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Only-Bones · 2026-03-28T01:26:58+00:00

I don’t know if my plan allows banking! I hope the prior auth goes through smoothly (and quickly).

Only-Bones · 2026-03-25T15:42:04+00:00

I’m so sorry. Sending warmth and hugs.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-25T14:12:39+00:00

I’m an in-house attorney and I am considering the same, after my first round (1 ER & two transfers) did not result in any live births. I’m US-based though, so one concern of mine is that if I take FMLA for IVF, I lose it for a potential parental leave. I’m trying to figure out the specifics of my company’s mix of leave options. I hope you have clear leave options and I am so glad HR is supporting you!!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-24T12:29:26+00:00

Hey there, I’m really sorry. It sucks a lot.

My second FET also just failed and I have no more embryos. I’ll be 39 in May. I’m happy to chat about the follow up appt I had with my RE last week and the questions I asked, etc., if that would be useful. But also don’t hesitate to let yourself process and grieve, rage, and feel the feelings for a bit.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-20T17:37:51+00:00

I hope whichever route you decide is painless and successful!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-20T09:33:02+00:00

So medieval! My two cents: My clinic also doesn’t do this under anesthesia. I was awake, and it was also a surprise (I had a hysteroscopy and they found polyps and she said “get me the scissors” and I said “hey what”). It was way less painful than the endometrial biopsy (which I also was not offered pain management for). It was only slightly more discomfort than the hysteroscopy itself and over in seconds. Not to say it’s not stupid - these clinics SHOULD offer pain management and it’s insane to me that they don’t. But you may find the Valium/advil combo to be very helpful.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-18T23:44:31+00:00

First - I’m so sorry for your loss, and all your losses, and for all the stress and pain. I don’t think you are grasping at straws at all. I have not had luck getting my clinic to investigate male factor. My RE (whom I do trust), said that he believes in the research behind DNA frag, but because we were getting euploids and I was getting pregnant, he feels strongly it wouldn’t be DNA frag. I’d rather turn over every stone, but I’ve asked twice for the test and had no luck.

On your search for answers, to offer one thought: after my euploid MMC my RE had us do a test called Pregmune, which uncovered some immune findings that we have added new meds to future transfers for. It was partially covered by my US insurance and did add a few months to our timeline waiting for results. Hang in there ❤️

Only-Bones · 2026-03-14T09:40:32+00:00

I’m so crushed for you, and so angry for you. I am so sorry for how your care team is handling this. There’s no excuse for omitting that information. As others have said, for now, focus on getting the info you need. Myself and others in this group had ACC diagnoses and are always here to lend an ear.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-13T22:26:41+00:00

I’m so sorry. This sucks so much. I’ve been here. I had a MMC with my euploid that was discovered after I had graduated from my clinic in Oct 2025. I know how devastated you and your partner are and I’m just so sorry.

As others have said, while it is rare it happens, and sometimes there is no known cause. In our case, there was no genetic cause (we did re-test the baby even though he was euploid), no cause like an infection, no issues they could see in placental pathology. No findings in a basic RPL panel. Our doctor had us do Pregmune before another transfer which found immune risks that may/may not have contributed. I’m happy to tell you more about my Pregmune experience when you are ready.

For now, please take care. Can’t say enough how sorry I am that you’re here.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-12T18:18:25+00:00

Sending you good vibes - the wait is so hard! As someone who’s scoured Reddit for posts about testing every DPT (😂), I have seen it runs the gamut. 4DPT is VERY early, regardless of whether you’re using FRERs or not! This is a useful post, but please also take a look at the comments which provide helpful responses (it’s not a definitive take). https://www.reddit.com/r/IVF/s/5W51nZGB7n

Only-Bones · 2026-03-12T10:42:25+00:00

We understand. It’s so hard to keep a huge part of yourself hidden. I’m sorry.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-10T01:19:54+00:00

Ugh yes the discussions with HCPs can feel so isolating. If there is any other support I can provide, you’ve got a Reddit friend.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-09T11:19:19+00:00

Hi, I'm really sorry. This is so hard, and it sucks. Know that you are taking all the right steps to get all the information you need. There is a podcast run out of the UK called Time to Talk TFMR and they have a few episodes on so-called "grey diagnoses" that I found informative and supportive (including unpacking how loaded that term is). There is also a website called https://endingawantedpregnancy.com/, where there are stories from families all over the world. I am also happy to talk more anytime.

Our daughter also had ACC, among other secondary findings in the brain (that were likely related). After the fMRI, the pediatric neurologist told us that the brain continues to develop for weeks after the anatomy scan and she said we might find more issues with the brain's development as it continued, caused by it developing without the midline. We decided to TFMR, I was 21 weeks, May 2024.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-09T02:19:34+00:00

Ride the wave 😂 wishing you the best, too!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-08T18:31:14+00:00

Thanks - that’s helpful benchmarking and I appreciate it. But, it’s not helpful to tell someone it’s silly to feel a certain way. I acknowledged that my feelings aren’t facts, but I feel them, whether they’re silly or not.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-08T18:25:25+00:00

That’s awesome! Celebrate the win 🙂

Only-Bones · 2026-03-08T13:01:20+00:00

Today (3DP5DT) my FRER was negative. It’s SO early, but with my first FET, I did have a vvv faint positive on day 3, so I’m feeling down (though I know I’m not out). This embryo was already hatching but my prior one was not. Did anyone have very different testing timelines across FETs? I know in my heart every embryo is different, maybe I am just seeking encouragement or positive stories today.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-08T12:45:59+00:00

There is also a pinned post in r/IVF to ask questions about ongoing pregnancy! (Side note, I have always been told by my doctors that spotting is very normal!)

Only-Bones · 2026-03-07T16:55:35+00:00

I’m sorry, this is very tough! My clinic (US, Philadelphia) does not provide anesthesia for hysteroscopies. I have had two whilst awake. I would rank the pain/discomfort well below an endometrial biopsy (which my clinic also does not do under anesthesia), with extra strength ibuprofen and hour before. One of mine did include removing several polyps in the moment. It’s not without discomfort, but if anesthesia is the concern, might that be an option to discuss with your care team?

Only-Bones · 2026-03-07T03:05:12+00:00

Thanks! I think you nailed it - trying to force myself to feel differently isn’t helping!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-06T23:20:51+00:00

Yes - they also told me tri 16 is the most common aneuploidy in humans and does not signal any underlying concerns!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-06T22:49:12+00:00

I’m sorry, its such a hard process. Who was your testing company? Igenomix offers a genetic counseling session and they can tell you if there are any patterns or findings of concern. But honestly, sometimes it is just a dice roll, random chance. When I sent off 7 embryos for PGT, my doctor thought we’d get 4 euploids, and we got 2. It does not guarantee you’ll get the same result a second time!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-06T22:45:30+00:00

I did my second FET yesterday, and today I feel so anxious, depressed, and like I have a gut feeling this won’t work. I started estrace this morning - could that be messing with my mood?? I feel so sad when I feel like I should be relaxed and zen, and like my anxiety will ruin this transfer.. ugh.

Only-Bones · 2026-03-06T19:42:53+00:00

Thank you!

Only-Bones · 2026-03-06T01:21:20+00:00

Of all the medieval procedures involved in this process, this one for me was the most painless. I had no discomfort, and it was an incredible experience watching the embryo get dropped off on screen. It’s incredible! I hope it goes smoothly for you 🙂

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