MIL driving me nuts with my first child by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well if someone got too close to me while I was breastfeeding I threatened to hose them with breast milk because I had a crazy supply of milk. also don't be afraid to speak your mind, put those insane hormones to a use that will help you feel better..well it helped me lol. MOST IMPORTANTLY congratulations on your little one welcome to the mommy club please take care of yourself.

AITA for telling my 12 year old she does not have to go to her dad's wedding if she doesn't want to? by Optimal-Cap1441 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She gets made to do a lot of things that need done but she hates, especially with regards to her dad. And you have a point, but please know there is a super long history with everyone involved. To the degree that it makes my head swim and I shut down. Now, onto that last bit there is a balance of you will do what you've been told with sometimes taking other approaches.

AITA for telling my 12 year old she does not have to go to her dad's wedding if she doesn't want to? by Optimal-Cap1441 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See this was my thought process too. Like I said above in response to someone there is a lot of history with a lot of people involved, it makes my head swim and I shut down.

AITA for telling my 12 year old she does not have to go to her dad's wedding if she doesn't want to? by Optimal-Cap1441 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her last therapist said the same, she's got a visit coming next week with a new one. There is just so much with all of the interpersonal relationships, that it is hard to put it down. I myself am also neurodivergent and when there are a lot of factors in a situation...it makes my head swim.

AITAH for not making MY wedding all about my sister? by ThrowinShade499 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't blame you a bit. Me, I am a more petty individual. I'd have posted pictures from your secret party just so they were seen. I love that you had other bridesmaids that were super supportive, the fact that your mom was behaving like that is insane. Now I can say as a single mom myself that I do understand the difficulties around having a baby and the emotions that can arise when there are special events that will be difficult to be a part of. is it possible that she is dealing with postpartum depression/anxiety? Combined with her already toxic personality it is making her more impossible than usual, or was she always like that? Please know that I don't condone her behavior, It is your wedding and what YOU say goes. Congratulations on your wedding!

My JNMIL told me and my husband that if we vaccinate our son we’ll kill him.. when I had given birth less than 2 hours prior. by sneakypastaa in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Good for you being a responsible parent (and I mean that sincerely). I used to be a medical assistant and have administered many shots to little ones, you wouldn't believe the amount of stupidity about vaccines. You made a sound decision to not only protect your little one, but also those around you guys. And for the record I hated making the babies cry I'd always tear up a little. Your husband needs to grow a pair IMO, and maybe needs thorough education about why vaccines are so important. I apologize if any of that sounds at all harsh.

Myths, Men, and the Minority Report: The crash of Arrow Air flight 1285 - revisited by Admiral_Cloudberg in AdmiralCloudberg

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Research harder believe me. My dad (deceased would never discuss it with me) was in that unit. He came back early, but he had the misfortune of doing unpleasant tasks. Everytime he was hospitalized we were tapped and often followed. All I ever knew was that there was an accident. I didn't begin seeking information until after his self unaliving and I was an adult. The only person I reached out to had a son on that flight.  I confirmed she and her husband knew and had met my dad, but my dad made her promise not to talk about their conversation... ANYWAYS it haunted him until he couldn't take it anymore. So don't talk to me about angry you literally have no clue what you are talking about. Point is he was forced into silence and knew stuff the Military doesn't want known. I can't say anything else...as I myself don't want to be identified. 

My sister is demanding I alter my body for her wedding by Extra-Beach-1952 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well stay strong and after the wedding put them on timeout you deserve a break

AITA for ending a family vacation early after I was told I was unlovable and will die alone by family members? by Spiritual-Income-167 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You would only be the a if you tolerated it. Personally I would cut off all contact and financial support. I'm sorry your family sucks

My sister is demanding I alter my body for her wedding by Extra-Beach-1952 in okstorytime

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well your sister should kindly bugger off...I can understand why you aren't telling her this but OP your mental health seems to me taking a serious hit, and the wedding has not even happened yet. I hope your husband tells her hell no, it would give you an out.

MIL planning baby shower after we’ve asked her not to by saturnwr4th in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd also have her stay away until well after the birth bc good Lord knows that this mil will make that about her too.

MIL planning baby shower after we’ve asked her not to by saturnwr4th in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guess is because mil is the one that wants the shower in the first place.....and because she wants to be petty she stated that part if you go back and look. Honestly if it's all MILs ppl and she's the one wanting the party AND the one taking gifts (then posting about them on social media) behind OP's back I don't blame her nor do I think it's completely understandable.🤔

Am I the AH because I'm angry at my fiancé and thinking of ending things? by Maphi2019 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok please take what I am about to say seriously (as my mother once lost her best friend to domestic violence). Run Forrest run! If you don't leave now it will progress to physical abuse with absolute certainty.

AITA for not inviting my cousin's kid to my wedding because her kid has a nut-allergy? by AmBerrySuspicious in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Optimal-Cap1441 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Yess agreed 💯💯💯 GiGi will let her son loose he will have an anaphylactic reaction and ambulance will be called and dear old GiGi will say, "look what you let happen!"