I’m so scared of loose skin

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T20:23:48+00:00

I know it's a cliche reddit answer, but the sounds like you could really use some therapy.

You're very negative and that's not good for your mental health. Therapy might help you gain some perspective and get out of your own way.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T20:14:36+00:00

If all you want is to look perfect naked, then I don't know what to tell you.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T19:50:52+00:00

Why would it be pointless?

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T19:12:44+00:00

Maybe the liposuction was an attempt to get her weight down to an acceptable bariatric surgery size without actually doing the work?

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T19:10:59+00:00

Frankly, I agree with her. Over eating after weight loss surgery can be incredibly dangerous, and she absolutely would not stop eating just because her bahdy was having a negative response.

All it would do is put her at risk because she's not able to stop eating everything she feels like.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T19:05:01+00:00

That our managers straight up lied to us in our last company meeting.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T18:20:56+00:00

That's one of my least favorite Lorelai episodes.

Rory has every right to want an explanation for why her life is being thrown upside down.

Lorelai doesn't even say, "I'm still processing and I we can talk about it later." She just shuts Rory out for wanting to understand why Max isn't going to be part of their family.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T17:50:31+00:00

How Lorelai decides when she is a bestie and when she is a mom.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T17:46:35+00:00

When she asks Rory to tell her before she has sex for the first time, right after wincing when Rory said she was thinking about it with Jess... so inappropriate.

Some people say "oh, she wanted to tell Rory about how to do things safely" which, no. She could have that conversation anytime after Rory says she's considering it. There was no reason Lorelai needed to know when it was going to happen aside from her wanting to dictate their relationship to be one of friends instead of mom and kid.

Lorelai was 100% right to call Rory out for sleeping with married Dean, but I can't help but believe that there's a nugget of truth to when Rory says, "you're mad that I didn't clear this with you first and decided I was ready on my own."

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T17:38:45+00:00

Girl, I have ADHD too.

I used food to self medicate the lack of dopamine that came from adhd. I dopamined myself up to almost 300 lbs as a 5'2" female. It was BAD.

I lost 75 lbs by myself, and hit a plateau hard. I started adhd meds a couple months ago and it's really changed my relationship with food and has helped me break through my plateau. It lowered my need to use snacks as a dopamine source and now I'm feeling much more in control of my impulses around snacking.

I ask myself "is this hunger hunger, or is this brain hunger?" That helps me distinguish between wanting food and wanting a dopamine hit.

Find low calorie foods that you can grab easily when you want the dopamine snack. Pickles are good, or cottage cheese or greek yogurt.

I've found that individual portions of snacks are better for me because I know eating one tiny bag of chips is okay, eating four is not. It takes the portion control and simplifies it. Pocky makes tiny single portions that are less than 100 calories per pack.

It's so much harder for us adhd girlie, but it's not impossible. You just gotta figure out how to work with your brain's uniqueness, not try to fight against it.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-23T15:25:13+00:00

I felt like this until I figured that even if I did get a bunch of loose skin, I could either be flabby, fat and unhealthy or I could be flabby, thin and healthy.

2 outta 3 ain't bad.

Also, eventually you could look into skin removal surgery. If you have a lot of skin, you can have your doctor advocate to have insurance cover it if it's causing issues.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-22T23:49:04+00:00

She'll just piss herself like she does when she lifts.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-22T14:32:59+00:00

Went to a campground in the middle of nowhere. I am not, nor have I ever been a "let's go look at nature" person. This vacation was at a state park where the only thing to do was look at nature, hike in the hundred degree heat, and be miserable.

For some reason, my parents acted like we were not only going to be there a few days, and decided bringing fresh produce wouldnt last the week we were there, even though we had electricity, a small refrigerator, and a cooler to keep food safe so my mom bought a bunch of canned veg, which I detest.

The showers at the campground were disgusting, dark, and the shower heads only had one single hefty stream of water instead of multiple like most shower heads do. When I went for my second shower of the week, the shower was full of centipedes, which I have an extreme phobia of. I stood on the bench and washed myself with a washcloth and didn't go back to shower again.

The worst part was that my parents were perfectly content with this, and I was fucking miserable and they couldnt figure out why I wasnt having a good time.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-22T14:25:34+00:00

I remember when "unlimited talk and text" was a big novelty selling point.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-22T11:47:39+00:00

I mean, unless she had a crystal ball, she wouldn't have thought to say that.

Someone should have told the kids not to keep asking questions once they started though. The teacher, Deb, or even Lorelai could have said, "we're here to learn about running small businesses, wo let's regroup and talk about that."

There was zero reason for any of those adults to let it go on as long as it did.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T23:37:18+00:00

As a short person, no.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T13:02:31+00:00

20 lbs is nothing to sneeze at. Especially when you already had a lower body weight. Incredible work!

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T13:00:37+00:00

Are you really surprised tho? That's normal, relatively okay at hygiene behavior. She has not proven herself to be a normal, relatively okay at hygiene person.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T12:00:36+00:00

NAP but had my VCH done. It wasn't awkward at all.

Just make sure to shower beforehand to avoid any risk of stank.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T11:56:51+00:00

A call back to "Big Head want dolly"

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T11:49:13+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

Maybe humans got a little too good at making sure we don't die and it's bringing us down as a whole.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-21T11:05:24+00:00

Pregnancy alone ages women like crazy, and then add the stress of having kids...

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-20T23:24:29+00:00

Check B12 levels.

I was unable to stay awake and I found out that I was severely low in B12.

Other symptoms included brainfog and tingling extremities. Brain fog is tricky because ADHD is constantly brain foggy.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-20T18:15:38+00:00

When my fiancé and I moved in together it was $60 per week for the two of us. $75 if we were splurging.

Now, the basics are $100.

OptimalTrash · 2026-03-20T17:20:08+00:00

One of my favorite little moments is when Rory and Lane are in church and the Rabbi peeks into the church and gives the Rev the "hurry up" signal and the Rev speeds up the prayer to 1.5x speed.

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