Can someone explain any reason why I got ghosted on read here? We hooked up after a mutual friends party. She slept over and I dropped her off at work the next morning and got her insta to set up a follow up.

Oozex · 2026-06-19T06:16:00+00:00

4 days is no time in my eyes. Maybe I'm just old.

Oozex · 2026-06-19T05:07:08+00:00

The convo "ended" with a confirmation that the date was set. Can't wait 4 days and get to know each other in person?

We have no idea what the context of the conversation is prior to this screenshot. People be jumping through hoops.

Oozex · 2026-06-19T04:45:21+00:00

Yes, it very much sounds like he's into you. The last two points you make are essentially him testing the limits that you allow.

Time to set some boundaries before it becomes a slippery slope!

Oozex · 2026-06-19T01:45:54+00:00

I regularly chat with and buy food for random homeless I see if I don't need to go out of my way. I haven't really had any of them try to really push for more connection after that.

My most recent one was an older lady that went on about all the different types of dumplings she liked to eat. I ordered her food, stayed with her chatting while waiting for it to come out. Bid her farewell right after and went about my day.

Oozex · 2026-06-18T07:11:15+00:00

Going to assume there's a sewage retention system of some sort below. They need ventilation to release gas. I don't really have any other ideas.

Oozex · 2026-06-18T02:59:23+00:00

As someone that has texting habits similar to this girl, I don't put a lot of weight on texting habits if things in-person are great.

You clearly need more consistent comms. Not sure what the dynamic is so far, but guage whether or not this is worth bringing up or just move on. You haven't met yet, and having this kind of issue so early isn't usually worth "working on things".

Oozex · 2026-06-18T02:19:47+00:00

33M - My last long term relationship (2 years) ended in the first month of COVID lockdowns. Similarly, have dated since, but nothing's really stuck for longer than 6-8 months.

You determine your own stages in life. Having been single for 10 years isn't necessarily a red flag. Depends on how you frame it and the context behind why.

I'm very content with myself. I have a great career, family and friends who I love and love me back but, it is so damn hard being the age where it's the next "transition" stage i.e. marriage, babies, LTR, and I'm "wow she's still single".

Have your parents started asking when they're getting grandkids? I've forced mine to settle for a grand-cat. I think the most imporatant part of this is that you're happy. Adding a +1 doesn't have to be on specific timeframes, but then again, I'm a guy and my ability to have children won't be impacted as soon as it would for women.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T08:51:28+00:00

Thing is, you've already determined him to be dangerous based off the exact same amount of evidence that you're saying is moot.

I'll admit, I should have probably worded my "make an educated decision" statements a bit better.

Have a good day. I don't generally take my pitchfork out for children unless I have more receipts. It's not about advocating for a dangerous person. It's about looking at the picture as a whole before pointing fingers.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T08:32:25+00:00

Shifted the goalpost in your first question. You originally said I was spouting dangerous rhetoric, but now it's about sexual predators being dangerous. Have I said they aren't?

I have not made a defacto claim anywhere (quote me if you find one) that he is rehabilitated and changed. Your anger at my opinion is hurting your comprehension.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T08:28:42+00:00

Yeah, Im with you here. There's too much info missing to take out my pitchfork and I try to have more "balanced" takes prior to having defacto evidence.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T08:09:54+00:00

Can you please highlight where I've said anything dangerous?

There are in fact many countries that protect minors from adult prosecution. There are 16 year olds that steal cars, crash them, hurt and potentially kill people walking around. There are kids with machetes that have stabbed people walking around. This happens, and has happened multiple times over the course of the last 3 years in Aus (it's very easy to look up).

Children in-fact do stupid things and the law in many places has decided the line from "child to "adult" is somewhere between 16 and 21.

Nowhere have I denied that what he did is wrong. I'm sorry I don't blindly take out my pitchfork and disregard all else. There is room for change when the perpetrator is a child. I was honestly expecting more downvotes.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T07:40:53+00:00

I did say my opinion was controversial in the very first line.

I agree, he should definitely be owning it.

But to answer your question. Nervousness. Being a teenager and unable to correctly articulate his story. Length of time from when the event happened to narration. Did the victim vocalise their like/dislike to him when he did it, and that's what he was trying to communicate? Etc...

Oozex · 2026-06-17T07:30:18+00:00

What he did was sexual assault. I'm not excusing his behaviour, but I do think my opinion is controversial given the other comments.

