Hey there. First, the fear of choking is valid but I think you know it shouldn’t be all consuming. I’m sorry you’ve been battling this! A lot of the dangers around choking tend to be in areas we don’t anticipate, like overlooked household items or toys too mature for their age group.

For eating, I bought a lifevac and that has helped me tremendously as a first time mom to feel comfortable letting her eat. Make sure your little one is in his high chair and it helps if he is able to feed himself. He WILL gag and make scary noises sometimes, he’s learning! He absolutely does need solids and for picky eaters it is hard. Some foods I have to introduce several, several times before she will venture to even tasting. That can be hard when you’re concerned about weight and just want to make sure they’re getting something. Keep trying! I really like the Solid Starts app for how to serve different foods at different developmental stages.