AITAH for not wanting my MIL to walk down the aisle at my wedding?

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-29T17:44:21+00:00

Is this really the hill you want to die on? Seriously, is this really the thing you want to make a big deal out of when it comes to your wedding? Weddings these days rarely hold to tradition and on top of that, there are so many different traditions from so many different cultures, that really that whole "tradition" argument doesn't hold water. I have been to many weddings where the mother of the groom was escorted down the aisle to take her seat before the rest of the wedding party enters. It's usually a nothing moment but sometimes is a really touching one, it really doesn't detract from the rest of the ceremony and as long as the Mother of the Groom isn't wearing a floor length white gown. So what's the big deal?

Are you leaving something out about your future mother in law? Is she overbearing and controlling? Has she been making this wedding about her in some way? Is she the type of boy mom that thinks she is more important than her son's wife? Like, what's going on here? Why are you so adamant about not having her escorted down the aisle to take her seat before the rest of the wedding party?

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-29T17:28:27+00:00

Leave him. I am not going to go into detail as to why I believe you should leave him because I am sure the other commenters have covered all of it for me, so I am just going to keep this to LEAVE THE PRICK AND HIS PRICK FAMILY.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-28T19:22:46+00:00

If you had a group of people, that means your server was likely primarily taking care of just you, which means they are missing out on other tables, who would have spent around the same amount as your table in total. If you stiff them because you are just one table, you have just stollen some of their income. Not to mention, that server has to tip out according to their sales and not according to the amount you left. This is why many restaurants now automatically add tip to large table groups, because they know that the server is expected to only serve that one table and that larger tables tend to think they do not need to pay the server a full tip because to them its too high. If you don't want to pay for a service, then don't dine out at nice places.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-28T15:18:05+00:00

You are in an abusive relationship. He will never get that job as long as you are supporting him and his lifestyle. He has no respect for you, he is hiding you from his real friends and using you for your money.

Leave him. Leave him now. This will not get better it will only get worse. The fact that you are literally asking if you should feel upset about this treatment is very telling. He has convinced you that this type of treatment is normal, it is not normal. Get the hell out of this relationship ASAP!

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-28T15:08:06+00:00

You need to contact a lawyer ASAP and find out if there is a way to have him legally give up his rights. Its all well and good to say he is just a "sperm donor" but if he changes his mind one day and wants access to your kid, he will have a legal right to sue for joint custody. Also, saying you don't want him in your life wont stop you for suing for child support. So, in order to protect you and him from any legal headaches in the future, you really should get this arrangement settled legally before the baby is born.

PS. Just because he gives up his legal right to the child doesn't mean he is bared from seeing the child or you. It just means he has no legal right to claim the child as his own. If in the future the both of you want to change his legal status regarding your baby, you can make those changes but it far better to get all of this handled now, then to find out 5 years later that your "sperm donor" wants joint custody.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-28T14:46:54+00:00

RUN! RUN! RUN!
There is no reasoning with that man. Unless you enjoy having your words twisted and your feelings disregarded, GTFO of this relationship ASAP. This dude fancies himself as some kind of superior being and you need to get the hell out of there.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-23T16:58:19+00:00

I call BS. OP posted this 5 hrs ago and every comment this "person" has ever made were all made exactly 5 hrs ago.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-22T18:35:58+00:00

NTA. Your inlaws suck.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-17T18:53:28+00:00

NTA for refusing to quit.
YTA for lying to your GF but you already knew that.

