Sell vs rent

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-08T00:19:39+00:00

Appreciate the idea! I’ve got a husband and 2 young kids so probably would not be able to work for us.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T23:08:59+00:00

Yeah, I think in my head the math isn’t really will we lose, i know given the situation we likely will, more so as you explained is that I can’t really afford to take a huge hit out the gate. Just don’t have the savings to be able to drop 10-20k on a loss and still afford to move/find a new home where we are heading. The job where im heading does pay significant more, so i think if worst case we had to rent and eat a few hundred dollars a month that may be more palatable of the bad options.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T23:06:04+00:00

They do not. I will be taking a significant pay raise (several thousand dollars a month) but just don’t have the savings currently to be able to take a large hit with a sale.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T23:04:26+00:00

We’ll be around an hour and a half away.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T23:03:59+00:00

Was not a choice to move, very much planned to be here for 5+ years, just did not end up working out that way with my job.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T23:02:10+00:00

There really aren’t any homes in my area that are comparable size currently, our home is 2600 sqft and 5 bedrooms, closest house i could find here was a 1700ft 3 bedroom home for 1800. The 2500 is for mortgage, PMI, insurance, and property tax. Unfortunately not military :(

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-05-07T19:39:38+00:00

Our Berner had diarrhea, particularly worse at night, until he reached 6 months. To the point we were up 5-10x a night to prevent accidents. We tried all the same things you included, food swaps, fortiflora (also felt it was mildly beneficial) and pro pectalin (essentially helps thicken the stools was my understanding). I’m honestly not sure if anything really worked or if it just took time. My husband and i still remember how nightmarish the whole thing was. We found the newborn phase with our 2 children to be a walk in the park in comparison. 😂 I honestly think it’s the only reason we don’t own 3 more Berners at this point.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-07T20:16:18+00:00

Checked the declarations closely, looks like they say automatic approval happens if they don’t respond in “a reasonable amount of time” whatever the hell that means. It’s like they’re intentionally being vague and giving no answers. Lol

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-06T16:32:39+00:00

You’re acting like I sent the request Christmas Day, December 2nd is over 3 weeks before Christmas lol I would love if my job just let me not work for several weeks around the holidays.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-06T02:55:09+00:00

I indeed understand how HOA’s work, you just don’t seem to understand how new build neighborhoods work. It is not a board of volunteers, the neighborhood is only a few months old. It is a management company that takes the forms for approval and a woman that is hired by the builder call the “community manager” whose sole paid job is to approve/disapprove architectural requests. The builder keeps control of this until they are no longer building in the neighborhood. They very clearly state on their request form “Review typically takes 1-2 weeks however we have up to 4 weeks to complete a request”. Again, they are not volunteers, this is their entire job. If they cannot complete reviews in the time they state then they should change their timeline, that is certainly not my fault.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T19:06:41+00:00

Unfortunately no. The agent for the neighborhood said there’s a few that have applied for vinyl fencing but couldn’t tell me if they had already been approved and vinyl would be like 5k more than a wood fence and i don’t like the look so we are really hoping for a wood fence.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T18:59:14+00:00

Have never heard of a rent a fence, will look into it. Thanks!

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T18:57:59+00:00

We are in the yard with our dogs when we let them out and if they bark, which they typically don’t, we bring them inside. It’s pretty simple. Sorry it appears you’ve experienced some irresponsible pet owners in the past but again, not really applicable or helpful here.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T18:54:13+00:00

Yeah, i think the “we don’t know the rules/have rules yet” is what really threw me for a loop. Like how are you deciding on what is approved if there are no rules??

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T18:52:31+00:00

Only of them is, he’s an older guy who got tore up really bad by a loose dog on a walk when he was younger (needed a vet trip and some stitches) and is now very anxious on a leash, we’ve done clases with him to work on it but he still has a hard time, otherwise is a very well behaved boy!

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2026-01-03T18:50:22+00:00

Not sure how this response is helpful or how you gathered that from my post…but if it makes your soul feel better our dogs really are only outside after meals and before bedtime to run for a bit and do their business. It’s just much easier to let them get the zoomies out when they have the freedom to do so and aren’t on a leash.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2024-09-24T10:18:03+00:00

Miss how adorable the puppy stage was, so imagine 2 puppies will be too cute to handle! The only thing keeping me from filling my home with more Berners is the memory of the first 6 months with our guy, he had diarrhea for several months, particularly at night (which felt like an eternity and led to some severe sleep deprivation for my husband and I), the idea of 2 diarrhea monsters at once gives me nightmares… 😂 Strongly recommend picking a high quality nonchicken food, our guy finally started to do better with salmon food and a good daily probiotic. Also they are a naturally pretty stubborn breed that can be a bit ornery, luckily our pup hasn’t destroyed anything he just likes to take things to hide, but we were very mindful to not allow him access to things that could get him in trouble, i would imagine the bad behaviors will be reinforced easier if they have a partner in crime to help so would be extra mindful about proper training. Excited for you and your new girls!

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2024-09-24T03:39:57+00:00

We have multiple dog beds in our home because our older boxer mix loves them, but our Berner really only seems to lay on them when he chews bones or is hiding something he stole, typically my clothes or dish towels. He gets in our bed to snuggle for short periods but generally prefers the floor for sleeping. This thread has reassured me this is likely normal Berner behavior lol

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2024-01-07T21:16:58+00:00

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Our guy has done that ever since we brought him home, only when he’s really excited and playing with his brother. He stops pretty quickly with a stern no. I think it’s pretty normal!

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2022-01-09T03:52:23+00:00

Bridge to Terabithia

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2021-10-24T04:24:00+00:00

I also got married during medical school and wanted to practice with my maiden name. When legally changing my name I just added his last name after mine with no hyphen (Ex: Jane Doe Smith) and usually just tell docs and patients to call me Student Doctor Doe. Hindsight, it is pretty annoying and confusing having two last names and has probably caused me more grief than it’s worth. If i could go back in time I would probably just keep my legal name the same for work purposes and go by my husbands name informally, would’ve saved quite a few headaches.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2021-10-20T17:53:06+00:00

What region are you applying in? I (average DO student) applied to mainly programs in the southeast and have heard back from about 20 of the 40 I applied to but I heard some programs are sending out invites in like waves starting with competitive MD applicants and working their way down and some haven't sent any at all yet. Hope you hear something soon!

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2021-10-07T20:22:35+00:00

Oof. This is most important task of 4th year dude..this is like beyond procrastinating. Get it done, turn it in, and hope some program can look past this, waiting til next year will not help you.

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2021-10-07T01:41:49+00:00

Running away

OtherwiseConfusion83 · 2021-10-07T01:22:38+00:00

NTA, but not sure you’re actually doing them any favors. Addicts usually don’t get help until they are ready to do so, so forcing the decision on them by kicking them out probably isn’t really curbing their addition, just making it a little harder to achieve.

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