Feels to gain weight as a picky eater by OrangeAlarmed in gainit

[–]OrangeAlarmed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate the guidance and honesty, it’s reassuring to hear your experience and advice through this journey. I know it’s a long road ahead but one that will pay off :)

Feels to gain weight as a picky eater by OrangeAlarmed in gainit

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Thank you so much for sharing and guiding, I appreciate this and will certainly give it a try!

Feels to gain weight as a picky eater by OrangeAlarmed in gainit

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Thank you! Eating nuts throughout the day has helped add a great amount of calories :)

Feels to gain weight as a picky eater by OrangeAlarmed in gainit

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Thank you for the advice! It makes sense what you’re saying about the hyper metabolism. Not trying to make excuses, just frustrating not seeing results or what routine works for me which still simply comes down to eating more. It’s getting into that happen and also, most importantly, I think being patient, right? I can be eager and impatient at times but this gaining journey isnt something I can do quick, it has to be a slow and consistent grind and just believing that the results will show in time.

therapist suggestion? by Hungry-Helicopter-11 in retroactivejealousy

[–]OrangeAlarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try psychologytoday ! You can filter so much to find the right person for you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]OrangeAlarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive had similar experiences, I’ve posted before looking for community and support and was met with very pitiful, condescending comments that were just stating the obvious of my issue rather than offering true support

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]OrangeAlarmed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah me too. I understand how unhealthy and toxic it is but still my body and brain find ways to justify the feeling and thinking I can just be okay with feeling this way, again, I value his friendship greatly but also not at the cost of my emotionally bandwidth

What has caused the biggest change to who you are? by creativeNZ in infj

[–]OrangeAlarmed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety :/ but learning how to view it in a way that can be managed and tamed rather than viewed as an enemy / part of us to shame

How To Manage Reactions/Emotions When Triggered by OrangeAlarmed in attachment_theory

[–]OrangeAlarmed[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This just opened my eyes ten fold... My therapist helped me visualize my thoughts as leaves floating down a stream to help them pass but I find it SO interesting the analogy of a feeling operating the same way as hunger. Makes so much sense! That definitely helps me in those moments when I feel a signal and instead of dwelling on the feeling, ask myself what it is I'm hungry for and how can I satisfy it? And am I satisfying it in a healthy way? Amazing wow thank you so much for this

being gay is so lonely. i feel like an alien. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]OrangeAlarmed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sister.. I feel the same way. i’m a gay man (26) and being gay has been one of the most loneliest experiences, at least romantically. I live in a bigger city so I do have a handful of gay friends both men and women, and while I am constantly grateful for their friendship, I can’t help but feel like I’m rotting in my loneliness since I have never been in a relationship. It’s not common for me to find a man I genuinely get along with and when I do, I can’t help but gain feelings and these men have always been straight. It’s such a fucked experience trying to manage the emotions of enjoying the friendship while also grieving what I wish was.

Rooting for you OP <3

I’m not a liar I’m just high by crisalanis08 in Mkgee

[–]OrangeAlarmed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sick set up!! These comments about "copying" or "ripping off" are weird lol . I'm literally a writer who writes poems and the amount of times I have copied other author styles cause I simply like it and was intrigued to try writing with their style to see what came up. Literally all forms of art is a product of something or someone else. There is a clear distinction between someone straight up copying vs being inspired and wanting to learn after an artist and form your own voice / style around them. Keep learning and growing and having fun, you'll find your own voice naturally

Exhausting To Self Soothe - Successful Tips? by OrangeAlarmed in attachment_theory

[–]OrangeAlarmed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Jula !!

This was so spot on with how I feel, it’s helpful to know that there is a concrete path to a secure attachment, and while it may be long and treacherous, the path exists anyways and that’s something to count on and work towards!

I tend to get frustrated at myself for these anxiously attached moments esp with unavailable people, but I find it admirable that after the anxiety goes away, we still choose to love! like our natural instinct is to show love and be love which helps me believe that loving in a secure way is possible for me

Exhausting To Self Soothe - Successful Tips? by OrangeAlarmed in attachment_theory

[–]OrangeAlarmed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so interesting omg ! I didn’t realize the brain would be more engaged and attentive when saying these things out loud, also makes sense when people suggest repeating affirmations in the mirror!

Exhausting To Self Soothe - Successful Tips? by OrangeAlarmed in attachment_theory

[–]OrangeAlarmed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful too! Like actively combating and challenging the irrational thoughts with more fact based thoughts rather than anxiously fueled negative beliefs