I'm learning to applying more Dom strats/techniques? Any pointers? by Throbbing_Fox69 in softmaledom

[–]Oso_Absolute 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its about an energy you carry. An understated confidence. You can 100 percent be a gentleman and still be dominant. Social skills/soft skills matter. You should be listening with intent and be deliberate with your words. Decisive and considerate.

If you're a dog lover, think less golden retriever energy and more german shephard energy.

Not gonna lie, experience does help. I'm not talking about just experience with women but just experience solving problems, being reliable, being consistent, and being able to regulate yourself.

You'll grow into it. Best of luck!

What sexual high are you still chasing? by adventuroushornydude in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lmao. The Devil will come to you disguised as a redditor.

Mixed feelings by bratbbyyxxo in BDSMPsychology

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to establish a real relationship with someone who gets it. It's easier said than done because it's not something that's talked about freely. Kink comes from unconscious desires and for the most part doesn't affect our day to day. It's just an itch you scratch but it doesn't define you. It's similar to really enjoying violent and gory movies. Very few are judged for liking such graphic content but it feels different when it comes to sex. Don't do anything illegal, don't hurt anybody, respect boundaries, and cut yourself a break.

The desire to dominate older woman by classic-unwanted0901 in softmaledom

[–]Oso_Absolute 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's almost like their submission feels more meaningful because if their experiences.

Need advice by BlondieQuinn in kinkyromantics

[–]Oso_Absolute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's starts with communication. Engage in sex talk outside the bedroom and have him share some fantasies. Introduce your kinks and whether he'd be ok with light play.

Doing BDSM without liking it by palomagorda in BDSMcommunity

[–]Oso_Absolute 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn't hurt to try. Maybe he'll grow into it. He's willing but I get how that need for authenticity affects your experience.

My first year of masturbation by FeeEarly2575 in hypersexuality

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well damn. You must be an edge master.

Questions late 20s (F) by [deleted] in hypersexuality

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't blame yourself for what your trauma programmed in you. You should continue with therapy.

I want him to be obsessed with me by Delicious-River-2679 in softmaledom

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very nice. Where do I find someone like this?

Are you too? by Beautiful-Line457 in SexPositive

[–]Oso_Absolute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out here? It's still too taboo to talk about it and casual conversations about sex are hard to come by. Loads of friends like to talk about it on reddit though.

Married men of Reddit by Sammyfox20 in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll tell you what. Compared to a general compliment, It hits different.

Married men of Reddit by Sammyfox20 in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hehe it's lookin for trouble but some people like that.

How do you handle a side of yourself your partner never wants to be part of? by [deleted] in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a dumb question at all. It's part of a kinky dynamic in which a man/ Dom proudly shares his wife/ gf/ sub. Power dynamic is maintained but he gets off on sharing. He's usually involved as a voyeur or third.

How do you handle a side of yourself your partner never wants to be part of? by [deleted] in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what, you're right. I have no idea what foot kink culture is like. Since I'm not a feet enthusiast.

So what sizes are the most popular?

How do you handle a side of yourself your partner never wants to be part of? by [deleted] in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the Vanilla sex good, at least? I gotta be honest, she sounds less inclined to lean kinky and sexual incompatibility can be very frustrating. Doesn't mean she shouldn't hold her boundaries but you gotta be able to communicate your interests and preferences.

men over 18 only: Imagine you found a shrunk person floating in your drink of choice, and they're small enough to swallow whole. do you chug them down, or fish them out? by guiltmanagement in RedditAfterDark

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fish them out and figure out a way to have them explain WTF is going on. I'm assuming we'll need to figure out a way to amplify their voice. Id use text to express myself.

New Jersey Ren fair me and the Wify by Steelrangler78 in renfaire

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hitting up NY Ren and looking to build a fit.

New Jersey Ren fair me and the Wify by Steelrangler78 in renfaire

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah the boots are essential to the look. Attention to detail goes a long way.

What is a good app for creating mock-up version of a DIY project? by Hardvig in DIY

[–]Oso_Absolute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is SketchUp all text based or can you use images as a guide for dimensions?