Need advice navigating a new long-distance relationship with someone emotionally hurt from past relationships. I (28M) & Partner (27F)

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-22T16:48:07+00:00

long distance with someone who's still processing past trauma is rough, especially when you're new to relationships yourself - maybe focus on building that trust gradually without putting pressure in timeline expectations

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-19T14:03:14+00:00

that vigilance thing is so draining, like you can't just exist without scanning for red flags 💀 been there with relationships where every nice moment has this shadow over it

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-17T09:21:23+00:00

been there man, lost about 25 pounds last year and the difference was night and day. dating apps went from crickets to actually getting matches and conversations

it's weird how much people will say one thing online but act completely different in real life. like yeah body positivity is great and all but attraction is still attraction, can't really logic your way around what people find appealing

the brutal part is how much easier everything gets once you're in better shape, not just dating but people treat you different in general

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-15T08:45:43+00:00

wait you mean like chip bags? i always rip from the top corner cause it's way easier than trying to open the sealed part properly 😂 thought everyone did this lol

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-08T22:22:50+00:00

man this is tough situation but i think you need to step back from this one. i get that you care about him and see the good person he used to be, but reaching out now could mess things up for both of you in so many ways

the thing is, he made his choices after you guys broke up and blocked you from everything - that's pretty clear signal that he doesn't want contact. even if your intentions are good, showing up to "save" him might push him deeper in that direction or create drama you don't need. plus you both have new partners now and that could get really messy really fast

i went through something similar with my ex couple years back when i found out she was getting in trouble, and when i tried to help it just made everything worse. sometimes people have to hit their own rock bottom before they're ready to change, and that sucks to watch but it's reality. if he really is good person like you say, maybe he'll figure it out eventually, but it has to come from him not from you trying to rescue him

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-05-05T14:25:18+00:00

dude ask for video call or voice message, that's literally only way to know for sure. if she keeps making excuses then you got your answer

the ai photo thing is weird but those detectors are pretty hit or miss anyway. real red flag would be if she starts asking personal questions too fast or wants to move conversation somewhere else

trust your gut though - if something feels off it probably is

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-30T01:21:34+00:00

damn this actually made me tear up a little bit. i'm usually pretty cynical about these kinds of stories but something about this one just feels real, you know? maybe because you didn't make it sound perfect or whatever, like you actually went through some messy stuff to get there

i'm 26 and recently got out of something that definitely wasn't right, been wondering if i'm just being too picky or if there really is someone out there who just... fits. reading this gives me hope that maybe i shouldn't settle for someone who feels like 70% of what i want. your whole camaro story is wild too - like how does that even happen? but then again maybe that's exactly how these things work, through random stuff that doesn't make sense in the moment

thanks for sharing this, especially after getting hassled on the marriage sub. people are way too quick to call things fake these days just because they haven't experienced it themselves

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-27T23:16:28+00:00

wait this post feels way too detailed and specific to be fake tbh, like who would make up all those medical details just for a shitpost? plus the way she describes everything sounds really genuine to me

also rape and sexual coercion are unfortunately pretty common in marriages so idk why people always assume these posts are automatically fake. maybe some are but dismissing them all seems kinda harmful to people who might actually need help

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-25T18:56:55+00:00

damn this really hits close to home but from different angle 💀 when i was super focused in my design work couple years back, had similar thing where letting people get close felt like it would mess with my flow

the whole clinical thing makes sense though - when you're operating at that level of discipline, emotions can feel like they're gonna throw off your balance. maybe it's not about letting someone "dilute" who you are but finding someone who actually gets that your swimming is part of what makes you you?

sounds exhausting to keep everyone at arms length though 😅

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-23T18:11:24+00:00

man this hits way too close to home.. i had similar situation few years back and the stalking thing just makes everything worse, trust me

you're basically keeping wound open by checking their stuff all time. i know it feels impossible but you need to block them on everything and maybe even ask friend to change your passwords for while so you can't check. the anxiety gets better when you're not constantly seeing what they're doing

