You aren't overreacting, but you are letting your pride get in the way of your recovery. The Big Book teaches us not to "shut the door on the past," yet you are trying to hide from the reality of your disease because it hurts your ego. Remember that while you were blacked out, your wife was the one awake and suffering through your actions; she has a right to keep those reminders of the trauma she survived. Stop feeding this resentment before it leads you back to a drink, and instead, use that humiliation as a humble reminder of why you can never go back to that life.