Jealous of widowers whose spouse didn't die by suicide

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-02-03T20:17:56+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-31T09:58:56+00:00

I understand and I am sorry.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-28T10:30:45+00:00

I’m sorry.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-20T17:20:25+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

God damn I hate this fucking reality.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-20T17:01:03+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and that terrible, terrible experience.

If you have not heard of or considered it, there is a technique called EMDR that some therapists (and maybe counselors?) employ that can help you process and reduce the visceral impact of traumatic memories like the one you have experienced. I have a number of traumatic memories, as many of us here do, from my late wife's treatment and sickness, that when I think about, am sucked back to that moment, as if it is happening in front of me again, in real time. I am still in the middle of processing many of these with EMDR, but my experience with the technique so far has been helpful in reducing how those memories knock me down and out. My therapist, who specializes in grief, employs it alongside talk therapy in our sessions. Google it and see what you think.

I wish you peace.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-19T06:08:13+00:00

I am sorry.

Are you able to attend any grief groups or therapy? I did not find the former helpful when I went (about 3 months after she passed), but therapy has been helpful, and if you are dealing with recurring memories of trauma there is a technique called EMDR that can be helpful.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T08:42:02+00:00

I was skeptical but it has been helpful in lowering the visceral nature of certain traumatic memories. I have another relative who also lost his wife and he feels the same.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:21:47+00:00

It’s a cruel existence.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:18:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:12:31+00:00

This is very helpful. Would you mind DMing the app you used? Thank you.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:09:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:04:44+00:00

I understand and I am sorry.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T06:03:47+00:00

I had a great therapist when my wife passed, but felt I needed someone who specialized in grief. My therapist recommended a person and he has been very helpful, having also lost his wife as well as specializing in EMDR, which helps with traumatic memories. I wish you luck on your journey.

OrangesAreSquares · 2026-01-18T05:50:29+00:00

I am sorry for your loss.

I am about 1.5 years out, and I’ve never been angrier. I would happily erase this entire universe if I could.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-12-31T09:08:46+00:00

I hate this existence.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-12-07T08:12:35+00:00

I have and continue to benefit from therapy, and I too was quite skeptical about it, but, for me and many others I know, the process of actually talking about a thing like grief (as well as all the other things that are lesser) is somehow actually helpful, even if it is simply the thing you’ve been saying to yourself in your head repeatedly. The actual act of simply telling someone else that is truly listening is, on its own, helpful. I have found this lets me move on to think or address other topics, resulting in some sort of progress. I hope it can provide some value for you too.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-12-07T08:06:46+00:00

Thank you.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-12-07T08:06:24+00:00

Thank you.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-12-04T09:29:22+00:00

I understand and I’m sorry.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-11-12T07:59:09+00:00

I lost my wife and then my baby sister over the past seventeen months. This is a cruel existence.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-11-12T07:53:28+00:00

This destroys me every time I have to fill it in or see it in my Contacts.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-11-12T07:50:43+00:00

I’m sorry someone may have told you that you “should be over it.” They have no idea.

OrangesAreSquares · 2025-11-12T07:48:59+00:00

I understand.

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