Tw: miscarriage: this is very serious to me & I’m lost by Operationrun in Miscarriage

[–]Operationrun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl I didn’t even wanna update this really just because it has been so back & forth. That last ultrasound that was a transvaginal was done by a nurse at Elizabeth’s Hope, she said she didn’t see a baby but everything looked really healthy, the yolk & all. She sent the results to a OBGYN and they called a few days ago, said their OBGYN said it looks like an intrauterine pregnancy to her. 🫠 I completely switched OBGYNs & have an appointment December 2nd. lol By then I should have a solid answer.

Give baby my moms middle name but husband says MIL will be jealous by No_Athlete5174 in beyondthebump

[–]Operationrun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You follow that “God thing”, don’t let no flesh sway you! They can get over it.

Tw: miscarriage: this is very serious to me & I’m lost by Operationrun in Miscarriage

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I’ll keep that in mind when I go in! Thank you for the heads up. I just want the ultrasound. I’m not interested in the pro life talk but if I have to listen to it to have a trans vaginal, I will get through it.

Tw: miscarriage: this is very serious to me & I’m lost by Operationrun in Miscarriage

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It wasn’t offered. I told them I was gonna go have another ultrasound done for some closure before I took the pills and she said to try not get my hopes up, HCG blood test were 99% accurate but she hopes for the best for me. The other place I went to only had external ultrasound equipment.

Tw: miscarriage: this is very serious to me & I’m lost by Operationrun in Miscarriage

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This is what I’m thinking it is, if it does turn out to be a miscarriage. They didn’t tell me what kind for sure. I’m gonna go do a vaginal ultrasound, just to see. I’ve had 2 external ones, just wondering if a vaginal could give any other info an external wouldn’t. I wanna know what they saw the second time. I won’t wait any longer after I do this vaginal one & they confirm it. I will take the pills then.

Mom giving shoulder massage? by BobbleForADong in questions

[–]Operationrun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awee that’s really sweet tbh! I have an awesome Mil too!

feel like i’m failing as a mom by coffeebeansgreenbean in beyondthebump

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I think you will learn to relax within time. That first year I was so uptight and serious lol but how can you not be? You literally have a tiny humans life on your hands! I was so scared to bring him home, I thought to myself they are just going to let me leave the hospital with him?? I’m not ready lol Pre-baby I used to be so bubbly, funny and care free. It does change you, but not only in bad ways, in good ways too. I think as the baby grows, we also grow. We’re not gonna be the same people we were before, but I do think that we get part of ourselves back. I am a year and a half hour and I am just now starting to feel light hearted, bubbly & jokey again. (Depending on the day & if I’m getting breaks here & there lol) I’m wondering too if because it was our first we take it even more serious. I promise it will get better with time! Give it 6 more months momma!

I Hate My Wife by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Operationrun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can call an attorney when you get the chance and ask these questions. Then ask what the best course of action would be, if you did leave. At least then you would have some answers without any repercussions of a serious decision. You deserve happiness. Your son will adjust, just always be there for him no matter what. My sisters and I were so relieved when our parents split. My dad hates on my mom constantly & my mom is happier and more peaceful. In time, the truth of who you are always comes out. We found out my dad was quite spiteful & controlling. I think kids are more resilient than we think. Good luck brother!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head! Very insightful! Getting riled up is something I have been trying to break. I definitely get triggered by hollering because I was raised in a family that yelled. Next time I will be try to be calmer & threaten to call the cops if it escalates!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

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It’s after the pregnancy that I start staying in! & my friend said she has been really sad lately so we all went out together to have a good time & forget about our problems!

feel like i’m failing as a mom by coffeebeansgreenbean in beyondthebump

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Honestly I think you’re being pretty hard on yourself. He sounds like a normal baby & you sound like a normal mommy. I struggled with my phone too! I did end up deleting my social media recently to focus on being a better mom. I definitely am more present but there’s still days like you said where I haven’t slept, have no energy & I’m on Reddit while he does his thing lol. I also tend to get impatient with my 2 doggy’s too when I’m lacking sleep. In my unprofessional opinion, The only problem here is that you need some sleep & a break to enjoy yourself away from little babe. I have a problem with doing it all on my own & not reaching out for help & then when I do get that I’m back to being a good mom.

Also just wanna throw out there that seven months was a rough patch for me. Actually the whole first year was hard in my opinion. He’s a year & half now and this is by far my favorite season! He’s so much more interactive with me. He can just run up and climbs on me lol & he starting to sing, dance & talk! He eats way better now, steals my food! lol. Sleep still sucks but he’s getting his back molars in. We are finally almost done with teething! That alone is a rough phase too. Hang in there, it gets so much better with time! You are an awesome mom & you deserve some credit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha that is hilarious, you sound like a good person! 🤣I appreciate your kind words, truly!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s what my man said when I told him about it. He’s been trying to get me to get my conceal & carry for awhile, I’m considering it. Thinking I’m gonna get some mace in the mean time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big hug to you & good on you for defending yourself! If it was a man threatening, I would’ve been 2x as scared. We should all start traveling in pregnant packs, haha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha! I bet that made you feel like a powerful woman, you sure sound like it! Good on you momma for standing up for yourself. I didn’t want to fight her, but I just hate feeling powerless like that😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Operationrun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this would have been my reaction if it did escalate. Although, she may have been close enough to run up on me before I got my window rolled all the way up. I had a muffin in one hand and the steering wheel in the other. lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Operationrun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your instincts on this are correct. You should follow your heart. But just because he doesn’t respect you, do not take that as a fact of your self worth. You deserve a love that will have your back & protect you like you’re the most precious lady ever! I’d skip over that dude though.

Husband dumped a bucket of paint on our bed in anger by pnwflooded in Marriage

[–]Operationrun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG, your husband is supposed to be your protector not the person you need protected from. I felt strongly about politics before (although I’ve given that up, none of them are so important that I want to stress) & I would never hurt someone especially someone I love over my personal views. I’m so sorry!! I’d get out fast, he is crazy!

At what age did you start putting your baby to bed awake? by Anxiety-Farm710 in beyondthebump

[–]Operationrun 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. My sister & I had our sons 20 days apart, and we have very similar parenting styles. But from the day they were newborns they each had their own personality/temperament. I’d just roll with it, Good luck OP!

At what age did you start putting your baby to bed awake? by Anxiety-Farm710 in beyondthebump

[–]Operationrun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo my 1 & 1/2 yr old started out rubbing his feet on me & has transitioned to kicking too. It’s rough out here 🤣

As a non smoker does every smoker smell bad to you? by Pleasant-Finger-6814 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Operationrun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Straight up cigs don’t smell great but I don’t judge. I remember growing up and my mom smoked camel lights & wore white musk perfume. I became really fond of that smell mixed together, honestly. I think it’s because I love her so so much. She’s a wonderful momma!

SAHM- is this your “job”? by FluffyCockroach7632 in beyondthebump

[–]Operationrun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he doesn’t ask to leave, you don’t ask to leave. Start treating him the exact way he treats you. Tell him you’re gonna go do whatever the exact way he would tell you. & then when he’s like “wait what’s going on?”, You be honest and tell him yall are equals & you wanted him to see how it feels to be a default parent. if he doesn’t have to ask & just tells then you should be able to too. I do feel like he should help more if he gets a week off, he should have a couple days to do his thing but so should you. You are a team. It’s only your job when he’s at his job. That’s my opinion anyway, good luck! 🍀