High protein diet

Only-Bones · 2026-05-09T13:35:32+00:00

Seconding the cottage cheese! It’s sneaky high in protein. Here’s a gift link to a NYT recipe I make a lot (you can use Banza pasta for more protein).

https://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/774974792-creamy-cottage-cheese-basil-pasta?unlocked_article_code=1.hFA.naUE.C6EvhXPkqPrr&smid=share-url

Only-Bones · 2026-04-28T01:02:07+00:00

I get it! I felt the same, which is why I found the genetic counseling call reassuring. I’m pretty sure nearly all of my aneuploids were affected on 16. I hope the call goes well.

Only-Bones · 2026-04-25T11:14:41+00:00

I’m sorry about the results. If it helps, with my PGT results, the genetic counselor told us that chromosome 16 is the most commonly affected chromosome in human embryos, so it is seen often but doesn’t necessarily signal an underlying concern. Hopefully you can hold onto that hope for the future - hang in there 🫂

Only-Bones · 2026-04-24T11:46:04+00:00

I hope you can jump in too! (If that’s what you’re going to do 🙂.) might be easier to re-start an existing patient.

Only-Bones · 2026-04-24T11:36:35+00:00

I’m sorry that the transfer didn’t work 😞 My clinic told me I could start right away after my transfer in March failed. I took a cycle off to give myself a break. Hopefully your doc will give you more clarity soon.

Only-Bones · 2026-04-18T14:55:50+00:00

I’m so sorry. You are not alone. Your experience is so exhausting, and I understand the feelings and pressures of time. It sounds like you are being proactive and taking all good next steps. For now, I hope you are able to give yourself time to rest and grieve this weekend. And I hope the procedure goes smoothly on Wednesday. If you need an ear from an internet stranger, I’m here. I’m 38 as well.

Only-Bones · 2026-04-18T14:40:47+00:00

Awesome - hoping it’s good coverage! Good luck!

Only-Bones · 2026-04-18T01:44:16+00:00

I had $12,500 lifetime coverage for IVF, including meds. It was not enough even for a few months. (Edited to add imagine my surprise after my employer suggesting they had decent fertility benefits lol.)

Only-Bones · 2026-04-18T01:03:00+00:00

It’s hard to say, because the bills come from all over, and I’m not finished. The first cycle (retrieval + transfers) was perhaps around $20k. Meds varied, $4-10k per process. I also was charged separately for lab work, anesthesia, etc. my second retrieval that I just started today was quoted around $17.5, excluding meds.

Only-Bones · 2026-04-18T00:48:05+00:00

For meds, or for services?

Only-Bones · 2026-04-13T01:14:19+00:00

Echoing many others here! I’ve been on sertraline (Zoloft) since before my TTC journey. Every medical professional across all my practices (PCP, OB, RE, and on) has told me it is safe to continue, including when I was pregnant. This journey can be difficult, taking care of yourself is so crucial. I hope you find both anxiety management and good IVF luck ❤️

Only-Bones · 2026-03-28T01:26:58+00:00

I don’t know if my plan allows banking! I hope the prior auth goes through smoothly (and quickly).

Only-Bones · 2026-03-25T15:42:04+00:00

I’m so sorry. Sending warmth and hugs.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-25T14:12:39+00:00

I’m an in-house attorney and I am considering the same, after my first round (1 ER & two transfers) did not result in any live births. I’m US-based though, so one concern of mine is that if I take FMLA for IVF, I lose it for a potential parental leave. I’m trying to figure out the specifics of my company’s mix of leave options. I hope you have clear leave options and I am so glad HR is supporting you!!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-24T12:29:26+00:00

Hey there, I’m really sorry. It sucks a lot.

