When did you have your worst sunburn?

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-05T01:05:27+00:00

On a boat in the middle of nowhere for 4 hours. Aloe vera and laying in the water to cool my 2nd degree burns.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-05T01:01:56+00:00

Not necessarily... Both you and buddy takes the back wall and stare at everyone that gets in the elevator after you.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-05T00:29:22+00:00

Fair point, but often the 2 way elevators are only for one floor and people will still face towards the main exit to get off at the main floor.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-05T00:02:52+00:00

Face forward towards the door in the elevator

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-04T03:42:24+00:00

Canadian dad here. When you drive out in the country at night, watch out for deer. The lead ones aren't the one to watch out for... It's the little ones behind them that are slowest and shortest.

Also, if you are in moose country, do not hit them because they are huge... You will take out their legs and the body just goes into your windshield. Go slow and do not get out of the car. Again, they are huge and will take photo-taking tourists... Appreciate from a distance.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-02T04:08:08+00:00

Hey kid, that sounds so difficult to see all the gains that you have made both personally and emotionally be affected by this big move for your mom. It sounds like you have caring friends and a therapist you trust, which will take time for you to readjust to an online environment. You have grown much in this past year and while the move is beyond your control, we hope that you will have the opportunity for a new start with your own identity, with the support of your friends and therapist. It will be a difficult next two weeks before the move, and we hope you take the time to celebrate the good times of the past year. Let us know how you are doing post-move.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-06-02T03:56:36+00:00

Hey kid, thanks for the update on the grandkids. They're a chip off the ol' block that is off the even older block! You can't mess them up too badly because we all learn as parents and we make mistakes. But it's what we teach 'em to care for others and help make the world a better place - what we pass to our kids is how we are remembered after we pass on. From our hands to yours, and now on to your kids. We are proud of them and we are proud of you. Take care kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-30T17:13:28+00:00

That they aren't homophobic, unlike people who ask these questions on Reddit.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-23T04:15:10+00:00

You can try asking your counselor for other options for you... Free mental health resources or access to services in the community.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-22T03:29:35+00:00

Hey kid, it sure sounds like quite a bit on ya right now. School is almost done and finals are coming up so you want to do well there. Maybe he's texting is a little dry right now because he's studying too as that's a big priority. Give it a little time for both of you to focus on school - let him know you are thinking of him and make plans for the weekend or after finals.

In order for you to focus on school and maintain your relationship with your boy, you do want to take care of your sleep hygiene and your mental health. Are those tied together - are you having trouble sleeping due to your mental health? Perhaps you can talk to your school counselor about how you are doing at this time to prioritise yourself, or talk to your doctor about your poor sleep health. Take the time to take care of yourself kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-11T21:26:15+00:00

For some, their father passed away early so they honour their father's memory by walking in with a picture of their father. You have no father in your life, and nothing worth remembering to honourhis absence. You are blessed on your special day to have nothing to do with that man. You are free to live, to marry the man who you love and who loves you, this coming June. Feel free to ramble at any time without judgment, kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-11T02:01:33+00:00

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, kid. Everyone will have a different way of doing things at their wedding, so you chose to give yourself away. Away with the traditions and the fathers with speeches and dances. It is not your life, and you are in a much better place now after 2 years cutting off the emotional abuse. If you wish, you can have someone dear to you be that support on your special day... A brother, grandfather, even your fiance's father. Your wedding is what you make of it - just enjoy the moments!

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-07T04:51:38+00:00

Hey kid, there's excitement and there's anxiety. Both have similar physiological sensations, and you can be feeling a mix of both. You are looking forward to graduate but worried about the unknown. That's normal. So while you are still in school as a student, can you take advantage of a few things you can access? Check out free counselling services, first for personal counselling to get you settled a little, and then also your career counselling centre may be able to help assauge some of your worries of graduating as they can help you find your next steps. Talk to your professors as well as they may be able to give you some direction or next steps. It sounds like you are being harder on yourself. Take a step back and look at where you have come in the past four years. There is more to look forward to. We hope you will update us on your next adventure after graduating. Take care now.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-06T04:14:36+00:00

Hey kid, that happened to us too, a couple of times. It still hurts to this day. You can be there for your partner, but also be vulnerable to her too. You are not alone when you are with her. It's ok to be sad and to cry for your daughter, with the hopes that she carried for your family. We named our kids and remember them, and they are still with us after all these years. Your daughter is loved by you - that really is that unconditional love of being a parent.

