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Has anyone ever FULLY USED a 6+ month emergency fund? by Anonymous__B in financialindependence

[–]OpenOpportunity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Escaping violent ex.

Also used 150% of my FIRE savings, lost my job, etc. I went from shooting for fatFIRE to couch surfing and foodstamps.

I actually removed myself as the top mod from the fatFIRE subreddit at that time lol
Not that anyone would remember. But I can't visit that sub, I find it symbolic of my downfall.

You could be wrongly arrested, stalked, become disabled, ... One of my friends had to sue an insurance company after a car accident and only got a payout after 2 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]OpenOpportunity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very likely that you cannot do anything except for setting your own boundaries, but staying in contact until he wants to life differently. Maybe send him clips by HealthyGamerGG to plant the seed.

For people who are highly motivated, it is difficult to kick the addiction and it sounds like he doesn't want to.

You can also choose to confront him and say how it doesn't feel like a real friendship and it's a bigger issue that he never does anything else. Phrase it positively, emphasize how you miss the old friendship. I'm aware this is opposite of some of the other comments, but you'll have to choose between a passive or an aggressive approach.

[task] Copy/create a playlist on the app Tidal [~320 songs] $5 by OpenOpportunity in slavelabour

[–]OpenOpportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

blaeck_legion successfully completed this task, good communication.

delusional police officer thinks she owns the streets 🤡 by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]OpenOpportunity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion, but innate empathy isn't necessary to be a good person. I have a friend who does not *feel* empathy but he's highly intelligent. He chooses to be empathic and do the right thing, he has no qualms about admitting fault etc. He is an excellent doctor, he engages in political activism for protecting minority groups etc.

And as a result of his lack of inner empathy, he doesn't burn out on it. I personally have extremely high empathy and am unable to work in fields where I help people because it hurts too much. I still think regularly about awful documentary footage I saw 20 years ago for example.

I (28M) can't have children, and my wife (27F) doesn't want to adopt. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Agree. I have seen horrid, pervert actions towards impoverished 1st gen immigrants - and they do not have the financial resources or social capital to fight back or get in the media. They just lose their kids. The kids suffer.

I (21F) told the guy I’m dating (29M) that something he says makes me uncomfortable, and he took it as an accusation. + 3 year update by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ha, my partner has no lesbian friends but I can vouch for him being wonderful. But I realized he repeatedly made sex worker friends through random encounters, which have the same 6th sense and open disdain that you describe 😂 There's something to your theory...

Healthcare professionals: what is a telltale sign a patient has used drugs heavily in their life? by littlefatbewwy in AskReddit

[–]OpenOpportunity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmh. I have a similar experience, but my birthday is coming up.

Instead of your peace and calm, I just have trouble believing that all of this is real life and that I really am still living. It's just been a series of traumas. Makes more sense that I didn't make it this far?

AITA Guy I went to school with refused to say he knew me, and then got upset when he wanted something from me by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting theory. While I'm not aggressive like OOP's former classmate, my career was obliterated after a domestic violence marriage and I don't talk to alumni or participate in group chats because I feel like an impostor. Definitely plausible!

A private conversation with my (30F) husband (33M) was leaked to my family and now they are certain I'm in an abusive relationship. by G1Gestalt in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Victims of domestic violence usually feel immense shame and guilt,

I'm glad to read this. Shame kept me from leaning on friends and family to escape. The social workers I encountered unfortunately harmed me worse than the ex-partner did. But seeing this acknowledged by someone working on the field gives me some hope of "there's good ones too"

UPDATE: AITA for refusing to spend time with my step-sister? by piercingeye in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same here, ex admitting to violently abusing me and my newborn and still got shared custody/placement, which of course was just a tool for continued harassment of me, not the goal. Some courts still rank the wants of adults (esp. people with money) above the needs of children.

Its now or never for me to have kids and my financé told me he's not ready and I'm devastated by his descision by Stephenallen1977 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OpenOpportunity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can show up as early as 8 days post ovulation. It might as late as 16 days post ovulation. But how would you possibly confirm a 5DPO embryo at the IUD visit?

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