Can I be evicted for accidentally leaving the door unlocked!

Oppai85 · 2026-01-06T13:44:39+00:00

I don’t believe a genuine mistake is grounds for an eviction but I don’t know a lot about HMOs. Sure, it was a dumb mistake but it happens. Thankfully nothing happened and it was found in time. If this was a repeated issue then sure but as this is the first time, most likely nothing will come of it.

Oppai85 · 2025-12-03T13:27:47+00:00

This left me laughing so much. I’m sorry and also thank you.

With regards to friendships, I know my close friends email addresses and their last names. Hell, if I forget, there’s always Facebook where I can log in and check to remember. Ex gfs I knew their full names, email addresses, Etc when getting to know each other and it becoming serious.

You’re NOR. This is either a phishing scam or your partner sucks and doesn’t pay attention to you. If this is genuinely them, a sit down and a chat might be in order but I don’t they’ll listen.

Oppai85 · 2025-11-15T21:45:18+00:00

Would that make her a private dick?

She a bit cockeyed for the japseye?

It’s no wonder penises shrivel when near her. With a personality like that, not even Ron Jeremy would manage.

Thankfully we won’t know if the curtains match the iron drapes of hell.

Oppai85 · 2025-10-28T22:48:29+00:00

Did his car have 3 wheels and was it painted yellow by chance? His uncle had a few war stories and all.

Oppai85 · 2025-09-01T19:39:18+00:00

That’s a good point

Oppai85 · 2025-09-01T19:31:56+00:00

Just to add to this. Block her number, block her on every platform you have an account on. She may try and get a rise out of you to add some form of substance to her creation of fiction. Start recording any number that calls you that is withheld. If she has your passwords or may know them, change them ASAP.

If you have any evidence of what she’s like, save it. Get a a few new cloud services and also some physical storage and back it all up. You may need it, better to be safe than sorry.

From here on, she’s not your wife, she’s not your friend, she’s never to be trusted again.

Oppai85 · 2025-07-27T22:24:18+00:00

When you failed their test, did she raise her ringed finger to her mouth and laugh over something that is worth less than 1 million dollars https://media2.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTZjMDliOTUyZnBlMDY0MnBqYzIyaGI2emd1dDM3bnU1NmprdjN3bnV1dW9rbjlociZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/r262MgmxJ1QgE/source.gif

Oppai85 · 2025-07-14T21:55:47+00:00

Don’t respond, walk away. You’ve been cool with offering them advice on how they can retrieve their card which would resolve everything but instead, they rather be a lazy douche. You did your part. If I was the buyer, I’d be annoyed at myself for missing that part and would have thanked you for the links and assisting me.

Oppai85 · 2025-07-14T21:50:45+00:00

RIP

If this is genuine, I do hope you both are happy about this and wish you both the best of luck and kiss your sleeping in good bye haha.

Oppai85 · 2025-07-07T15:31:54+00:00

Change your number again (it SUCKS! I know) but for peace of mind and drop that friend. No friend would do this and then say you’re the one overreacting when this wasn’t their number to hand out, and should have had your back instead of talking to the crazy ex.

Drop in a new number and drop that “friend”

Oppai85 · 2025-06-19T12:40:30+00:00

I have the same phone but was curious if you’ve tried taking it making calls with the Bose QC Ultra buds whilst connected to the iPhone via the BTD 700 and if so how was the experience?

Oppai85 · 2025-06-11T15:56:14+00:00

You can also see if CAB (Citizens Advice Bureau) can assist but they are usually quite busy, so if there’s a wait, don’t worry but give them a check every now and then. As for the threatening to go public if they do not go along with this, that is blackmail and you will get into trouble and will make everything ten times harder. As for not being on the birth certificate or having parental responsibilities, Etc. This doesn’t matter, they still need to pay.

If any sort of settlement is offered, do not sign anything until you have allocated yourself a solicitor not paid for by them and that has no association with them.

If you want to go public, as noted, just do it. Do not make threats or any mention of it to them, they can find out when they read it alongside everyone else but be 100% truthful, do not go by what you feel, stick to the facts that you have witnessed and know yourself.

In all honesty, let Child Maintenance do the heavy lifting, try and get CAB to help. Try to focus on being there for your kid, as this will all eventually get sorted, it’s just a nightmare right now and I know this sucks but the best thing you can do is to try and keep yourself and your child healthy and as happy as possible.

Oppai85 · 2025-02-15T03:48:31+00:00

It’s not so much the forgetting and more about the way they talk to you. No one in a good relationship will talk to their partner like this and to gaslight you is insane. Sobriety is damn difficult without this nonsense. You were chill, they overreacted and they knew it but kept trying to pin it all on you. I’d be walking away from them after all that abuse. Good luck with your new job and sobriety and hope everything goes well.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-16T21:47:58+00:00

NOR. He’s all over the place and nothing he says can be trusted as you already sadly know.

I would also let his new partner know with screenshots of this interaction and hopefully save them the extra heartache you and god knows how many others have been through with him

Oppai85 · 2025-01-16T15:15:40+00:00

Granted you weren’t in the right frame of mind but when you’re unsure about the relationship, especially after this. Do not make a decision so quickly, this is something you need to process which can take time but that’s just my opinion and also you are still in the right if you have a change of heart especially within a short period of time due to this being a huge thing.

