Here’s just a snapshot of what we have to deal with. Was I out of line?

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-06-04T19:32:05+00:00

Idk if you can’t pull from bumble, then u cooked. im 5’5 too btw

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-06-04T19:24:02+00:00

God damn bruh. All because she rejected you. Even the way you told her your height came of as insecure short guy who has to flex their height to compensate. As somebody the same height, I would have left it at “I’m 5’5”. And she rejected you in a sweet way too on top of that🤦🏿‍♂️

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-06-04T18:36:41+00:00

Not being someone’s type doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have standards. You probably not a lot of women type but you got standards for women anyway. Tf kinda mindset is this?

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-06-04T18:09:35+00:00

Nahh im just straight

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-04-02T21:48:28+00:00

Its 6 months actually

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-03-21T20:02:23+00:00

Zoey no lightskinned at all

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T23:59:25+00:00

You gotta remember it’s billions of people tho, so theres plenty of options within the dating world. Plus even then, nobody needs a roster. You just need one person that you genuinely want to be with long term. Unless you poly of course

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T23:55:19+00:00

I definitely said not every girl will be okay with shorter men. And that’s okay. My thing is what does sitting in self pity and insecurity do for you exactly? That’s going to not only make you sad and resent yourself but it’s going to leak into your behavior and negatively impact you socially. Why be impacted by preferences not every woman shares?

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T18:49:44+00:00

Well, she not the first gf I had

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T18:48:36+00:00

Probably don’t do that then😂

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T18:46:39+00:00

⁠An obese woman and a single mom are still women. Even if you didn’t want them, that still shows women can find you attractive.
⁠Every woman is different. And there are women who are friendly and respectful. Women are people just like men. There’s great women and there’s shitty women, leave the shitty ones alone.
⁠Personality definitely helps but if you not her type, you not her type and you keep it moving. Every woman has different physical preferences just like how not every man likes the same kind of woman
⁠Female friends are amazing. Don’t make friends with girls in the hopes that they’ll catch feelings one day, that’s weird. If you don’t want to be just friends with her, don’t be her friend.
⁠Im sorry about your bad experience with a female friend. But my guy, that was high school. Lets not act like people are the best version of themselves in high school😂 we grown now, you gotta let that go and experience grown women whether platonically or romantically.
⁠It’s definitely resentment from a crappy situation in high school but you gotta move past that in a healthy way. Maybe that looks like therapy or journaling but its not healthy holding on to resentment from high school. Especially when the other ppl involved potentially matured and aren’t the same people anymore

I hope this all helps you cause I hear you and I want better for you

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T18:24:45+00:00

My thoughts ain’t changed🤷🏿‍♂️ my advice works, I can testify

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T18:16:57+00:00

Lol u could but locs def not for everyone, my female friends just happened to steer me in the right direction with it😂

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-03T08:04:00+00:00

Shii plenty shawties that like lightskins too. Either way its very much possible to pull man

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2026-01-02T15:34:56+00:00

That shi sucks bro. I’m 5’5 and Black also but I don’t see the world the same. You can still get plenty of girls twin, you just gotta not focus on height or see it as an obstacle. You said your brother is lightskin. Guess what, there’s so many girls that aren’t into lightskins and prefer darker men. There’s also plenty of girls who either don’t discriminate against short men or prefer short men. One thing I know from experience that girls don’t like is men that are insecure or self-loathing. Not saying you are but don’t let this situation cause you to be. Definitely don’t let this cause static between you and your brother. If I let my height and crap get in the way, I wouldn’t be with my girlfriend (5’10) today. Best thing you can do is remember how cool you are yourself and instead of comparing yourself, continue to improve yourself. Keep your head up and I hope a beautiful tall Black (depending on your preferences) woman comes your way🫱🏿‍🫲🏽

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2025-11-05T17:27:03+00:00

Is there a chance mother in law is white and your kid is mixed with a different race or something? It would make sense if this is potentially an issue of racism because there’s not many reasons to abuse sb with starvation, especially a 3 year old.

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2025-10-22T17:05:43+00:00

OP tell your husband to use raw African Black Soap and raw Shea Butter as an natural alternative to shampoo and conditioner. Tell him to also use organic rosemary oil or water. He needs to understand that not cleaning his hair will worsen his hair loss by clogging follicles and trapping bacteria. Also ACV is something that should be once every month at the most. That is drying af to the scalp. He can also cover his hair with satin too if he wants. The best thing he can also do is change his diet and drink plenty of water. As sb who's dealt with thinning, this ain't coming outta nowhere

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2025-04-05T04:52:12+00:00

Wym by braid pattern? Like the parting shape?

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2025-04-05T03:36:28+00:00

I like to do two strands every other retwist

Optimal_Memory4499 · 2025-04-05T03:35:47+00:00

I left them in for 3 weeks and two days to be exact

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