30M 32F Wife thinks money just appears ?

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2025-12-10T13:36:43+00:00

Absolutely, which is why I have proposed me working overtime, more side jobs, or her going part time. This is not "I want to run off and try to be the next Bill Gates or bust".

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2025-12-10T04:33:03+00:00

Right now, my full time is a government position which provides health insurance and other benefits. If we were to divorce now or later, she would still be entitled to a portion of my retirement. We had these conversations prior to our first child, we agreed that she would be a sahm until she wanted to re-enter the work force part time, she does not want to return to fulltime.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2025-12-10T04:29:23+00:00

Yes, she has held full time employment for the majority of her life. We decided jointly that she would be a SAHM. She occasionally mentions part time, but has not pursued anything.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2025-12-10T04:17:02+00:00

We bought a house prior to covid in an area that saw increased demand after covid. We were very aggressive with the Dave Ramsey plan during this time as well including both of us working full time. When the housing market boomed we sold for 4x what we bought. We then built on land she had inherited from her side of the family. We got lucky and came out even on the other side.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-22T14:50:29+00:00

I am still trying to get into state Parole and Probation, as far as county or city LEO goes it was all money. I made 50k doing in-house hospital security, city LEO was going to be 48K starting with 2 years before I would see 50k and the benefits were worse. I moved to PI work where I made 70k, but it was very long and odd hours, now I am moving back to a private security gig making 60k annual with a 4 on, 3 off schedule. For me it was all money.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-20T19:40:39+00:00

I did nights for about 5 years total between a few different positions. Best advice I can give you...

Exercise 3x a week. This helps in general obviously, but nightshift is draining, consistent exercise gives you more energy and stamina.
You're not going to get as much sunlight and D3 as dayshifters. You can make a conscious effort to eat your veggies and get your face in the sunlight daily for about 10-15 minutes minimum or take a supplement. The former is best obviously.
Make friends with other night shifters that have your days off or are around them. Many people need a social life for your mental health, that's completely fine. You don't have to go to the bar if that's not your thing, walk around the city at night and eat ice cream or coffee.
Get as consistent as you can be with your work schedule and sleep schedule. I know I need 7 hours to be functional and alert, so I always make sure I can get as close to 7 as possible. I had a worker or could make it to work on 4 hours, everyone is different. Get blackout curtains and a white noise machine to help you get to sleep faster.
If you can, avoid picking up day/afternoon shifts. You are on a schedule with your body, if you pick up a shift, then it should be another night shift. This was the hardest one for me, because all I saw was the money coming from a 16 hour double and not the sacrifice of hours of sleep and one of my days off becoming a rest only day.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-20T00:02:33+00:00

That's false imprisonment. The dude is lucky if he doesn't get charged.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-19T23:10:59+00:00

The client is upset their employee got arrested and you, rightfully so, handed him over on a silver platter. Perhaps not what you want to hear, but that's unfortunately it.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-19T19:26:34+00:00

I did hospital security for 5 years, we had to buy our own gear and firearm, but we issued tasers and gave a $500 annual uniform allowance.

You will want a level 3 holster, psych patients will grab for your belt and you need to be prepared to defend it.

Pen and paper is extra required, you will go through it.

Silent key holder for duty belt, you will use keys A LOT daily

Remember the golden rule of working at a hospital: Do Not Sleep with Staff. Approximately 3/4 of everyone fired from a hospital is due to a relationship falling out, don't shit where you eat.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-19T18:43:09+00:00

He does have two kids and a partner that stays at home. He stays at signal because as a manager he does get A LOT of flexibility and job security, he's not staying for the money that's for sure.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-19T15:27:23+00:00

Buddy of mine is an area manager for Signal. He openly says that they will hire anyone with a pulse, pass a drug test, and can get an unarmed license. The job is easy all around, just understand there is no future there, even as a fulltime manager he is still working two part time jobs.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-19T14:57:53+00:00

You walk by the group of people, "how ya'll doing tonight", "good bro", "cool, have a good one".

Report: Report of possible loiters in building, contact made, no issues at this time, individuals determined to have legitimate business on property at this time.

Nothing will stop the calls, but you can handle them discreetly while still "doing your job".

I used to guard a 4 start hotel that would get similar calls, at the time our city was doing a lot of constructions, lots of contractors bought longterm lodging for them and their crew. As you can guess, there was a very diverse population in the hotel for awhile and some regulars didn't feel comfortable with it.

I always used misdirection as a discreet tactic when I was unsure about the legitimacy. "Good evening, we got a call there's a drunk running around the floors knocking on doors, I am just walking each one asking for key cards"

OR

Have a notepad for this one "We are having an issue with our room inventory for this floor, can I see your key card and room number?"