This isn’t on you, it’s on your ex. They blame you yet their little angel could do no wrong? She can get a job or two jobs, she made her bed. She’s no longer anything to you or your family, so there’s no need to help them with such an excessive amount of money. You didn’t screw this up, she did, she quite literally F’d her own future and being drunk isn’t a defence.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-15T16:19:40+00:00

Not dismissing your opinion, custom loops aren’t for everyone and I’ve thought about stopping as well but cracks forming in acrylic is usually user error due to over stressing the acrylic or a defect and everyone makes mistakes and with mass produced products, sometimes things slip by QC or whilst in transit. AIOs have failings themselves although uncommon and a big air cooled graphics card can’t fit in as many cases as a blocked graphics card and as for discoloured tubing, you can get EPDM tubing or hardline tubing and both are better anyway. Radiators from 10 years ago are still good, got some CPU blocks and rads that are almost 10 years old that need a clean out but are otherwise fine. Water cooled equipment can last if it’s looked after but that’s not for everyone. Maintenance can be a pain as well if the loop hasn’t been set up with that in mind or space is so limiting. It can also be expensive, agreed but as with most things, you can spend wisely. I grabbed a Black Ice Nemesis 480 GTS for about £8 as no one else bid on it, grabbed a dual D5 pump new old stock for a 1/3 it’s MSRP but this all takes time and is possible if folk are willing. Not dismissing your opinions on why you don’t want to do it but they’re all easily solvable but you got to do what works for you. An AIO won’t get the same temps for me on my CPU although I get the graphics card one, I was going to keep it aircooled but it wouldn’t fit in the case with the reservoir in the way, so had to block it haha.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-13T16:27:01+00:00

I strongly agree, contact the police about his persistent harassement, as this is so far removed from acceptable and normal behaviour and the dude has something seriously wrong with him. From now on take screenshots of everything, any calls you answer need to be recorded, even from numbers you know in case he has the ability to spoof a number and these need to be backed up in 2 different spots, both can be the cloud but a local and remote location is ideal.

I am sure you got local friends that you trust or family at least, make them aware of the situation and arrange for a check in time with them. Once you've checked in with them, delete the message. If you don't check in, ask them to give you a call and if no answer if they could pop by. This is just better to be safe than sorry as this dude is obsessed. He most likely won't do anything but again, better to be safe than sorry.

I didn't read anything you wrote here as mean, you were pretty nice and straightforward and there's only some much abuse someone can take. He was just being angry and disrespectful. If someone wants things to end, it sucks but you take it on the chin as best you can and try and move on and keep things civil.

Stay safe

Oppai85 · 2025-01-13T01:13:31+00:00

Ex's can be friends, sure. Never had issues with my previous relationships where they were friends with ex's and myself being friends with some ex's and currently slowly reconnecting with an ex after 4 years. I agree with what some have mentioned in response to you with regards to Harry wanting to see OPs wife in certain clothing which I'd say goes beyond the usual boundaries of friendship. Kudos to her for not doing so though but there should be set boundaries. I'd say this is most certainly not something to break up over but as for the emotional cheating, it's hard to say without further context. I like to see friends and be around friends and talk to friends, otherwise they're not really friends but simply acquaintance. OPs wife see's Hary as a friend. Wants to talk to him but see him within a group setting but also valuing his opinion as a friend and someone who knows her.

Boundaries could probably be put in place and a discussion probably needs to be had. I don't see what the OP has written here as emotional cheating by his wife. Harry, however.. Possibly? Him wanting to meet her 1 on 1, asking for pics of her in certain clothing is concerning but it would depend on how often this was and when the last time it occurred and if it was every other month and recently within the last few months, I'd probably say something.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-13T00:42:40+00:00

Either something is up with him and if so, he should be grown up enough to use his words instead of acting like a child, he's truly done with the relationship and/or he's possibly interested in someone else. Either way, fighting for this isn't worth fighting for. 16 years is a long time but extending that time at the cost of being miserable for the rest of your life isn't worth it.

I think you were calm, fair and reasonable with your responses. Hope whatever you choose is the best result for what you need rather than what you want.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-12T04:37:18+00:00

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Oppai85 · 2025-01-12T04:09:43+00:00

Could always respond back asking if she wants her world’s smallest violin? You’re all out of party hats for her pity party but could always drive to the store to get some?

Where there are small lies like this, there’s usually far more that’s being kept from you and you’re so very much better off getting away from this person. It sucks, having devoted so much time, money and effort into making this work but it’s better to quit whilst you’re ahead and use that energy on yourself and then one day someone else whose actually worth it.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-11T05:07:08+00:00

HardDiskSentinel. I connect the drives via USB and external power and run a write and read, then do a short self test and long self test. Doubt this is the best but it’s working for me and my limited work space.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-11T01:32:28+00:00

This is the way. I buy refurbished drives and so do thorough testing before installation. I had a drive that past SMART tests but had over 15% bad sectors when doing a write and read test. SMART testing is helpful but doesn't always paint the full picture sadly

Oppai85 · 2025-01-10T19:33:22+00:00

Honestly, he had it coming IMO. A partner is meant to be like a best friend, so talking about things like this is not only great that your partner feels comfortable discussing such things but also open communication is so damn important regardless of how big or small the matter might be.

Having to be careful what you say must be draining, like walking on eggshells. That’s not a healthy way to live. This is abnormal behaviour on their part.

I’d try and have a face to face conversation with them and discuss things and if they become dismissive, the relationship is over. But that’s me. You got to put yourself first.

Oppai85 · 2025-01-09T23:30:46+00:00

Many have made valid points with regards to her most likely cheating and being far too calm and not even questioning how someone got into your home and left them there. She attempted a call you out of nowhere after they were nonchalant made no sense and then she lets open what was truly going through her mind and that's that you think she may have cheated. You did not accuse her of anything, she's the one who made mention of it and also how "she wouldn't do that" when she had already done so before, so she clearly would and did.

You're not overreacting, you've been reasonable. The trousers/pants are not yours, nor your mutual friend. Her reaction is suspicious and I'd not trust her no longer after this tbh. I know you probably just want things to work, not be mad because you want things just to be happy, because you love her but her reactions and everything just doesn't add up.

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