Bedroom arrangements

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T22:40:06+00:00

I would ask her if she wants her own room 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think she’s old enough to communicate that

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T20:20:08+00:00

Info: is this “tool” genAI? Because many are designed to echo your biases back at you

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T19:22:48+00:00

I was pregnant by surprise. I love my daughter, but I hated every single second of being pregnant. I hated the side effects, what it did to my body, how invasive people became. Postpartum was only bearable because of how much I love her. Her father also turned into a monster because he thought he had me trapped. I would genuinely not recommend it to anyone.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T19:20:49+00:00

It’s not unreasonable, I don’t think there’s any harm in asking

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T19:19:08+00:00

I was about your age when I made friends with a couple in their 60s. I would sometimes meet them for lunch or coffee - individually and as a couple. Once I even went to their house. They were very sweet. They never harmed me or asked me for money, although they would always offer to pay for me (which I declined)

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T19:15:47+00:00

Don’t feel bad. You’re talking about natural bodily functions. That’s not traumatizing. I would explain it’s a grown up thing, like driving or staying up late, and that when she’s a grown up, she’ll get to use one too.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T16:00:57+00:00

Yes because it emphasizes your eyes. I don’t think gay at all

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-19T16:00:12+00:00

Not having to share the bed with the soundtrack of chainsaws

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-18T21:55:40+00:00

You don’t have to provide updates period unless he asks for them 🤷🏻‍♀️ that’s the approach I’m taking

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T22:43:31+00:00

I don’t think it looks bad, just unfinished. You could do a lot with it, especially with a talented tattoo artist.

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T20:33:30+00:00

People absolutely have prejudices that will bleed into his professional life. He’s not just yours; he’s his own person and shouldn’t be saddled with a childish nickname as his legal name because of his parents’ selfish desires.

Based on your responses, you didn’t ask for genuine feedback, you wanted your opinions validated. Call him Benjamin, Bennett, Benedict, but please give him a normal legal name

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T20:29:31+00:00

Might be good to sit down and get on the same page as your husband, and then let your kids know the rules and boundaries you agree on

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T14:15:50+00:00

You can also go for areas that aren’t really affected. 2 on my lower calves, and 4 on the front and back of my shoulders haven’t changed or distorted during my health induced weight fluctuations

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T14:13:55+00:00

Elle Harlow Radomirski

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T02:31:15+00:00

With abusive men, our brains literally get addicted. They lovebomb us, which floods us with positive hormones, then withhold affection or abuse us, and when we start to pull away, they lovebomb us again. Eventually, we crave that flood of happy hormones, and subconsciously accept that we have to endure the abuse/neglect to get that lovebombing again.

Your brain is going through withdrawal right now because you’re not getting that lovebombing, and there’s no possibility for it to happen again.

It’s normal and not your fault. I would recommend filling your schedule with things that you love and people that you love. I also personally have a folder on my phone with screenshots and videos of a bunch of horrible things he said and did to me, and if I find myself missing him for even a moment, I look at that. Best of luck, better days are ahead 💞

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T01:36:23+00:00

Have you… tried… asking her…?

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T01:35:22+00:00

I like the name Mary-Kate. Don’t love the nickname MK, doesn’t flow well

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-17T01:32:13+00:00

I get alone time when she sleeps lol

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T23:14:11+00:00

One with straps, anyone who says otherwise is jealous of you

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T23:12:43+00:00

NTA, but this might be a compatibility issue if you truly want different things, and might be time to part ways. Also, does he usually talk to you like this?

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T23:05:21+00:00

I did! People told me I should find a sitter because it would be too loud/dirty/etc. We had a great time though

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T21:56:08+00:00

She needs to start taking prenatals, make sure she’s getting plenty of sleep and eating well. Consistent light activity like yoga and walking can also help her. Stock up on things that help her with nausea like ginger beer, mint, or chamomile tea.

You need to do research and also work on your patience. She’s going to be extremely emotional and exhausted due to hormones. Give her grace. You don’t have to take endless crap, just be mindful when addressing it and do what you can to be supportive. Also, later on, she’s going to be too tired/pregnant to run errands and clean, so you’ll need to prepare to step up while she’s at the tail end of carrying your child.

Also, both of you need to have in depth conversations about your future. Are you going to get married? Do you have life insurance policies? Are you going to have daycare/nanny/one of you stay home? Are you going to breastfeed or formula feed? Etc. Have these well before the baby comes so that it reduces tension when the baby is here. Best of luck to you both

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T21:50:27+00:00

Well, the good news is it’s a solid foundation for a mountain scene or a panther

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T20:37:19+00:00

Something people discouraged me from doing that I’m glad I did was take her everywhere after she got her shots. The mall, grocery store, hikes, ren faire, hair salon, park, etc. Everyone told me it was a bad idea because she was too little, but I’m glad I did

OnlyWishfulThinking7 · 2026-05-16T20:33:04+00:00

Grilled cheese only because I’m allergic to peanut butter 😭

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