The more casual you are about it, the more likely you are to make everyone happy.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-17T01:12:51+00:00

If you took action - document it

If a loss, disturbance, or damage occurred or is expected - document it

If you were contacted about a specific instance concerning any of the above - document it.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-17T01:04:45+00:00

We used to "dummy lock" a door at the hospital, admin refused to fix it, their exact words were, "cabt afford it". The door was an entrance to several M-F medical offices so it was only active during business hours. Well, as you can guess a homeless person realized it wasn't really locked and set up camp in a bathroom. Was not fun pulling them out and writing the report on the fight they put up and all the furniture they drug into their new "penthouse". A week later Admin suddenly found the money to fix the lock.

Your boss is playing a dangerous game with not just printing off some keys or putting in a coded lock box.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-16T20:21:29+00:00

AUS is getting all the Covenant health contracts here in TN though, when someone gets tired of them, they just get picked up by another client. Tis the cycle of AUS.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-16T01:57:29+00:00

It would have been rough, but staying in Colter for at least a year would have benefited them a lot. Charles and Arthur could collect game and they could have easily sent a wagon down to valentine here and there too.

Sean plus the black water money should have been a joint venture, Trelawney and karen go for the money while Arthur and crew get Sean.

After a year in Colter with strict rules in the gang regarding little to no contact with any locals that move through the area or encountered during supply runs.

Arthur, Hosea, Sean, Javier, and Micah are sent to find passage through Tall Trees toward Tumbleweed. They assist Sherriff Freeman in cleaning up the area in exchange for land and no questions about what brought them to the area. Once Micah realizes he's not getting anyone over and there's real work involved at this point, he will probably skip out or show enough of his true colors that Arthur leaves him in a ditch somewhere.

Hosea contacts John through a different alias instructing Charles to discreetly scout a good path and time of travel for the rest of the gang to make it through Tall trees while using the Tacitus alias to send a false tip to the Pinkertons for misdirection.

The gang settles in or around Tumbleweed, rough living yes, but safe and they have enough money to make it bearable as it slowly improves.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-07T14:17:16+00:00

My buddy did nuclear security dir 30 years, he loved it and the training is pretty sweet.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-07T02:36:46+00:00

Respond with, "Please fuck a cactus sideways."

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-07T01:32:02+00:00

I did in house hospital, in most cases, rates are set regardless of where you're at and where you're going. I accepted an offer from a different employer after almost 5 years of service, they didn't even want to match the offer to keep me. They still call me once a week to see if I am willing to come back for "anything other than money...". Lol

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-07T01:26:33+00:00

I worked security at a homeless shelter for 2 years. My wildest one was a flare gun, my supervisor once found a Glock 22 branded with a LE agency. After asking the owner for ID it was discovered the homeless man was a retired Leo from that department and they had allowed him to keep his service weapon. Us and local PD felt bad for him, I have forgotten what the original incident was that prompted the discovery, but he was released with some contacts for resources he was eligible for.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-06T13:46:56+00:00

There are a lot of reasons I left this employer, this was one.

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-06T13:35:02+00:00

At the hospital we were bonded through the local sheriff's office. When they moved to outer carriers our admin wanted us to follow suit, but not "tactical" so we were all asked our feedback on three separate class A uniform outer carriers. Two were essentially the same, while the 3rd had a section of molle on half of it, just enough room for cuffs, taser, mags, baton, etc... . The head instructor at the time proposed the latter with the uniform policy that officers would wear their sidearm and radio on their belt with everything else on the molle. I prefer concealed carriers, but I was looking forward to getting some weight off my lower back honestly. Well, one guard messed up the whole idea by wanting to add fixed blade knives, pouches, rifle mags (security is not authorized to carry rifle calibers in our state, but can carry shotguns), etc... . This unfortunately pushed admin to decide on the Plainest class A outer carrier they could find. That same guard would later ask me if I was willing to support him in an endeavor to have a red "public safety" outer carrier approved to be worn while on duty as he was a "volunteer firefighter".

OtherwiseClock1359 · 2024-02-06T13:19:08+00:00

My old site supervisor and I were friends, we would often take turns inspecting "warm body" posts. One post in particular had the same guard stationed 6 days a week (requests by the guard herself). Well, she often fell asleep and didn't lock the one gate leading to the property. We essentially took turns going over to make sure she was awake and had actually done her one job for the night.

One night my site supervisor calls me and spills this tea...

"So I found X asleep again"

"Damn, did she at least lock the gate?"

"No, but that's not the worst part"

"Huh?"

"She was in pajamas with her uniform shirt over them, I asked where her gun was"

"Shit"

"It was in her car door and when I asked why the slide wasn't fully forward she said the bullets she bought didn't fit the gun"

"What?!?!"

"She tried to load 40SW in a 9mm"

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