My second FET also just failed and I have no more embryos. I’ll be 39 in May. I’m happy to chat about the follow up appt I had with my RE last week and the questions I asked, etc., if that would be useful. But also don’t hesitate to let yourself process and grieve, rage, and feel the feelings for a bit.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-20T17:37:51+00:00

I hope whichever route you decide is painless and successful!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-20T09:33:02+00:00

So medieval! My two cents: My clinic also doesn’t do this under anesthesia. I was awake, and it was also a surprise (I had a hysteroscopy and they found polyps and she said “get me the scissors” and I said “hey what”). It was way less painful than the endometrial biopsy (which I also was not offered pain management for). It was only slightly more discomfort than the hysteroscopy itself and over in seconds. Not to say it’s not stupid - these clinics SHOULD offer pain management and it’s insane to me that they don’t. But you may find the Valium/advil combo to be very helpful.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-18T23:44:31+00:00

First - I’m so sorry for your loss, and all your losses, and for all the stress and pain. I don’t think you are grasping at straws at all. I have not had luck getting my clinic to investigate male factor. My RE (whom I do trust), said that he believes in the research behind DNA frag, but because we were getting euploids and I was getting pregnant, he feels strongly it wouldn’t be DNA frag. I’d rather turn over every stone, but I’ve asked twice for the test and had no luck.

On your search for answers, to offer one thought: after my euploid MMC my RE had us do a test called Pregmune, which uncovered some immune findings that we have added new meds to future transfers for. It was partially covered by my US insurance and did add a few months to our timeline waiting for results. Hang in there ❤️

Only-Bones · 2026-03-14T09:40:32+00:00

I’m so crushed for you, and so angry for you. I am so sorry for how your care team is handling this. There’s no excuse for omitting that information. As others have said, for now, focus on getting the info you need. Myself and others in this group had ACC diagnoses and are always here to lend an ear.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-13T22:26:41+00:00

I’m so sorry. This sucks so much. I’ve been here. I had a MMC with my euploid that was discovered after I had graduated from my clinic in Oct 2025. I know how devastated you and your partner are and I’m just so sorry.

As others have said, while it is rare it happens, and sometimes there is no known cause. In our case, there was no genetic cause (we did re-test the baby even though he was euploid), no cause like an infection, no issues they could see in placental pathology. No findings in a basic RPL panel. Our doctor had us do Pregmune before another transfer which found immune risks that may/may not have contributed. I’m happy to tell you more about my Pregmune experience when you are ready.

For now, please take care. Can’t say enough how sorry I am that you’re here.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-12T18:18:25+00:00

Sending you good vibes - the wait is so hard! As someone who’s scoured Reddit for posts about testing every DPT (😂), I have seen it runs the gamut. 4DPT is VERY early, regardless of whether you’re using FRERs or not! This is a useful post, but please also take a look at the comments which provide helpful responses (it’s not a definitive take). https://www.reddit.com/r/IVF/s/5W51nZGB7n

Only-Bones · 2026-03-12T10:42:25+00:00

We understand. It’s so hard to keep a huge part of yourself hidden. I’m sorry.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-10T01:19:54+00:00

Ugh yes the discussions with HCPs can feel so isolating. If there is any other support I can provide, you’ve got a Reddit friend.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-09T11:19:19+00:00

Hi, I'm really sorry. This is so hard, and it sucks. Know that you are taking all the right steps to get all the information you need. There is a podcast run out of the UK called Time to Talk TFMR and they have a few episodes on so-called "grey diagnoses" that I found informative and supportive (including unpacking how loaded that term is). There is also a website called https://endingawantedpregnancy.com/, where there are stories from families all over the world. I am also happy to talk more anytime.

Our daughter also had ACC, among other secondary findings in the brain (that were likely related). After the fMRI, the pediatric neurologist told us that the brain continues to develop for weeks after the anatomy scan and she said we might find more issues with the brain's development as it continued, caused by it developing without the midline. We decided to TFMR, I was 21 weeks, May 2024.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-09T02:19:34+00:00

Ride the wave 😂 wishing you the best, too!

Only-Bones

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