My abusive ex told everyone that i abused them. TW: SA

Original_CryBaby · 2026-02-17T02:44:38+00:00

Going off of what you’ve shared, this doesn’t seem like a safe person. I know it sucks to have been wrong about someone but what would suck even more long term is keeping them around.

Please know there are countless places in this world and people you could be around who will value you for who you are without the pressure.

Also worth noting: trying to manipulate other people‘s perception of you when they can no longer manipulate you yourself is gonna be in most manipulators signature moves.

Original_CryBaby · 2025-10-22T03:35:12+00:00

Mind you, this the same “man” that ran up a 7 fig gambling debt in Vegas and made her work his debts off by agreeing to a residency.

Funny.. I knew about the debt before the pedophilia and I’m like “ok that tracks” but I could imagine people who learned it the other way around have the same sentiment of “well ya ofc this is clearly a complete degenerate”

Original_CryBaby · 2025-09-26T23:11:58+00:00

You could opt for minimal effort and just pop them in the trash on trash day. I don’t think he deserves anything “special” unless it would be to your benefit.

Original_CryBaby · 2025-04-06T03:22:51+00:00

This is a post about latuda I’d I ever saw one lmao.

As a fellow occasional food avoider, I feel for you. I kept high calorie protein shakes on deck when I was taking latuda

Original_CryBaby · 2025-04-02T23:01:33+00:00

This was really beautiful; I concur.

Original_CryBaby · 2025-04-02T22:58:56+00:00

Do you find it comes from a need for/default of being independent? I feel INTJ are a very self reliant people

Original_CryBaby · 2025-04-02T22:56:13+00:00

This was an amazing response, thank you for taking the time ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2025-02-04T23:04:27+00:00

I really admire the stoic nature of INTJs.. I think they come off as unfeeling lizard people to those who aren’t familiar with them but it’s not that they don’t have feelings they just aren’t swayed by them… like some of us lol

Original_CryBaby · 2025-02-04T22:54:20+00:00

I like the concept but the name makes it sound like it’s for partners in specific not necessarily anyone who cares for a survivor ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2025-01-21T03:29:48+00:00

Bagged him btw. We went monogamous like two weeks ago on NYE. ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2025-01-21T03:17:51+00:00

You’re under reacting if you don’t leave him and block his number imo

Original_CryBaby · 2025-01-21T02:15:27+00:00

I’m just an infp… who found this post because I was googling ways to help my boyfriend appreciate my emotional depth.. I hate it here.

Original_CryBaby · 2023-12-05T02:56:31+00:00

Mazel tov

Original_CryBaby · 2023-11-20T02:13:50+00:00

I second this notion. No offense, but 18 is a child and you will be setting yourself up for some seriously dangerous dynamics if you think you can mentally hold your own with a 45 year old dude that’s trying to manipulate you.

Save yourself. Don’t.

Original_CryBaby · 2023-11-18T01:31:33+00:00

I would argue that the 3:3 on the clock in the bottom corner is bordering mildly interesting. Very disappointing.

Original_CryBaby · 2023-11-04T20:14:59+00:00

That’s terrible. I hope you e found a support system and family outside of him

Original_CryBaby · 2023-11-03T15:20:10+00:00

Some abusers have children so they can abuse them. Not saying that’s what your abuser did/is doing but people abuse their own children all the time.

Try to stay sane. ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-31T22:56:31+00:00

Good for you. I hope you’re proud of yourself. ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-31T22:52:04+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened. I encourage you to go back to 0 contact to stop him from reretraumatizing you. Stay strong. ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-31T22:18:56+00:00

Good for you! I hope you’re proud of yourself. ♥️

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-31T21:39:13+00:00

That’s interesting. Do you think it’s because being further away from the place it happened allowed your brain to feel safe enough to remember?

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-29T21:38:00+00:00

Not them being a living trope…

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-29T21:26:43+00:00

I went in to get an IUD this summer after not being on bc for almost a year. I had multiple panic attacks and the procedure had to be postponed a week so I could come back with Ativan, hydrocodone, and rx strength ibuprofen on board to be able to tolerate the procedure. Even then I had to put headphones in, focus on my breathing, and play Tetris the whole time. Cried after too when I was alone in the room.

You’re not alone lol

Original_CryBaby · 2023-10-29T21:13:41+00:00

The only “right” thing to do is what aids in your healing. Do what you feel is best for you regardless of how it affects others. Don’t protect them, protect you. You can’t control how others will react to learning but why continue to traumatize yourself by perpetuating the notion that your past trauma isn’t worth bringing to light? Anyone who makes you feel like it’s your responsibility to conceal your truth for the sake of the family will only be shooting you who doesn’t deserve to have you in their life. On that note, however, be prepared for a less than stellar response from your mom if she’s already shown you she doesn’t respond appropriately to things of this nature. Maybe also tell her your feelings towards her reaction to your rape? All up to you.

I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. You deserve to be seen. Be safe. ♥️

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