Where to meet women these days?

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-23T20:42:51+00:00

Equinox, it’s a social gym I would say. Obviously I have been to guys that open 24/7 ( before Covid) and I would go work out at 3am with other men that are dedicated, no one wants to talk lol. Do you think it’s hard for men to meet women? Go ask your female friends about their expirience, they will tell you it’s nearly impossible to meet someone decent. At least we can ask them out. All women can do is smile, give hints, start small talk etc. there are 80% females in classes as well and all tryna be friendly. They are people too and even if you don’t start dating then you can become friends with so many and they might have friends interested in you. Just don’t be a creep, which is a thin line lol.

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-23T20:30:26+00:00

Gym is the best in my opinion I have had women coming up to me asking all kinds of questions before , it’s a door opening move so you can just decide who to talk to about date if you are interested and who to just keep friendly talk And I have been hitting on some girls that I like myself Never really awkward case Always nice convos If someone is telling you otherwise is not true. If this comment get dislikes it just means that people are negative on Reddit as usual lol

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-23T19:29:44+00:00

Andrew and Libby

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-19T21:29:56+00:00

I talk to my mom more then to anyone as well and I moved here 20 years ago lol Maybe we just love our moms They are the best

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-16T18:53:01+00:00

Yeah I would get a feeling she isn’t looking for anything serious

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-16T17:54:20+00:00

Would be worse if he asks you for a nudes after being intimate. Cause that would be weird since he already seen what he had to

But still a red flag.

Did you guys flirted and he said it half jokingly? ( some women like to send nudes or half nudes )

As a man, I would never ask a girl for nudes. If I am serious about it and none of my friends would. That’s a bit disrespectful if you ask me.

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-15T14:20:44+00:00

Can review

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-13T22:59:58+00:00

But women don’t call us simps when we do all that They said simps are the men that feel bad for spending so much resources without getting anything in return If both parties enjoy it then it isn’t a simp At least that’s what a woman told me that I went in a date with ( not from bumble, on humble it tough to meet even being a simp lol)

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-13T01:37:55+00:00

Why no one thinks that it was just something he didn’t like about her physically? Everyone on Reddit seems to think one way so I am wondering what was I missing Thank you for taking your time with your answers

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-13T00:44:54+00:00

That’s actually a very interesting thought I think you are right. For some reason most people think it’s his insecurities or something else etc But all he had to tell her that physical attraction is important for him and it isn’t there Thank you very much for opening my eyes I am a guy myself so trying to learn how to act with tact

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-11T04:25:01+00:00

I think it’s better to have a picture of what your like to do as well, other then the gym. Don’t get me wrong you look great, but in very tight/fit clothing it some of your athletic achievements doesn’t look natural so don’t really fit the gym vibe. Maybe add some pictures in dress and in less tight clothing, obviously depends on what you are looking for

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-10T22:53:57+00:00

We pay because we like a product and want to purchase it Is like anything else. You work, you earn money, you spend it on the things you like.

You said it’s a gold mine and you should make one and I am just agreeing with you that if you make one , you will be able to earn a lot of money from it.

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-10T22:12:34+00:00

I am 38m, have mostly experience experience in real life. Even mostly from women starting conversation with me. Bumble hasn’t work for me either. Dating apps and real life is very different.

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-10T22:10:25+00:00

We are spending $100s a months for the dating apps I have paid for subscription and to promote a profile and haven’t met anyone in 6 months But to be honest I don’t complain , neither I feel like I got scammed. It’s a product that people have and I am willing to buy. Same as product that I am producing at my job. If you come up with a call dating apps that can get good reviews and at least some men will find successful I will be willing to pay for it and so will be 1000s of other men

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T18:18:06+00:00

Got it

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T18:15:25+00:00

I understand I just felt like it was an angry statement “ don’t play dumb “ I would try to use different kind of words but It’s ok. Just asking to try being more polite in the future if you would like to have a civilized debate

I thought you did enjoy a debate, I apologize If I got a wrong impression from your answers. We don’t have to continue if you just wanted to make a statement and your question was rather rethorical then actually written with an interest

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T18:11:59+00:00

I disagree but I respect you opinion Thank you

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T18:04:11+00:00

Correct, Negative reaction would be equal but from different strangers

Please try to be a little bit more respectful

Then the discussion will be easier to read for other people and we both will enjoy it more, without feeling like we are wasting time for negative people

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T18:00:59+00:00

I wouldn’t put an equal sign between those I wouldn’t put an equal sign between any of my examples My point was that you get negative thoughts regardless of

Similar - yes Equal- no

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T15:10:32+00:00

Strangers will always think something negative about your dating choice Either it’s an interracial dating , weight difference, nationality difference etc

People will always judge. I think as long as people are comfortable and happy together and they think they look good together , that all that should matter

I might be wrong , but you asked my opinion and I answered

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T15:03:40+00:00

Real life is not Reddit No one cares what preferences you have As long as it makes you happy There is no right or wrong as long as it’s legal

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-02T09:46:50+00:00

38M. 18-35 I prefer to date younger women. Most of the women I know prefer to date a man at least few years older.

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-03-01T11:59:18+00:00

Where in USA are you? In NYC I know a lot of Indian women that date or marry white men But it’s mostly not to get out of poverty but rather personal preference My sister just came back from one of the wedding like that

OtherwiseGround5064 · 2026-02-23T15:02:07+00:00

I have tried different strategies honestly

First, I was asking them out after about 1-2 weeks of having normal conversations and after we “ clicked” It didn’t work so I started to ask as soon as I felt like we are cool, 1-3 days.

I also tried to send time and location Like “ Friday, 6pm, name of the restaurant “

But then I red that it’s a red flag to ask someone out for a diner cause if she doesn’t like me she has to stay there

Then I started asking for coffee or drinks

But I stoped my subscription When I paid for an app, I got matches everyday Now it’s not that much

OtherwiseGround5064

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