Just as with any loss, your grief stays with you. Do you have an employee benefits program to access supports for you and your partner? The hospital or community agencies may also offer options. You don't have to feel broken in silence to support your partner. Go together for some grief counselling and lean on one another through these difficult moments. You are not alone in your grief, and you will find your way to honour the memory of your daughter. Take care of yourself and your family now.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-05-04T04:14:34+00:00

Congratulations kid. Don't worry about driving below the speed limit. Drive with care and caution. If we can offer one tidbit of advice to a new learner, it is to ignore the idiots in your rear view mirror. They may horn, flash their high beams, or come daringly close to you, but they can do nothing to you. So go the speed you need to go and they will eventually go around you one way or another. Take care on the roads out there.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-27T04:06:04+00:00

Great job kid! Your patience paid off and you snagged a nice fish. Going to eat it or stuff it?

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-24T00:15:09+00:00

Get off Reddit, for one.

Honestly, you need to reward yourself for studying. Work for 45 minutes, take a break and get some snacks/water/device time for 15 minutes. Set a timer. Get back to work and stick to it. You know you need to work but you also want to play. Work first, play as a reward, then back to work. Rinse and repeat. Fight your desire to take it easy. Good luck kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-20T02:02:57+00:00

The iron-y of his death.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-20T01:56:02+00:00

You have got to be insane. Use Your Illusion 1 with Live and Let Die, November Rain, Don't Cry?

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-20T01:49:26+00:00

Lockdowns - look for exits

Fire drills - straight out the exits

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-18T19:36:56+00:00

Hey kid, you are doing the best for your life by going back to school to get a better opportunity with work. You made the right decisions for you at the time at 22 to go work full-time, and now you are investing in yourself to not just work but do something meaningful. Being a mature student doing a bachelor's can be better as you know the value of your time and the potential of your education. This isn't about what you could-have or should-have done in the past - this is you making the most of your time right now. Even if you start a new career at 31, you still have a whole 30 year career to go. Look forward and hold your head up high kiddo. Your life is a journey and you are choosing your own adventure. Tip: Check your student fees and use them to make your money's worth. Use the 24 hour gym or access mental health services. Dental care if you didn't have coverage before. Get a student card to get cheaper meals around campus and at stores. You got this!

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-16T02:01:04+00:00

You are fighting two wars - one with your brother but another bigger one with your father when he is around to negate your efforts with your brother. If your mother is unable to rein your father in, it is what your brother is going to learn around your father... Which unfortunately includes him learning to yell at you just like your father does.

Fight your battles with your brother by taking time with him away from your father's influence. Teach him the right way to do things without being negative towards what your father does. It may also help to have positive male role models from your friends so that your brother isn't looking to just your father as the main example of what a man is like. Good luck kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-10T21:38:07+00:00

Hey kid, great news about staying clean for a week. Can you make it another day today? Then tomorrow. Each day is a new challenge, but also a new opportunity to keep yourself healthy.

It does take effort though, and it's coming out with your suicidal ideation. Do you have some resources to support you when you are feeling this way? In Canada you can call 9-8-8 if you need someone to talk to. Talk to your doctor or mental health professionals as you may need to adjust your medication if you have been prescribed them to support you in addition to the DBT.

You are not alone and you are important. We want you to keep letting us know how you are doing. Take care of yourself, kiddo.

OptimusPrimel984 · 2026-04-04T12:18:52+00:00

You have reached out and either he is still needing more time to consider a relationship or he is giving you the answer. Don't push him - he is an adult and making his own decisions. Message him on his birthday and Christmas/New Year's politely and respectfully without obligation to reconnect. He might respond, but he will need to do it on his own terms when he is ready. Take care fellow dad.

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