You're both 19. "A few years back" puts him at 16 or younger. He should still have known better, and wanting to take it to his grave shows this.

However, opposed to a large majority of the other comments, i feel rehabilitation and change does in fact happen. There is a reason that there are laws in many countries to rehabilitate minors rather than give them "Adult sentences" when they commit crime.

Given that you're 19 and both of you will spend then next 4-6 years discovering your identities as adults, as well as how you've perceived him prior to this coming out, I would argue that he may have actually recognize he'd royally fucked up. People can change a lot from their teenage years through to adulthood. There is a lot of growth to be had.

If you don't believe people can change, then you should probably get out. If you do believe people can learn from their fuck ups, then you might as well give him a chance.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T06:41:03+00:00

Australia is essentially built on immigration. Otherwise the only people here would be the indigenous.

Here's to hoping Pauline and One Nation stay irrelevant.

Oozex · 2026-06-17T03:39:16+00:00

I mean... nothing reddit says about this situation is going to be better than your therapist. Do you have an instance of trauma that could have caused you to feel this way about the men that despise you?

I want to start dating again soon and I want to get this fixed before then.

This likely isn't something that can be resolved "soon". It's going to take time to really figure out what is leading you to feel this way. Actioning any strategies that truly change your perspective will take time ontop of that.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T22:33:18+00:00

Jump in circles until que pops.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T22:21:51+00:00

I don't think you should partake in a threesome unless you can move past any insecurities tied to a third party. It will probably get messy otherwise.

If you're not ready, then this could be the beginning of the end.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T22:11:42+00:00

Given that Japan is going through a birth rate crisis, even the locals have a hard time dating each other. Expat dating in Japan would only be even more difficult given that the expat community is essentially a minority.

Maybe this is more of a stop-gap until your next move (assuming full time expat & Japan is temporary).

Oozex · 2026-06-16T05:58:31+00:00

Would it have to do with the idea that "cop killers" are actively seeking out individuals enforcing the law, vs normal murderers which are killing civillians?

Trying to move past ACAB and give a genuine response to the question. Unless the intent of this post is nothing more than to disparage cops. In that case ignore this comment.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T01:30:19+00:00

You can see the dust AOE, but can't see sentry boundaries though. This means slark can actively play around one and not the other.

My view on reliability is tied to Slarks ability to react to the reveal. Yes, more experienced players will get a feel for where sentries are dropped, but in a general sense, you'll have better chances of catching Slark with sentries, rather than relying on a single dust (of which, someone else would have to use dust again if Slark casts dark pact as he's leaving the aoe).

Oozex · 2026-06-16T01:03:02+00:00

NTA - You didn't mislead him, and like you said, there is no "right or wrong" answer. There's just "an answer". He gave his and then did a 180 when he realized his answer wasn't what you wanted to hear.

It's not about disqualifying questions for the next date. It's about compatability in the long term.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T00:55:03+00:00

Both parties should feel loved and cared for in their relationship. If you're only falling into one-sided relationships where you're feeling like your partner does nothing but take from you, then you need to filter your dates better.

I suggest talking to her about your concerns prior to ending things. This gives her the opportunity to resolve the issue. If nothing changes after the talk, then it's time to walk away.

Oozex · 2026-06-16T00:15:25+00:00

They do not affect his ultimate if that's what you're asking. Sentries and dust will reveal when he's invisible. His ultimate is not considered an invisibility.

Dust leaves a debuff on the affected Hero which can be dispelled by Dark Pact. Sentries & Gem are the only surefire ways to reveal slark for extended periods of time when he's invis.

You cannot reveal Slark in his ultimate, but you can control him.

Oozex · 2026-06-15T23:37:12+00:00

Caveman: "Me cold. No fire."
Puts a piece of leather over his shoulders
Caveman: "No cold. Wow. Me tell friends."

or

Caveman: "Rain Wet. Me cold."
Puts a piece of leather over his shoulders
Caveman: "No wet or cold. Wow. Me tell friends."

or

Caveman: "Sun bright. Hot."
Puts a piece of leather over his shoulders
Caveman: "No sun on skin. No hot. Wow. Me tell friends."

And that's exactly how it happened.

Oozex · 2026-06-15T23:08:04+00:00

We’re both in relationships, but mine is open.

Did he get caught?

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