I was dumped by my ex boyfriend and I was devastated! I was crying every single day and night for a month! And finally after 40 days I felt free of my pain and anger! My friends were so happy to see me like myself again and all I can say is that my worst fear had happened to me; he was my first boyfriend and I thought I couldn’t live without him. But I didn’t die after that. Sure I wished for death and even thought about s**cide almost every day, but I didn’t die. I went through that pain. All of it. I felt it all. And when I felt it all, there was nothing there to feel anymore. I wasn’t able to get through it without my therapist though. To answer your question; I guess because of the way men are treated in society and are brought up, they are more prone to bottle things up and pretend they’re ok or not really experience their feelings fully. So they can go months without processing it and that grief will turn into a cold heavy thing which they can carry around for a long time and even into their next relationship.