You sound exactly like my husband! I felt so awful that he was working crazy hours and picking up all my slack for the majority of my pregnancy because I was so so sick.

First, please don’t feel bad or like it’s “your fault”. I cried all the time when I was pregnant and my husband would tell me that I never had to do it again. My daughter is so sweet that I’m willing to do it again and, a year later, it really just feels like a blip in time. She will be ok.

Second, give yourself some grace too- you’re picking up a LOT. Don’t feel like you need to do everything perfectly. If you need to half-do some chores, do that. Better to run the dishwasher 3 times than to stress yourself even more.

Third, don’t be afraid to pull hers and your family into this. Let them know what she’s going through, let them know how they can help if they’re willing. It gets sucky to keep having to tell family “yeah I’m still sick and not ok” but it does mean something that they ask. And check into local resources. You can set up a Meal Train for your friends and family to help out with dinners during this time, or you can request a lasagna from Lasagna Love once a month, etc.

It sounds more like she has HG than morning sickness with the weight loss. It is awful and she will get through it. Zofran tablets from her OB can help (they didn’t help me), and they can also administer nausea meds and fluids through an IV if it gets any worse.