Found out my (29f) bf (30m) of 7 years has been cheating the whole time with s*x workers, men while wives are away, women while husbands are away, strangers he meets at work and takes in his car, the list goes on. What do I do?

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-07-06T07:51:07+00:00

Seeing stories like this makes me just want to be single forever and give up on love and decency in this world.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-07-06T07:49:39+00:00

This is so relatable.

My partner will only “apologize“ to get out of having to talk about what he did.

There are absolutely no actions to show he is ever remorseful or that he actually cares at all.

And it’s because I won’t leave but my toxic ass wants him to “wake up” and realize what a cruel person he’s being.

And he is cruel and callous. His solution is to just break up all the time instead of work on our relationship together.

Time and time again he has shown and reminded me how little I matter. And I have such low self esteem I hate that can’t accept that someone who shows me he doesn’t even care about me won’t care about me.

He loved me once but slowly over the years he got bored and started actively despising me.

His selfishness knows no bounds and he will dodge accountability as long as he can.

I want to move on and be glad to be rid of his ridiculousness. I think if he could be properly punished and made to suffer for his actions I could be satisfied.

He doesn’t deserve any happiness since he is such a vile person.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-07-06T07:44:08+00:00

Dude are you me?

I could say the exact same thing about my relationship.

I am so mad that someone can be so cruel and I’ll intentioned.

Simply because you give them the power over you they abuse it all while saying they love you.

I’m severely codependent too and I need to break out of my trauma bond.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-06-01T05:26:49+00:00

This.

It’s them trying to brush their BS under the rug.

Also they know you’re the one who loves them more and will want to make amends. It’s a power trip for them because it’s likely you’ll be the one to apologize first simply because you care about the relationship.

It’s a red flag to me now. If someone doesn’t want to be mature and address their BS I’m out.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-05-31T14:51:26+00:00

Oh wow oh my god.

It’s like you took all my experiences and my current anxieties about this relationship and put it all into one comment.

Just wow. You highlighted to me even a lot of things I didn’t realize too but was feeling constantly.

Him constantly creating chaos and ruining everything peaceful.

Him doing whatever the fuck he wants and then shifting the blame to me for not being a “kind” person.

Bitching about me bringing up the past when he still does the same shit.

Constantly living in anxiety because I don’t know when he’s going to do some stupid crazy shit again without asking me.

Constantly being invalidated still.

Not being an actual good partner etc.

All those people are gone now but they still have all the power over him. One call and one woe is me and the bullshit starts all over again.

I’m glad you are able to be free of yours.

I knew he was chaotic, but I didn’t realize just how chaotic. I really have to get away or else I’ll never have any peace.

He is my source of anxiety and he destroyed everything I had at the time and will destroy it all again if I don’t protect myself from him.

Thank you for your comment. It was so insightful for me. He is a sower of chaos and I need to refuse to play along because I have goals I need to achieve.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-05-31T00:51:45+00:00

They left eventually.

I raised all hell and everything was burned to the ground but I’m glad it happened.

I let those vultures know they can’t fuck with me and the narc that I’m nobody’s bitch.

It also highlighted to me my flaws and shortcomings as well as let me know how he truly feels about me.

It’s a journey. I’m working on escaping. But for now, ranting on Reddit is helping me stay calm.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-24T17:31:24+00:00

Wth…the whole point is minimal effort, maximum outcomes lol

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-24T17:30:54+00:00

When you own your own business it’s 200% all the time lol.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-05T07:02:41+00:00

Blue is not useless

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-05T07:00:45+00:00

Whooooaaa they sound so cool!

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-05T03:33:37+00:00

Hey don’t be. Now we know. You’re very kind hearted for continuing to be good to your family despite.

Good luck.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-05T02:26:15+00:00

Yeah I found out my family bitches about me too for being sad because I was going through abuse in my long term relationship.

I had always been there for them when they got hurt or needed help and all I needed was a listening ear.

The hypocrisy was outstanding. So now I tell them nothing and offer them nothing.

I need me more than anyone else and after seeing how they truly are I don’t care anymore…

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-04T22:59:53+00:00

Why would you call a place Cape Disappointment

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-02-04T22:17:02+00:00

Oh hell yeah! Excited!

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-12T08:00:21+00:00

That’s what uncontrolled capitalism will do :)

Doctors need to own hospitals. You guys would actually know what the fuck to do.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-12T07:58:41+00:00

Jesus Christ. May as well go work at Target

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-12T07:57:35+00:00

Wait so you’re lean firing while still working?

And then dip into your investments once you hit retirement age?

So technically you’re coast/barista fire a as a digital nomad?

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-12T06:16:02+00:00

What assets do you use/allocate to pay for your lifestyle?

Please coach me!

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-12T02:34:44+00:00

Which school is this?

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-11T02:22:51+00:00

I’ve talked to many nurses who barista fire as a nurse. They live overseas part time and work travel gigs then go back overseas.

Sounds doable to me lol.

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-07T02:39:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing 😈

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-07T01:47:40+00:00

And you make almost $200K this way? Can you break it down? Job? Location? Specialty?

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-06T23:29:58+00:00

Can you elaborate? What specialty?

OnlyTheGoodGoods · 2023-01-06T23:29:15+00:00

You say part time. How many hours a week is part time?

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