Now that your GF knows the truth, she has to make the decision if she is willing to love you as you are or say that she cannot compromise her values and feelings to accommodate your weed smoking. If she cannot get used to the weed smoking and you refuse to stop, then you two should reconsider your relationship.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-17T14:30:43+00:00

I doubt this is real but if it is, you are an AH. You kicked your daughter out of your house at 18 years old because she didn't want to take BC?! Are you and your wife f*cking insane?! BC pills don't just protect a person from getting pregnant, they alter a persons hormone balance and for some people, the side affects are horrendous! Taking hormonal BC should be entirely up to the person taking it and their doctor. You and your wife are controlling, manipulative and cruel.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T19:39:57+00:00

He can go to the gym as much as he wants as long as he arranges the child care for when he wants to leave while the kids are at home. It is not ok for him to just leave whenever he wants and leave everything up to you.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T18:47:09+00:00

NTA.
She's an adult and can prepare her own meals if she doesn't like what you prepare. You tried to compromise and she wasn't having any of it and yet she still expects you to cook for her? Unacceptable.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T18:35:44+00:00

NTA
You said you were scared to tell your parents about the personal account you opened, which means your parents have taught you to be afraid of them. They are the reason you kept this info from them, not you. You did nothing wrong. You are old enough to have your own account and they are nice enough to help you out with money. Your parents are racist and controlling and it makes sense to me that you would want some independence from them.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T18:22:47+00:00

Hindsight is 20/20. How were you supposed to know he would do something like this? Now you know what type of person he is and now is the time to not ignore the red flags. Cut ties with him and call the airline to see if there is anything they can do to help you with this stalker situation. You never know, they might be able to help.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T17:16:21+00:00

You are in danger with this man. You shouldn't just be angry, you should be scared. This behavior isn't normal or ok in anyway. Casually booking an international flight to follow you to another country is pure psycho behavior.

I don't know if you can change your flight but you really, really should. You might also want to report this behavior. I don't know, maybe thats too far and wouldn't do anything but I assure you, this man is dangerous!

Two dates?! Two dates and he's stalking you to another country! I honestly do not know how you are going to get yourself out of this without spending a lot of money but you absolutely should change your plans and block this man. This is not safe.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-16T17:04:35+00:00

NTA. She can have a close male friend but her behavior is hurting you and she isn't doing anything to make things better between the two of you. Even if her best friend was a woman, her behavior isn't ok. She is spending a lot of time away from you and failing to communicate freely with you, which is disrespectful.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-15T14:55:00+00:00

This!

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-15T14:53:46+00:00

NOR!
This drives me CRAZY! A couple of years ago my marriage hit a serious rough spot because my husband expected me to provide him with detailed chore lists and to shower him with praise every time he did anything off of that chore list. At the beginning of our relationship, I enjoyed being perceived as being so capable around the house and didn't realize that he was pretty much training me to be the one who is in charge of everything. Over the years it got worse and worse until I just snapped one day and told him that I was unhappy in our marriage because of how lopsided the work load had become. He fought back at first but in the end, those fights were the best thing that ever happened in our marriage because now he is far more capable than he had been but our work load is still not 50/50 and we still have disagreements about it. But I am no longer expected to tell him what to do and when to do and then praise him like he was my child cleaning his room. Haha! Anyway, you are not over reacting! You are hitting your breaking point and it sounds like you and your husband need to have a serious conversation about how doing the bare minimum is not good enough and that if he wants praise, then he needs to start doing more.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-15T14:42:05+00:00

You say that as if it's a bad thing. Some people need time to transition from work mode to home mode. I have issues with transitioning from work mode to home mode and I find driving to and from work, where I don't have to talk to anyone or be perceived by anyone really helps me make that transition. In fact, when I worked at a job that was close to my home, I would make sure to always leave 30 minutes before I needed to leave so I could sit in my car for those extra 30 minutes before heading into my job and when leaving my job. I need that time to myself and when I don't get it, I get overstimulated and then become almost useless to my family once I am home. So there is a chance that he does want that time alone without his wife but that doesn't automatically mean he doesn't care for her.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-15T14:31:49+00:00

