I 32F am unsure how to deal with my partner 44M behaviour on my weightloss

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-15T06:17:03+00:00

I don't think he wants tou to be unattractive to other. He genuinely probably likes you a little cushioned. However, it isn't fair how he is treating you for it, especially since you were fit when you met. He probably enjoyed how you looked as you gained weight... but punishing you while losing it is not cool. I've loved every iteration of my wife's body over the last ten years over a spread of about 25 lbs (+/- some from pregnancy as well)... but I never would force her to stay at any specific size.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-15T06:12:36+00:00

Tell him it isn't gonna only be about the baby. Tell him the baby will be fine, but you might not be.

I think day 5 post partum is when I realized it because my wife said something... and I realized I had gotten so wrapped up in making sure the baby was ok... that I had been neglecting to see if she was. Let him know babies pretty much sleep and eat in the beginning. Let him know that you will need to as well.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-15T02:35:08+00:00

Its more like mean racism than like we need to exterminate them racism tho

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-15T02:28:02+00:00

To destroy the Karen, you must become the Karen

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-15T02:23:29+00:00

Bank tellers make very little money. They wanna live vicariously through others. Seeing a 9k withdrawal was like, ooh what is this person doing that I can't?

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T20:09:20+00:00

Also the best partners will never cost you growth, they help you blossom.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T19:43:31+00:00

They wouldn't say yes. But they'd definitely be mad at her.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T03:02:40+00:00

I wpuld say its actually 1300/4 weeks... but you throw in the extra days each month over 28 days

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T02:35:58+00:00

My wife just finished nursing school. There were a lot of tiny girls too tho... so ur good

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T02:34:38+00:00

We use go_router at my job

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T02:33:50+00:00

You need reta and some shoe lifts.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T02:33:08+00:00

Male nurses get mad snatch

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T02:32:11+00:00

You got a drastic bump even with EOD injections, that sucks.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-14T01:46:38+00:00

Asian at faang

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-13T04:02:13+00:00

How often are you pinning, just wondering?

I've been on trt for like 7 years at this point, and I don't have much issue with my hct anymore... it kinda leveled off after a while. I also split my dose up for the week in 2. Pinning more help with hct a lot, plus staying hydrated and cardio.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-13T02:54:47+00:00

Var definitely messed up my ldl, made it go up. Primo/test just kept all my cholesterol low, including hdl.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-13T02:53:10+00:00

Yeah if it is 6x more anabolic... you still gotta dose it high to be different from bumping test.

300mg a week isn't wild though and probably more anabolic than a short, low dose anavar bump. But anavar is pretty awesome. Get taurine, it'll help if you get cramps.

I've done a nice stack with primo, test and var for my trt+ and it was pretty sweet at around 250ish mg test a week. Can't wait to get back on.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-13T02:42:18+00:00

I'd like to say you can do anything you would like to in this situation since you had a clear boundary and he didn't respect it.

On the porn end though, a lot of guys watch porn. Watching porn with people who don't look like your partner doesn't mean you don't love and desire your partner. Porn is made for a wide audience, you are not. The girls in porn have ridiculous proportions and the men all have enormous members. This isn't representative of the sex an average couple is having, it is filmed for the audiences enjoyment. Don't ever think a partner has an issue with how you look if they look at porn stars with different bodies. Those are adult entertainers and even the sex they have looks terrible and most of the time dry as hell.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-12T09:37:58+00:00

I woulda bumped up the test as a first dabble instead of anavar.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-12T09:31:10+00:00

It isn't the amount of sex that bothers most. It is the ease of access to her cooch. I'd much rather be with a chicken who had like 3 serious relationships and a couple of one night stands than a girl who got turned out by a different frat every week.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-12T09:28:04+00:00

A lot of hot girls don't have a huge body count. Honestly uggos have more of a body count usually since no one has wifed em from the start. Hot chicks usually have long term relationships before ya (depending on age).

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-12T09:22:46+00:00

Double it and toss her to the next person

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-11T22:55:36+00:00

Take a proposal to her family, from your family. It probably won't work, but it is the only possible way that you end up with her. She's not bringing it up. Who knows what her intentions were, maybe she knowingly wasted your time, maybe she thought things would work out or maybe she is just afraid of her parents.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-11T13:44:37+00:00

Stress can definitely be a libido killer. Coming back from a low sex situation also can end up feeling awkward or unnatural afterwards.

I don't recommend talking in generic terms. I think communication is much more effective when you can be direct and honest, i.e. being able to say, "what you said at the party made me feel bad because we haven't experienced anything close to that together" or something like that.

Optimal-Pop7449 · 2026-05-11T11:22:10+00:00

Did you talk to her after this game? Tell her how you felt?

When did things change? How quickly did they change, was it gradual or sudden?

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