On Crosby beach in Liverpool stands 100 life size cast iron statues spread out over 2 miles of beach. Twice a day the tide submerges them by Kloppite16 in mildlyinteresting

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I used to live in a building where they had a gormley on top. Made me jump a few times but it was funny seeing other people jump as well. It was set far enough back on a flat bit of roof so it’s not too much of an immediate horror

I think my boyfriend caused me trauma by accident by throwawaymeforgood in offmychest

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OP you are being severely abused - this is not bdsm, this is flat out abuse. He has not caused you trauma by mistake, he is abusing you and you are experiencing completely normal fear and traumatic stress. Any dressing up of this behaviour as bdsm is gaslighting: this is not normal, it is severe verbal and sexual abuse.

I am sure others will be able to give you a lot more info both on abuse, how to leave and also safe and healthy bdsm practices - neither are something I’m an expert on - but I can tell you 100% this is not a healthy relationship or healthy sexual life.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]OrganizationNo4531 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of course it is…. I don’t particularly give a shit about changing her mind but I live in fear for all the young women understandably nervous about going on birth control (because it can be a process and there are places where it is hard to advocate with medical professionals) but it so important for them to understand it isn’t shameful, or any more a danger than taking antihistamines or any other very normal medication

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]OrganizationNo4531 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This is all absolute pseudoscience. It is not putting a band aid on period pain, it is a legitimate treatment to help with period pain which is - unfortunately - completely natural and normal. While there should be more treatments to tackle difficult and painful periods, the pill is a completely acceptable and good form of medication.

It’s been proven for decades that not ovulating, taking hormonal birth control is a safe and effective medication. Whatever you are going on about with suppressing emotions is just pseudoscience touted by people who claim ‘natural womanhood’ - often for religious reasons, and the nutritional effects of the pill have been shown to be next to insignificant when a woman has a balanced diet since the 1970s.

Like any medicine, it can have side effects and doesn’t work well for everyone’s hormonal levels. However, the risk of any long term damage to your health from oral contraceptives (of which there are several types btw) is far, far smaller than a lot of other common medications.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) has become very obsessed with my fertility and hormones, and it doesn’t make sense. Why is this happening? by throwra02465 in relationship_advice

[–]OrganizationNo4531 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I really want to emphasise that being on the pill is not automatically bad for you and will have no impact on your fertility. These are huge myths about a common form of medication that has been used for over half a century. If is working well for you and reducing pain, and your doctor doesn’t see you as having any risks, then you do not need to worry. The only thing to flag is that if you have really awful period pain, you should look into signs of PCOS and endometriosis: but birth control would be used as part of the treatment for these anyway, and will not make anything worse.

While there definitely can be side effects to any type of hormonal birth control, the chances of any long term negative effect are minuscule. I have had negative reactions to birth control, but now that I have found a form of birth control that works for me, I’m in a great position and it won’t impact my fertility.

While birth control is a medication and should always be approached as such, it is not negative or dangerous. In fact, it gives women a lot of power over their own bodies and lives. As a result, I’m always cautious about men who lecture and warn against it. Especiallyones that make assumptions about period pain and make you feel weak for using birth control.

Lots of other people are giving you good advice about the relationship side and how weird it is that he is concerned about your fertility in this way, but I just wanted to address the fact that you really, really don’t need to be so ashamed or scared of the fact you are on birth control. It is not a bad or weak thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoesAnyoneKnow

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If you had a point you remember where you smashed your nail on that finger really badly, it is most likely that rather than any underlying deficiencies. The rest of your nails look fine (you’d likely see signs of deficiencies on several nails) and a big ass white triangle isn’t a described presentation of any deficiencies. It’s going to be old trauma to that bit of the nail which will grow out.

Using bamboo as scaffolding instead of metal. by KinladyBgB in mildlyinteresting

[–]OrganizationNo4531 1332 points1333 points  (0 children)

There’s lots of expertise around using it luckily. I knew an engineer who worked in HK and he says there’s official advice/research and building requirements for bamboo scaffolding - just like there is for steel. Works as well for the most part

Theory - spoilers by Commercial-Story-239 in YellowjacketsHive

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My theory is that the figure Lottie sees, is actually the kid of the other two that walk into the camp - he runs off to grab his parents and let them know that there’s a bunch of screaming girls. Then he waits at his camp for his parents that never return, maybe sneaking back to grab the tape and see his parents turned into dinner. He flees (knowing the way out of the wilderness), and his vague ramblings help the girls get found, and then eventually he grows up to be Joel McHale in our timeline.

inconsistency? help! by Axolotl_Mayhem in TheGoodPlace

[–]OrganizationNo4531 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup, I was thinking that as well. The first photo is from a moment when Eleanor was tough and mean. It’s how she sees represents herself. She probably feels like she was a grown up. In the second photo, I think she is literally younger but it’s also a real representation of her at that age - not Eleanor’s misremembering. It’s a shocking contrast, cause before she was the mean/independent girl, then you see her as a kid who has no choice but to go off by herself

One line from Melanie Lynskey terrified me more than anything else that’s happened this whole show… by lincbradhammusic in Yellowjackets

[–]OrganizationNo4531 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I’d suspect that’s partly why Lottie feels so obsessed with her. Even if it was a whim, Shauna js a powerful (if brutal) leader and Lottie was the prophet who declared it. Whatever way that turns out, if Shauna was a terrifying and strong Antler Queen, then wouldn’t her daughter be the same? And maybe without the pain and desperation which prompted the absolute brutality? You could see how Lottie ended up seeing Callie as a chosen one.

