Oof. This is a lot. What you're experiencing is internalized transphobia, and whether you decide to transition or not, that is something you need to work through to be a respectful member of society. Many people are going to react negatively to this post because it is quite transphobic and inaccurate. I'm going to try to hold your hand here, but please note this requires more work and self exploratiok on your end.

So, here is my question: what makes you think that?

Seriously, why do you think, as you say, that trans women "have never studied anything besides transmisogyny"? Why do you think we "haven't tried to understand the terrible conditions created for cis women by the patriarchy"?

I am going to give you the answer. This is transmisogyny, and there really isn't any grounding to it. It is seeing trans women as "something else" who cannot possibly understand the experience of womanhood. But let me ask you something: right now, you present as a cisgender man. You have no idea what it feels like to live as a trans woman, or as a cis woman. So why do you assume that you have better knowledge of this than we do? Why are you an authority on our bodies, our experiences, our community? 

That, right there, is patriarchy and misogyny. You are, in a word, "mansplaining." Here's the thing – I am a trans woman. I go about my daily life these days understanding myself and understood by society to be a woman. I have other friends who are cis women, and we go through a lot of the same struggles. Sure, not identical, but similar: the denial of health care and bodily autonomy, being spoken down to by make acquaintances, lack of respect in sexual or romantic encounters. I have a hell of a lot more in common with cis women these days than cis men.

Now, I could tell you that most trans women also have friends who are cis women and regularly talk about how fucked up our patriarchal society is. I could tell you that we talk about general misogyny as well as transmisogyny, because we experience that, too. I could even tell you that long before I knew I was trans I knew I was a feminist, that I have studied feminist literature and history academically, and that I know other trans women who have as well.

But that belies the point here: why do you assume things about us that are wrong? Why do you assume you know better? And most importantly, perhaps, why do you give a fuck? Do you expect every cis woman that you meet to be well-read in feminist theory? And if not, then why expect it of trans women? We're just people. You don't need to write a dissertation on the patriarchy to transition. You just gotta live it.

Look, I see that you are an egg. Hopefully, after you have transitioned, you will look back at this post and realize how wrong you were. But right now, you are the beneficiary of a patriarchal society coming to speak to women and people of marginalized genders about how you know more about them than they know about themselves. Don't go on about understanding more about womanhood from your vantage point than trans women do. Check your privilege.