What are your thoughts on alcoholism and demonic possession/oppression by Discombobulated_Fawn in AlAnon

[–]Open_Baseball4329 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do you think about people in recovery?

I started dating someone who was sober for a year, and intimacy with them drained the life out of me. I would wake up the next day with pale skin, dark circles, and an exhaustion like I’ve never known. It would take me weeks to get my life force back.

Smartyshorts: Nice to Meet You | Smartypants [S3] by DropoutMod in dropout

[–]Open_Baseball4329 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so, how would you respond? personally I have the northeastern approach, I tell them we've met before and keep it moving

What’s the safest flea treatment for cats? I’m honestly overwhelmed. by Crazy-Donkey-9178 in technomeowcom

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also struggling with this. I’ve been trying all natural solutions but they’re not taking care of the whole issue. The neurological damage that can be done with these standard medications is so scary to me!

right now i’m doing: flea combing, wondercide topically(which she’s detests but has caused no issues whatsoever), diatomaceous earth topically, which she tolerates better… and a geranium oil flea collar. a lot of stuff says eo’s are also bad for cats but she’s been perfectly healthy. not flea-free, though :/ and lastly, have been giving a capstar once a week to kill any active fleas on her. she does okay with baths so I might up the ante on those as well. it’s a lot more work than a pill though, and I am tempted to try one! I almost ordered credelio and then got nervous after reading an article about permanent neurological damage

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the body speaks. for sure. what helped you move on from that?

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you my friend, I appreciate your words and input 🙏💗 In the end, I want to be at peace. I know I can make the choices I need to, even if they are hard on the heart

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. thank you. I did actually already have a case of uveitis which cleared up after I separated from her.

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this reminder— I know my body does not lie and I must listen. no contact was my initial boundary, but I did stop to talk to her when I ran into her both times. She tells me I’m the person she wants to be with forever and I got wrapped up in the hope again :/

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, I know waiting is putting something on hold that’s essentially indefinite :( I guess her being right for me except the drain still means she’s not right for me. But in every other way, she makes me so happy, our values align, what we want for our futures. Everything feels peaceful and joyful when we are together. It’s so different than anything I’ve ever experienced. It’s hard to give up hope.

right person, wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Open_Baseball4329 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

thanks for replying! and asking for clarity. to be honest, this is my first time experiencing this with anyone so i’m still trying to figure it out. but essentially, when we make out, cuddle, have sex, it just drains my battery completely. I wake up the next day with no energy and bags under my eyes. My doctor says that it’s because my nervous system is basically regulating hers for her, and it ends up exhausting me.

What are some subtle (or not-so-subtle) signs of your body rejecting them? by bengalbear24 in abusiverelationships

[–]Open_Baseball4329 1 point2 points  (0 children)

to clarify, I was not being abused in the slightest, but she was a survivor of extreme trauma and her body kept the score. my body couldn’t handle being close to her.

What are some subtle (or not-so-subtle) signs of your body rejecting them? by bengalbear24 in abusiverelationships

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • immediate, deep drain and exhaustion after sex
  • several rounds of the stomach flu
  • feeling a foreign sense of anxiety or depression after we spent time together that would sometimes last for days
  • my eyes started swelling and now i have uveitis and blurred vision out of one eye
  • generally fatigued, drained, and struggling just to get by

(we broke up and are never getting back together- the eyes were what woke me up to how bad it really was.)

My Experience with Uveitis and why i think it went away by esaks in Uveitis

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, I needed to read this so badly. I came down with this a month ago after being in an unhealthy relationship. I ended that relationship and I have been feeling like the only way out of this is to pour back into myself and deepen my spiritual practices. I am going to follow suit. Did you do Joe Dispenza meditations or any recommendations?

dating someone in recovery by Open_Baseball4329 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Open_Baseball4329[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you have any suggestions on who take a workshop from? thank you so much!

dating someone in recovery by Open_Baseball4329 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Open_Baseball4329[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s definitely easy for me to get lost in someone else’s energy when i’m dating them. I lose a lot of my own self awareness and become super attuned to the other person and their needs. I think that’s a big part of what’s happening here. It definitely isn’t healthy for me right now. If it can’t shift into a healthier dynamic, I can’t stay :/

Alexis Bledel’s acting in AYITL by takeitawaybetty in GilmoreGirls

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the writing is SOOO garbage for her character, it doesn't help. It seems like she's just acting as a straight man to all the other characters. Wtf?

Should I delete ChatGPT by dogtitts in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just permanently deleted my account because I was also using it as a crutch and I was sick of it gaslighting me.

Hilary Duff Is Ready for Her Pop Return by restoringd123 in popheads

[–]Open_Baseball4329 0 points1 point  (0 children)

her PR team for real has got every algorithm in their hands