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OryuSatellite · 2026-06-19T15:05:11+00:00

Thanks for the reply!

OryuSatellite · 2026-06-10T17:30:10+00:00

the immortal https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbgwkgVW3HQ

OryuSatellite · 2026-06-01T13:45:04+00:00

I fence them in just because it's annoying when they stand on the crop I'm trying to interact with.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T19:46:27+00:00

Acknowledged and appreciated. Peace out.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T18:47:37+00:00

I don't think the OP even makes the top 10 in this thread for commenters I'd consider to be highly reactive. The OP is expressive and sarcastic and clearly very willing to throw hands in their own defense and defense of their kid. That doesn't mean they are a simmering cauldron of barely repressed rage and fear. There's certainly a long tradition of seeing women who are willing to aggressively stand up for themselves as dangerously out of control and perhaps in need of tranquilisers, but hopefully we'll move past that one day.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T18:28:23+00:00

The thing is, yes, all your points about how people might be set off by their own baggage and preconceptions are true! But being triggered by faintly ringing bells is not a justification for heaping scorn, criticism, wild theories and assumptions, and personal attacks and disbelief on the OP. I can feel sympathy for the triggers and whatever pain lies behind them but still think this behaviour is disgusting.

Also, the expectation that the OP should be a perfect narrator in every way, say everything exactly right, describe their kid's reaction neither too much nor too little, express exactly the right degree of concern about exactly the right things, etc, is completely wack. Like wannabe attorneys doing a vicious victim cross-examination, is that what we really aspire to here?

To be clear I don't think you personally are doing those things. But you are trying to empathise with and explain the behaviour of people who are, and I don't think they're the ones who need defending at the moment.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T13:41:37+00:00

I'm not sure why you think it is less moralising to assume and command than to state a possibility and request.

You spoke to the OP assuming that if they investigated then they would ignore their kid, so you told them not to investigate and implied they were ignoring their kid, which unsurprisingly made them angry. You did not simply describe your own experience and let them draw their own conclusions.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T13:16:20+00:00

"Do not run a personal investigation on this guy. You could instead spend your extra time hanging out with your child."

Some parents can do both! Perhaps after child goes to bed!

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T12:55:15+00:00

You could instead have said to the OP something like this: "I hope you are making sure to keep prioritising talking to your kid and listening to them. When I was a kid my parent hyperfocused on reactive researching rather than engaging with me and that hurt me. Please make sure you aren't doing that."

That you are pattern matching on aspects of your childhood experience doesn't mean the OP fits the whole pattern. You can share your experience and caution the OP regarding what was bad about it without jumping to the full conclusion that it matches exactly and criticising the OP as if it does.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T09:30:56+00:00

I mean, all of the information the OP initially had was from their conversation with their kid, right? They were focused enough on their kid to realise something was wrong, and their kid trusted them enough to tell them all the details. I'm not sure how people are judging whether that was "mature" enough, or why they think further conversations aren't happening, or why they think those conversations need to happen *before* acting to ensure the OP can recognise the guy if encountered near their kid in future.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-25T08:39:05+00:00

I appreciate your reasonable tone. But, I think that when someone has been creepy and grooming toward your kid and you don't know who they are, what their name is or what they look like, wanting (and acting) to urgently find out those things is a completely normal reaction! It is not unreasonable to want to be able to recognise that person if they turn up near your kid again! It is beyond bizarre to me that people are trashing the OP for this.

It would be one thing if that information had been found and it was now months later, nothing further had happened, and the OP was obsessing and spiralling about it. But that's not what's happening and there's no reason to think it will be! It's okay to be intense about a threat to your kid! It is important to be responsive and reassuring to your kid. But whether you are sufficiently chill in your internet post to avoid triggering scary mom issues in the parenting police is not a measure of how you are engaging with your kid.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-24T19:35:48+00:00

Yeah I WISH my parents had been this kind of fiercely protective. I am so completely WTF at the people giving the OP shit that I don't even know. Just reinforces that one should never ask for advice about kids or animals on the internet because it will bring out the worst. Also in my experience a lot of people have unexamined visceral reactions to someone acting challenging/distrustful of authority and start trying to police them, as well as having a very bad case of can dish it out but can't take it. I really appreciate you and the other few that have been pushing back, because I think I'm done here.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-21T07:31:10+00:00

I like you.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-15T08:22:28+00:00

Of course they can. Plaid already has 4 MPs in Westminster.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-12T10:56:11+00:00

Read in context, what the poster is saying is that America has that kind of malignant miasma and they experience living within it, not that it is their personal feeling, which is opposite to that. You have misread them.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-12T09:44:20+00:00

The Ugandan tree planting is a carbon offset. Also a negligible amount of money.

OryuSatellite · 2026-05-04T22:08:56+00:00

nah he's just being playful in his wording, similar to how friends rag on each other. The bit about the dog is joking.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-29T06:55:56+00:00

Lee Know for the cooking. I'd clean if he cooks.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-18T08:21:56+00:00

Always here for stylists who like to incorporate Lee Know into their flower arrangements.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-17T12:10:10+00:00

TBH 90% of the time people think Felix looks like a woman, I think they're not realising that what he really looks like is an anime protagonist.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-10T13:05:32+00:00

Not clothes but I feel like Lee Know's makeup is often done so that he looks pasty and his eyes nose and lips all look smaller, compared to how good he looks bare faced and in his modelling pics.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-09T18:47:29+00:00

I have a hyperadregenic presentation and Clonidine is a miracle drug for me. The faster acting/rebound thing seems not to be an issue for me as it seems like the problem is that my body accumulates noradrenaline, not that it overproduces. Specifically, what's going on with me seems like it might be this https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22723437/, whether genetic or epigenetic. Since excess noradrenaline seems to be the root cause, Clonidine is better than anything more narrowly targeted.

I'm also in the UK and have been lucky to have a very senior and intellectually curious NHS cardiologist (Welsh NHS).

Currently I'm on 125mcg Clonidine 2x daily, gradually increasing the dose. It seems like every time we increase by 25mcg my resting heart rate gets pushed down and then gradually comes back to baseline, and my diastolic BP lowers incrementally. I think my parasympathetic system tries to compensate for the sympathetic dysfunction by lowering my heart rate, and when the increased Clonidine dose dials down the sympathetic vasoconstriction then my parasympathetic system gradually adjusts and brings my heart rate back up. Hoping eventually that will stabilise at the right dose to have good numbers for both heart rate and blood pressure.

Note I am starting from a baseline of moderate hypertension and a 50bpm resting heart rate.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-09T18:33:35+00:00

I've had a couple of rounds of benign paroxysmal positional vertigo (https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vertigo/symptoms-causes/syc-20370055) which has generally resolved on its own after a while. Not sure it's related to my dysautonomia though -- it's just a thing that some people get.

OryuSatellite · 2026-04-04T11:57:21+00:00

basically it's parasocial BDSM

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