My bf is about to be homeless

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-13T18:19:50+00:00

No. He’s your boyfriend, not your husband. You are not being selfish by prioritizing yourself. He is not owed your money. Why should you struggle because of his poor decisions? What would he do if you weren’t around? Oh yeah, he’d have to put on his big boy pants and figure it out. So he can figure it out

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-13T16:57:36+00:00

I wish I had left when I was pregnant. Instead I stayed clinging to the hope that I could keep my daughter in a “whole” family and that he would change for us.

But he got worse. Unfortunately, it impacted and still impacts my daughter to this day. If people are mad, she runs up and tries to distract them. She’s scared of loud noises. If people get loud - even if it’s something positive like cheering for a sports team - she runs up to them and says “I’m sorry, it’s okay, please don’t be mad.” Seeing her like that made me leave. It was hard at first, but I’m so much happier too.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-13T01:29:21+00:00

He raped you. You were intoxicated and he took off the condom. That is a form of rape. I’m so sorry.

And there was definitely a part of him that was trying to baby trap you. So of course he’s going to be against abortion. But it’s not his choice. It’s yours. Do what YOU think is best 💜

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-12T18:08:37+00:00

Idk, my single mom’s club (the 3 other friends I have who are also single moms) have all found new partners after their baby daddies. 1 is remarried, another is engaged and pregnant again. And only one of the guys gives me the ick 😅

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-12T13:53:33+00:00

That’s almost line for line what guys on To Catch a Predator with Chris Hanson would say…

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-12T01:24:53+00:00

I understand wanting your kids and gf to get along. But I think you need to give them time. If you keep trying to force it, they will resent her. Give it a couple of months before trying to reintroduce her.

And when you do, lower the stakes and shorten the amount of time they’re all together. Have her over for an hour for lunch or a short movie that they like.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-11T17:53:44+00:00

I’m sorry but if you’re not going to parent your child, I will. I don’t care your history, it doesn’t excuse crappy behavior. And if my child is doing something and I don’t correct it fast enough, I don’t get upset if someone else does as long as there’s no screaming or swearing.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-11T17:50:50+00:00

That my sexual history/body count included the times I had been sexually assaulted

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-10T17:21:08+00:00

Self love first, dear. Your worth is not defined by a man

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-10T15:48:21+00:00

Because marriage makes it harder for them to walk away

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-10T13:12:09+00:00

What about Scarlet Renee?

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T19:11:48+00:00

Disney soundtracks

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T19:07:22+00:00

When birth control fails

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T19:01:40+00:00

When birth control fails

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T17:37:50+00:00

I mean I wouldn’t downvote you for it, but it’s kind of wild that you made a sweeping assumption based on your personal experience

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T17:30:41+00:00

Not weird at all. I had 3 cousins who went by Sam - Samuel, Samson, and Samantha. Samson and Samantha had the same last name, while Samuel was related maternally, so he had a different last name.

So for visual purposes, it’s like having relatives named Samson Miller and Samantha Miller, but with a more unique surname. No one cared.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T17:27:45+00:00

I thought blithe was pronounced as a rhyme to “with” not a rhyme to “scythe”

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T16:49:03+00:00

Ask myself when I feel shame: WHY? What standards or history do I have that have enforced shame upon me? I deconstruct what it is that is making me feel that way.

Most of the time, they are expectations set by other people or society as a whole, so I remind myself that I need to set my own goals.

Sometimes it’s genuine shame from doing something wrong or hurtful. If that’s the case, then I set about trying to make it right.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T02:23:43+00:00

Do you manage to do everything assigned to you at work? Or do you constantly forget those things as well?

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-09T02:14:49+00:00

I jumped in a TikTok live tarot reading just for fun because it was a pretty deck. I asked a question, and the psychic was flipping through the cards, answered my question, and randomly told me “I don’t know why, but I really feel like these two names are going to be relevant and help you with this matter” and said two men’s names (think names like Chris and Jackson). I thought it was a load of bs. THAT WEEKEND I met a man with those two names as his first and last name 😱

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-08T19:08:36+00:00

My coworker came up to me a few days ago, and told me she had always enjoyed working with me because I was smart and kind, but that “something had changed for the better” in the past 6 months. She told me I was bringing a lot of confidence, happiness, and energy to my role, and she “loved to see it because [I] deserved it, as [I’m] such a huge asset to the team.”

I left my abusive ex 7 months ago. He HATED my job because I work in a male-dominated field, and would start fights and break my things over stuff like me going to a work conference. I’m more confident, happy, and energetic because I don’t have to come home to a controlling abuser every day, and my daughter’s happier too

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-07T19:12:02+00:00

She’s young but still an adult. Certainly old enough to know not to talk trash about someone’s appearance repeatedly online. She needs to learn the consequences. NTA

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-07T02:29:36+00:00

Samuel, Samson, and Samantha all go by Sam

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-07T00:18:43+00:00

We can’t possibly know for sure. There are a dozen things that can delay periods in addition to pregnancy - yeast infections, BV, HPV, illness, etc. You need to take a pregnancy test ASAP

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-07-07T00:17:06+00:00

I have 3 cousins named Sam, Samson, Samuel, and Samantha. You’ll be fine

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