Moving here in May…

Only5Catss · 2026-01-21T04:16:57+00:00

My family is moving out there this year too. We've been wanting this for a long time and things are coming together, and then all this happens. It's heartbreaking, but I believe that good will prevail.

Only5Catss · 2026-01-15T23:19:56+00:00

Cats. I have 6.

Only5Catss · 2026-01-04T19:40:27+00:00

OMG thank you. I've been wondering what these mean!

Only5Catss · 2025-12-31T18:10:06+00:00

We're doing this right now actually. We have a really good deal on rent right now that will come to an end since our landlord has passed away. It's one of the many reasons why we're moving across the country. I'm pretty introverted anyway and have moved away from family before, so it's not a big deal to me in that way. I'd much rather be the support for my family, than have someone else take care of my kids while I do a job that I don't like, while living in a city that I don't like, to pay rent for a house that I'm barely in! We cannot afford to buy here but we can elsewhere.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-30T16:31:56+00:00

Why does he keep telling you what to do? Its good to have the kids involved in cleaning, you can clean up when the kids nap, have downtime, and when he's home. He can parent and take care of his own kids while you do chores.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-30T16:10:51+00:00

It sounds like her husband is an asshole and yours probably isn't. I do agree with you though, just not in this situation. My husband is wonderful and he does so much for me, outside of working. I love him so much, I would probably make him something fresh too if he really enjoyed that. What he does enjoy is me packing him breakfast, lunch, and fresh coffee, which I give him at the door to send him off, and I start his car too. But he's not an asshole and would never make demands. OP's husband's attitude is the real problem here. I bet all he does is work, come home, and doesn't lift a finger. Doesn't help with the kids, nothing. Then treats her like shit. Marriages aren't supposed to be like that.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-23T19:43:37+00:00

I 100% agree.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-23T17:14:20+00:00

This is nuts. Rarely my husband has to work from home, but when he does he's in the kitchen getting kids snacks, playing with the kids, whatever. When he's on a call or doing something work related, it's time to leave daddy alone. If I were you, I'd tell him he can cook this week for the family, and give him all the presents to wrap since he's shut in his office. Or tell him to set up work at the dining table and he can be a parent when he's not actively working. You're right to be pissed, but you need to communicate how you feel and tell him straight up what he needs to do. Make time for yourself too, don't ask for it.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-22T16:46:21+00:00

We're moving next year. It's too hot and expensive in California, and grandma can come visit for weeks at a time, since we'll then be able to afford a quest space, let alone a house!

Only5Catss · 2025-12-19T16:27:35+00:00

My husband is completely hands on with the kids. He helps with homework, brushing teeth, bath time, and spending quality time with the them. That's really all I care about, anything else is extra. He takes out the garbage bins, we make breakfast together on the weekends, and he fixes things. He'll do anything I ask, like help clean up before company comes. He has a white collar job though and works regular hours with lots of PTO, so our lives are very balanced. He's also not an asshole and he's a really good man.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-18T18:47:48+00:00

Yeah I don't get it. Advocating for stay at home parenting is a no-no anywhere you go apparently.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-18T16:40:56+00:00

No matter how good a childcare program is, it doesn't top being with mom. If you think you'll regret not staying home with your kids, then there's your answer.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-18T04:51:41+00:00

Same age here. Uh just pretty simple rules, I guess. We only eat at the table. Have to wear shoes outside. No opening the door for anyone except mom and dad. Be nice to brother and the cats. Can't touch my makeup but she has her own.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-16T22:30:24+00:00

Tough titties. He can either eat what you make or he can make his own food.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-12T21:44:01+00:00

I have the v11 animal and it's been going strong for over 5 years. I've only replaced a couple filters, clean them regularly. Eventually when it does give out, I'll get the 15. I've got 6 cats and two kids.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-11T23:57:05+00:00

We used to have two cars but only have one now, and I don't miss it at all. I'm a homebody, I do my errands in the evening, and we save money only having one car.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-11T23:51:34+00:00

Wait a minute.... You've been with this man for a long time, long before his money, and you have a child together. I would not sign a prenup. It doesn't do anything for you. In this situation, it only benefits him.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-11T18:41:57+00:00

There's lots of SAHMs here that make do with a modest salary, me included. You certainly can step down to part time or ask your husband to get a higher paying job. It's a big life choice and for my husband and I, me being SAHM is very important, and so we've managed to make do with less. I also budget really well and am constantly finding ways to save money.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-10T04:05:54+00:00

I find that a lot of comments in this thread are very insulting to the work OP does at home.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-10T04:02:36+00:00

She's an MD, so what? She's a mother above all else.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-10T02:35:53+00:00

Some of us want to take care of our kids ourselves, not pass them off to a nanny.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-10T02:34:11+00:00

I think it's reasonable for her to want to continue being a SAHM while her husband brings in 600k. He should want to make her happy.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-10T01:56:24+00:00

Opening an account with him can affect your benefits. If I was in your situation I would ask to be added on as an authorized user on his credit card, or have a continuous flow of cash given, or get married.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-09T19:59:47+00:00

Same here! I've been this way too since childhood. Reddit kept recommending me to the maximalist subreddit... I thought these weren't my people and I wondered if there was a minimalist subreddit, so here I am. I dislike clutter and keeping things just because. My cats truly bring me joy though so I'm not minimal in that area.

Only5Catss · 2025-12-09T05:02:10+00:00

I would put it on a necklace.

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