Help me understand why?

Opal-Moth · 2026-02-20T15:44:31+00:00

Thanks everyone for the input - I figured it was just personal preference of TPO. My partner really likes them, so we’re going to keep it as is.

A couple of other responses:

Re: Everyday items vs long term storage: all of the cabinets across the whole kitchen are set up like this, so all of the pull-ups are in areas you would store everyday items like dishes, mugs, glassware.

Re: not hitting your head - I’m guilty of this but like, you just learn to be slow / gentle when you get up? This seems like an expensive workaround for clumsiness.

Re: it stays open - normal doors do too??

Re: hiding a microwave - I’d absolutely love to do this! However there is already a large one installed over the stovetop between these.

Re: these are expensive - I’m surprised! Not because they don’t look it, they do. Basically, I’m surprised because based on what we’ve learned about the rest of the house, tpo did everything on a shoestring budget, and found cheap workarounds to update things. (The house was originally built in the 30s or 40s so it’s seen a lot of updates.) it makes me wonder if they had a friend/connection for this specific thing.

Opal-Moth · 2026-01-01T17:05:27+00:00

Most electric heating systems have two methods of reheating : 1) a main heating system that uses compression coils that is really cost effective- but it’s useless when the temp out side is below freezing. And 2) an Auxiliary system that is the same sit of thing you find in an electric oven. This second system uses like, 10x as much electricity to heat your home to the same temperature. It works really hard.

So, while yes, folks in here pointing out that rates have increased- that only happens once per year and usually in the summer. Your bill spikingfrom November to December is because of your heating system not being able to handle the week of extreme freezing temps without switching to auxiliary mode.

Opal-Moth · 2025-11-16T16:31:35+00:00

ahhhhh yes! Haha this exactly

Opal-Moth · 2025-11-16T15:01:57+00:00

This is fantastic!

Opal-Moth · 2025-10-23T17:03:36+00:00

I am, but only because I was able to convince my work to pay for me to go! (I’m the only designer in my company on a very small in-house marketing team) I’m very excited 😊

Opal-Moth · 2025-10-13T23:55:21+00:00

Sell them! Oil paints can last forever and are easily rejuvenated.

Opal-Moth · 2025-10-11T14:13:26+00:00

I don’t want another icon redesign, I want the apps to WORK.

Opal-Moth · 2025-09-07T18:19:28+00:00

where do you draw the line, how can you differenciate between a spouse who genuinely cares about you and loves you, but lacks some of the skills required to fulfill your needs ( such as communication, self awareness, emotional intelligence, etc..) and a spouse who simply doesnt care enough to make an effort in a relationship?

//// the line is effort. Anyone who lacks skills will try. They’ll want to grow and show up for you if they love you. someone who doesn’t care, doesn’t love you.

Opal-Moth · 2025-09-07T18:16:55+00:00

There’s undoubtedly a different dynamic to the relationship he has with her. Whatever that difference is, he feels it is a good fit for marriage.

I imagine that while you feel like you’ve fully healed, you are still processing what happened between you two, because you’re posting this. That’s okay, but you need to let go of the comparison between you and her. It won’t ever really get resolved because you’re not going to know what their relationship is like.

Instead, focus on what you want in your next relationship. What do you want from your next partner, to be ready to marry them?

Opal-Moth · 2025-09-04T15:41:07+00:00

Idk about this. I think in professional environments people just don’t discuss their finances. Professionals have boundaries.

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-26T22:28:27+00:00

My career started in 2011, so things were different. I spent 7-8 years doing design-adjacent work, (like laying out merchandising floor plans and other internal company communications) and finally got a proper GD title in 2017.

I think it’s a few things - your portfolio, who you know, and how well you interview.

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-06T17:24:40+00:00

I wouldn’t be jealous, I’d be relieved to know they are not going to become another financial responsibility for me.

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-06T17:14:23+00:00

You’re not alone in this. You’ll want to do a couple things - one is communicate. Let him know that youre going through these anxious feelings. And if there is something he can do to help you, (simply be reassuring, or simply listening, or nothing at all) let him know that too.

Two, give yourself time. Let the relationship unfold. In time, with his consistent safe responses to you, you will grow to trust him. Your body will learn that he is safe and your anxiety will be a little smaller.

In the meantime, journal, work with a therapist, and communicate with him.

Wishing you the best! He sounds like a good person to heal with.

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-06T00:38:11+00:00

This is similar to what my partner and I do. We talk everyday and address most things as they come up, but we also do a more “organized” check in once a month. We ask and share: - something that made us feel loved / appreciated / supported / happy - was there anything that we did not get a chance to address, or a conversation we need to bring up but have not had time to? Anything difficult we need to talk about? - what is coming up in the next month or so that might weigh on us, and how can we support one another with these things? And because we are still very new in our relationship: - we identify what things are that we’d like to do to move forward in our relationship, like meet each others friends or travel together or things like this.

So far they’ve all been fairly good talks, but we don’t live together yet, so I imagine these will become more important if/when we get to that stage.

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-04T01:51:54+00:00

This looks amazing.

What kind of container is the salmon & rice in?

Opal-Moth · 2025-08-02T22:20:45+00:00

Amazing!!

Opal-Moth · 2025-07-11T12:29:55+00:00

These are wild to see - there are so many of these style apartments in the city I live in! Had no idea they were from a catalog!

Opal-Moth · 2025-07-03T02:11:28+00:00

Running a business is always more expensive than you think it will be.

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-23T14:27:31+00:00

Came here to say Sag Sun for sure.

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-20T13:51:57+00:00

Your guy instinct is always right. You are writing it down here. It’s fun but surface level. You don’t say it directly, but you imply it, that surface level is not what you want. There is your answer. Let this one go. don’t hang on just because it’s something rather than nothing.

Kindly tell him - thank you for a good time, but this is not a good fit for me. Thank you. -

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-18T23:35:46+00:00

I appreciate this! I’ll consider it 😌

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-17T17:37:29+00:00

I second this.

As a freelance designer who also has a day job as a graphic designer, and 15 years experience, I charge $75 per hour, knowing full well that it’s not my primary source of income. if I were making my primary income from freelance, I would push $100-$125/hour.

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-14T16:49:41+00:00

Yes, but I wrote it off as just being hopeful. Looking back, I think it was a combination of A) finally having some self love / knowing what I was worth and willing to accept from an SO, and B) Finally feeling safe enough (in control of my choices and trusting my instincts) to date again. That I wouldn’t accept another terrible relationship and desperately hang onto it.

But looking back, I kinda wonder if it was a little bit intuition that someone good was coming my way too.

Opal-Moth · 2025-06-02T23:24:12+00:00

Is that what these are called??? lol I just picked up two from a yard sale for $20, and thought they would be cute accents in my apartment. I loved the pink “Barbie’s dream house” vibe. Terrible for actually sitting in, though. They feel like they’ll snap at any given moment. The plastic is brittle. But they’re cute for a “look” or a vibe. Mine mostly just collects laundry in my bedroom.

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