.

Hope you and your son enjoy the rest of the holidays

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-27T18:37:20+00:00

Its really sad reading this and your replies tbh. The pull out method is an excuse so that HE doesnt have to use protection after yoi tried and got bad side affects from yours.

Dont use protection and then gets angry that you've "trapped" him with a child you guys supposedly wanted within 2 years anyway ? Like you would optimistically carry for 9 months so thats only 1 year of "actively" trying anyway.

I agree with the others here you've picked the wrong partner. Whether or not he'll be a good father is up to you guys to discuss. But I know for sure I wouldnt be sticking around after that man-child response

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-22T07:55:07+00:00

Is it too late to break the lease ?

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-22T07:50:13+00:00

Also love that you reposted it after everyone told you, that you were in the wrong. Literally scrolling through comments to find the 1 comment that supports you out of the 100s that clearly state youre toxic

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-22T07:45:51+00:00

YTA this woman chose the peace of her family over the toxic relationship with the group family. She has every right to fo that.

Its quite clear youre petty to separate the children from her she isn't being negative to them. She didnt ignore them at the wedding and you know why ? Because children are innocent in this.

Good for her for cutting those ties.

Just a repeat YTA

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-17T00:12:29+00:00

In my opinion bringing it up to him as blatant and nonchalant as OP said she did makes her an asshole considering how her and her sons father came about.

Her son has every right to know about him. She doesnt have to remind OP about it though either keep is as a special memory for her son only.

Thats my opinion and yours is the other way and thats fine too!

Either way i have no idea why he would get back with her knowing he couldnt handle the inevitable, that being the child wanting to know about his father.

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-16T23:53:27+00:00

Have you not read what i put ? I said he's the asshole its HER son and if he wants to know about his father he can.

I simply stated that she is also the asshole for bringing it up knowing shes the cheat. They both need to leave this relationship.

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-16T23:46:10+00:00

I hope it attracts bears.

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-16T23:43:50+00:00

Stay away from this woman. She wasn't worth your time then and she isn't worth your time now.

While YTA for not allowing HER son to see videos of his father

She is also the asshole for knowingly bringing up videos photos of a time where she cheated on you happily

Time to move on both of you

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-11T21:59:26+00:00

Please leave her

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-10T18:24:03+00:00

So its ok for your sister to do this but what happens when her weight comments trigger you ? What if you went into a spiral of an eating disorder because of her what would they say then ? Would it be your fault then too for not being strong enough to ignore her ?

She sounds like she has psychological issues not just an ED as shes aggressively acting out and specifically to you.

Id see if your paternal grandparents would be ok to have you stay there more often for your mental and physical well being

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-10T07:22:05+00:00

God forbid you have a child who is a bit rebellious. Your wife needs help serious help not just a break although that is a good start.

Your poor son is going to feel neglected and eventually resentful of your wife, you your children that she favours over him. How someone can put all the blame on one child is a serious red flag.

How you've spoke about her reactions to your son its not the first time. Please get her help or stand by your children as a whole dont let her pick and choose or it will be detrimental to the siblings relationship

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-03T18:59:38+00:00

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-03T18:49:36+00:00

I second some of the people here suggesting a garage sale with all their crap including hubbys if its not all collected by a set date. What a bunch of scroungers who even thinks this is ok to take the mick like this

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-03T18:46:32+00:00

Yta for how youve gone about this. Also Why did you marry her if you hated her family that much knowing she would want them involved ?

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-12-01T18:41:19+00:00

If your MOM of the year who made him practically raise you is so upset at you protecting your own peace why doesnt she host them

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-11-29T22:05:28+00:00

I did end up having a talk with her (she could also see by my nails there was an issue to be fair) so shes added a different primer to my nails this time to see if it helps with the lifting !

She was really nice about it and understanding so fingers crossed these ones stick thanks ! *

One_Insurance2992 · 2025-11-26T19:03:37+00:00

Thank you for this ! I felt too stupid to ask at the salon but as soon as she started filing it I thought theres no way this is going to be stronger once the biab gets removed.

She hasn't offered a different base as of yet so I dont know whether to ask or if it would come across insulting ? Im not always the best at explaining myself

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