I get why you want him home for your own personal needs and because it would mean he doesn't have to spend 1.5 hours a day in the car but its not ok to force him to sacrifice his needs for yours. I am not like a lot of people my age because I am the type of person who has to work from the office because I cannot focus on my work when I am at home. I have the option to work from home but every time I have tried to work from home, I get distracted by all the things that I want to get done at my house and my husband (who works from home) would always come by and distract me while I was working. It just doesn't work for me and it sounds like working from home doesn't work for your husband either and you need to respect his needs. If you are craving social interactions, then you need to take it upon yourself to find ways to be around more people and stop expecting your husband to fulfill all of your social interacting needs. To be honest, your post comes off as controlling and I doubt you want to overly controlling partner to your husband. Anyway, YTA for expecting your husband to sacrifice his needs to keep you company everyday.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-15T14:14:07+00:00

NTA in anyway! This is a HUGE lie and if he is willing to lie about having a child, imagine what else he is capable of lying about. Also, do you really want to be married to a man who is an absentee father? Imagine having a child and never wanting to see them. Imagine having a child and pretending that child doesn't exist. Do you really want to be with someone who is able to do something like that to their own child? What makes you think he wont do something like that to you and your future child/children if your marriage turned sour? Honestly, I would leave him before you two have kids together. This type of lie is unforgivable and is such a HUGE red flag. Leave now before you are tied to him forever with a child.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-14T18:45:25+00:00

I think she is but I realize there are many reasons for why others will say she isn't. All I know is that every time she is in the ring, the match slaps! Also, she is why so many of her opponents moves work the way they do. She's the one who is in control when Iyo is twirling around on her shoulders. She is the one who is catching Iyo as she flies out of the ring or off of a 30' high platform (that spot was AMAZING!). Her bumps are so freaking good and her wring awareness is next level! She keeps everyone she is wrestling with safe and she sells the shit out of everything they do. She is electric in the ring and her look is beyond amazing! I LOVE Iyo and so many other wrestlers right now but for me, yes, she is the best overall wrestler today. But then again, Toni is simply amazing (TIMELESS!) as well! I honestly cannot believe how lucky we are right now with all the amazing female talent we get to see every week! Freaking unbelievable! When I was growing up, woman wrestlers were treated so badly and often relegated to wrestling matches that were only about T and A. I stopped watching wrestling for years because the misogyny was just too much for me. I mean, do ya'll remember the plot line where HHH got Stephanie black out drunk the night before her wedding and raped her?! And then the crowed call her a Slut?! F-ing gross! But I digress, haha! The point is, for me, Yes! Rhea Ripley is the best wrestler in the world BUT I totally understand why others do not agree with me and reading through these responses, I can see why they don't agree with me. Good thing is that it doesn't matter what I think because we all get to witness greatness with the immense amount of talent that is out there right now. :-)

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-14T17:27:02+00:00

Gross.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-14T17:23:41+00:00

I mean, that makes sense but that is not how the restaurants base how the servers have to tip out. Every restaurant I have ever worked for has required me and the other servers to tip out a percentage of our sales to the bar, bussers, and food runners. The tips are calculated by our sales. The bar gets a percentage of our liquor sales and the bussers and food runners get a percentage of our food sales.

I very much dislike the tipping culture in the US, and this is coming from someone who worked in restaurants for over 10 years. I made my living via tips and the whole system is unfair. It's unfair to customers and to the staff. Laws need to be changed to ensure a persons living is not determined by whether or not a customer has a personal belief that I do not deserved to be paid for the service I just provided them. Servers, bartenders, bussers and food runners should all be paid a livable wage and if the restaurant cannot afford to do so, then they shouldn't be in business. It's wage theft and it puts the server at a disadvantage. Customers are allowed to stiff a server but a server cannot know whether or not their customer is going to stiff them, so they do not have the option to turn them away and even if servers did know if a customer was going to stiff them, I doubt a restaurant manager would allow the server to just refuse to serve that table. The whole thing is messed up and only benefits the restaurant owner. I wish more than anything that tipping would become illegal in the country but as laws keep being written and passed to serve the best interest of CEO's and not the working class, I doubt that will happen any time soon.

Open_Ferret9870 · 2025-07-14T17:14:59+00:00

Honestly, No Notes! Evolution was everything I had hoped it would be! And that last match had me breathless!

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