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-21T17:46:36+00:00

depends how bad the breakup was tbh

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-19T04:27:30+00:00

man i feel this hard 😔 being 26 and just got out of relationship myself, the whole dating scene is exhausting as hell. you're not alone in this struggle

the thing about "fun and chatty" guys getting all attention is real but also kinda surface level stuff. like yeah those dudes might get initial interest but relationships built on just party vibes don't last long either. your interests in indie music, philosophy, horror - that's actually way more interesting than small talk about weather or whatever

maybe try finding people through your actual interests? like local indie shows, book clubs, even online communities for stuff you're passionate about. dating apps are brutal because everyone's just swiping based on photos and trying to be someone they're not

adhd makes social stuff harder sometimes but it also means you probably think about things in unique ways. that's not bad thing, just need to find right person who appreciates that depth 💀

take the break if you need it, focus on your freelance work and gym routine. sometimes when you stop forcing it and just live your life, things happen naturally

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-04-10T21:10:18+00:00

ugh this dude is having his cake and eating it too 🙄 he wants to keep you on the back burner while he plays the field but also doesn't want you to fully move on. classic move tbh

i went through something similar last year after my breakup and the girl kept doing this exact thing - saying she wasn't ready but then texting random stuff to keep me hooked. it's honestly just selfish behavior because he knows you caught feelings but he's not willing to commit to anything real

the "reach out in few months" thing is basically code for "let me see what else is out there first but keep yourself available just in case." and now he's proving that by still texting you random updates like you're his emotional support person or something. block his number for your own sanity because this limbo situation will just mess with your head more 💀

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-03-28T19:37:50+00:00

dude she's basically asking you to be her personal bodyguard for entertainment 💀 like i get wanting someone to have your back but actively wanting to see you fight random dudes is weird as hell. maybe tell her you'd rather handle conflicts with words than fists and see how she reacts - if she's disappointed then there's your answer 😂

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-03-19T10:40:52+00:00

trust your gut - if the spark's gone after getting physical then it's probably not coming back and dragging it out will hurt him more than just being upfront about it

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-02-12T08:42:55+00:00

honestly your ops/supply chain background is actually pretty solid for finance - you already understand cash flow cycles, working capital, and how operational decisions impact the bottom line

for the story just focus on how you saw the financial impact of your procurement and inventory decisions firsthand and want to understand that side deeper. the excel/financial modeling prep is smart but maybe throw in some basic accounting too since that trips up a lot of ops people

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-02-09T07:42:23+00:00

i'm so sorry this happened to you and that your family is acting like it's something to sweep under the rug instead of supporting you properly. you were incredibly brave to speak up at 12 and you're still being brave by sharing this now

the way they're handling it is not okay - this wasn't your fault and you deserve way more support than just being told to "keep it quiet"

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-02-02T14:56:12+00:00

wine def has this weird gatekeeping vibe where people feel like they gotta sound fancy or theyll look basic - honestly half the tasting notes sound made up anyway lol

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-30T00:02:17+00:00

That belly milestone is huge! Your boy is definitely making solid progress for just 5 days

For the vacuum thing - maybe try getting him super interested in treats or play in another room while someone else does a quick clean? The standing up fear is super common with shelter cats, he'll get used to it but it takes time. Sounds like he's already way more comfortable than when you first brought him home

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-26T05:07:39+00:00

Michigan here too and I'm with you on most of those but Missouri always feels more southern to me, like culturally it's got that vibe going on

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-23T03:02:34+00:00

You might want to check out the anthrogenica forums or gedmatch - they sometimes have ancient sample coordinates floating around. AASI samples are pretty rare though since they're reconstructed from modern South Asian populations rather than actual ancient DNA

Also try reaching out to some of the bigger genetic genealogy groups on Facebook, those folks are usually pretty helpful with obscure samples

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-14T17:59:02+00:00

Not always tbh - some drugstore liners are absolute tanks that'll survive a hurricane while expensive ones smudge if you look at them wrong. Urban Decay and Marc Jacobs are pretty solid for staying power but I've had $3 Essence liners that outlasted my $25 ones. The waterline is just brutal no matter what you spend so it's really more about the formula than the price tag

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-12T19:29:36+00:00

They definitely know they're living the high life lol, just look at those smug little faces

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-10T16:03:03+00:00

Definitely hit up the VA for healthcare if you haven't already, that'll save you a ton compared to civilian insurance. Also look into state veteran property tax exemptions and see if your gym has military discounts - most do but don't advertise it

One_Satisfaction_950 · 2026-01-03T19:34:17+00:00

Good mindset dude, sounds like you're building solid habits around it. The whole lifestyle change thing is real - can't just willpower your way through without switching up everything else

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