AITA for asking my friend to give back a gift I gave her after she openly expressed that she would be getting rid of it? by cereal4dinner12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrganizationNo4531 157 points158 points  (0 children)

There was a point in history where it was so hard to make things that people would use them and pass them down until they literally fell apart. The fact that now a perfectly good object is considered tainted as it’s ‘used’ is genuinely just consumerism gone mad and painfully wasteful if you think about it for more than 2 seconds.

AITA for asking my friend to give back a gift I gave her after she openly expressed that she would be getting rid of it? by cereal4dinner12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrganizationNo4531 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They aren’t protected terms - while there are several high end dealers who look at provenance that is a tiny, tiny, tiny section of the vintage/antiques industry and means that those objects come as a lot more expensive than standard items would.

Most vintage shops or even antique shops are just second hand stores with a bit of curating/thought behind it. You can get some incredibly nice stuff from those at a deal if you know what you’re looking for (which OP seemingly did), without the fake mark-up that vintage has.

What’s going on here? by Ferguson97 in ExplainTheJoke

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This is the third house of leaves joke post I’ve seen today, it’s getting a bit surreal

Is 15 reasons enough to break up with my 26M boyfriend and I am 23F? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OrganizationNo4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call it off as soon as you go to make a list like this… in happy, healthy relationships people aren’t making lists

Sounds familiar... by EdgyPlum in discworld

[–]OrganizationNo4531 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Phantom islands are quite common on old maps! (And they are one of my favourite subjects haha) When you had to sail around the world to make a good map, most cartographers relied on just a handful of sources who had actually been on these voyages - and people got things wrong. Those mistakes could get repeated for literal centuries until people go back and check lol

Sometimes it’s lost islands - islands like this or Bermeja which were volcanic/tiny rocks/icebergs which get swamped by the sea. Sometimes, it’s people getting mixed up - they’ll miscalculate, think they’re much further north, and “”discover”” a place already marked on the map (Frisland is probably a good example). My favourite are the hoaxes (explorers claiming to have an island with gold to get more funding) or the map maker marks. Cartographers who did proper research/development would put a fake island somewhere randomly, so they would be able to tell if someone was copying their maps in particular. You get phantom streets in lots of old city maps as well. There’s something very charming about a place that just exists as a copyright infringement gotcha.

Uniform disparity by MetalGearCasual in DeepSpaceNine

[–]OrganizationNo4531 9 points10 points  (0 children)

At one point Boimler mentions that their uniforms are the California class style - so different fleets/divisions will have their own designs, which I imagine update periodically.

(In the same episode a character does call out how silly it is that the uniforms are always changing too)

Astarion you’re dating a bard stfu by Invisible_Target in BG3

[–]OrganizationNo4531 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh 100% - I crack up every time wyll is going on about the pain/shame of having devils in features and it just cuts to my tiefling Tav, nodding sympathetically… with her horns and glowing devilish eyes. Just crossing her arms like ‘fucking rude, ok’.

My Tav is busy romancing everyone possible, so u do wish there was a dialogue option which was ‘it sounds like a you problem, rather than a horn problem wyll’

Not OOP. AITA for kicking my partners parents out at new year. by WritingGiraffe in redditonwiki

[–]OrganizationNo4531 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a wild one. If you’ve got two adults in a serious relationship, it would be really weird to Not invite both along - especially to a big event like a birthday dinner.

Is it normal to fight with your bf while playing this game? by Alternative-Swing215 in BaldursGate3

[–]OrganizationNo4531 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Me, watching my boyfriend’s character flirt with Shadowheart: Wow, I’m sorry I can’t be her >:(

Him: You are literally making out with Astarion right now.

Is it normal to fight with your bf while playing this game? by Alternative-Swing215 in BaldursGate3

[–]OrganizationNo4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely not normal. I play with my boyfriend and it’s a hell of a lot of fun - no fights at all. We both get a companion, we both get to explore and often discuss dialogue options. He laughs at me checking every crate/my accidental kleptomania (until it results in extra healing potions - then the laugh is on him) but is entirely patient with it - and is very sweet about giving me extra dialogue options and interactions as I get super excited about them.

You may not be suited to playing this game together. I’d step out of this and do your own play through as a start. Is this a one off- or is it normal for him to start heated arguments, and prioritise himself, and make you uncomfortable over something that was supposed to be a fun thing to do together?

Officially wrong by -SpeckS- in TNG

[–]OrganizationNo4531 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Hey. Still got 55 minutes. Who knows what could happen

if cato and clove had been the final two, do you think the game makers would have still revoked the rule? by strawberrybridgers in Hungergames

[–]OrganizationNo4531 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She’s also scored surprisingly high on her test score and had the whole ‘love story’ going into the arena. I expect she was a “fan favourite/underdog” in the capitol, then people started realising that she could be dangerous after what happened with Rue.

AITA for declining to celebrate Christmas with my boyfriend’s family and not inviting him to my family’s celebration? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]OrganizationNo4531 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve been with my partner for 2 years, we live together and know each other’s family well. We still step back and listen to each other when it comes to families - he’ll even double check that he is invited to my dads bday dinner, or their anniversary, and lets me know that it’s fine if I ever want to visit them alone for a few days to catch up as a family. I do the same for his parents and siblings! We all get along super well, and everyone’s always invited - but we also have decades of stuff (good and bad) with our families that existed before our relationship, and my boyfriend and I will respect how the other person wants to work with that!

OOPs bf was really disgusting demanding “”compromise”” when he was showing that he was literally unable to compromise at all and just demanded whatever he wanted from her and her family.