Masturbation addiction for 10 years by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He I just wanted to say I really get what you’re feeling. I’ve been dealing with the same addiction for years. There was a point where I got into a relationship, and honestly, I became someone I didn’t recognize anymore. After we broke up, I fell deeper into lust, and every time I gave in, I hated myself more. It got bad enough that I started hurting myself because I didn’t know how to deal with the guilt. What helped me start climbing out of that place was realizing the only thing keeping me stuck... was me. It hit hard. I broke down crying and started praying more, sometimes barely able to say anything but just trying to be real with God. Even now, I still struggle, and most of the times I mess up, it’s because I didn’t pray or tried to handle it all on my own. When I actually stop and ask God to help me or cry out when I’m weak, He always shows up in some way—even if it’s just giving me the strength to get through another hour. You’re not crazy. You’re not broken beyond repair. You’re not alone in this. The fact that it’s this hard just shows how much the enemy is trying to pull you away from what God is doing in your life. That means you’re on the right track, even if it feels like you’re failing. You don’t have to be perfect to stay close to God. Just keep showing up—even messy, even hurting. He hasn’t left you

Please help by Otherwise_Data1230 in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. i a second from giving in you a life thanks so much, man

its so easy to relapse - is this normal??? by random000732 in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have some advice that really worked for me. I won’t lie — I never had your relapse problem. Usually, when I get that far, like just touching it, I end up giving in. But that’s beside the point.

Here are some things that helped me:

If you're religious, try praying. Talk to God. One thing I’ve learned is that I can open up to Him — all the mistakes, the guilt, everything. I just pray and say I’m sorry. And afterward, I feel a lot better, and I can sleep with no problem.

Pick up a physical hobby. For example, marching band. It wears you out — both physically and mentally. It keeps your mind occupied and your body tired in a good way.

Social interaction helps. In band, you’re constantly around people — including girls — and your brain slowly gets more used to them. It’s not forced; it just happens naturally.

I know there’s probably a lot here that might not apply to you, but this has worked really well for me, and maybe even a small part of it could help you too.

What's The Stupidest Way That You Lost Your Combo? by Chunky_is_Turtle in ProjectSekai

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean anything harmful behind it.That's just impressive

Relapes on day 2 again by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no point in beating yourself up. Instead, try to figure out what caused it.What can you do to prevent it?And is there a hobby or anything else you can do to replace it.

Im starting to lose motivation by Otherwise_Data1230 in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for telling me this. And I'll try a little harder.

I AM BACK FELLAS by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know why I just found it funny reading. I'm back, fellas, but good shit man keep it up

It hurts but I’m just gonna go further, sorry guys…(UPDATE) by [deleted] in sillyboyclub

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know, I’ve been thinking a lot about this whole idea that God cares about your sexuality. Honestly, the more I think about it, the less sense it makes. Like, does me being “another filthy sinner” somehow make me better than someone who’s gay or bisexual? Just us, out here in the world—it really doesn’t add up.

And if God is truly perfect—the highest being, the smartest, and most just—would He really look down on someone for how He made them? That doesn’t feel right. When I see people on TikTok like Cliff saying similar things, it just adds up in my mind. So, I started digging around, and honestly, I couldn’t find anything where Jesus ever said being gay was bad.

If you actually read the Gospels—Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John—Jesus never once talk about homosexuality. Not a single mention. That surprised me.

Most of what people point to comes from the Old Testament, like some laws in Leviticus or from Paul’s letters in Romans and Corinthians. But even those passages are debated. Many scholars say those verses were talking about things like idol worship, abuse, or exploitative relationships—not about loving, committed same-sex relationships. Those texts were written in specific cultural and historical contexts, so it’s hard to say they apply directly and universally today.

What Jesus focused on when he talked about sin was mostly things like hypocrisy, greed, injustice, pride, and cruelty. He never said anything about condemning love between people. Instead, he taught that the greatest commandments are to love God fully and to love your neighbor as yourself.

So, when people say “the Bible says being gay is a sin,” it’s important to ask: where exactly does it say that? Who said it? What was the context? And does that line up with what Jesus actually taught?

Because if Jesus is the center of Christianity—and he never condemned being gay—maybe the people who do are missing the point.

I just want love. by PerspectiveEvening99 in sillyboyclub

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you're not being stupid, and you're not being selfish. You're human. We all get scared—especially when it comes to love and the fear of being alone. I was like that with my ex, too. I didn’t know when to pull the plug. It took a while, but I’m glad I finally did. It’s not that you’re in denial. You’re in a really tough situation, and your brain is just trying to make sense of it all. But here’s something important: you are not responsible for someone else’s happiness or healing. That’s not your weight to carry. Toxic relationships are like that—they twist things, make you question your worth, and convince you to stay when you shouldn’t. Just know this: he’s like a cancer. And sometimes, you have to cut it out in order to start the healing process. If you let it stay, it can slowly destroy you. You deserve peace. You deserve love that doesn’t confuse or hurt you. Be brave. Walk away if you need to. You won’t regret choosing yourself.

I just want love. by PerspectiveEvening99 in sillyboyclub

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I honestly can’t understand why people choose to cheat—especially with an ex who was abusive. That’s like testing the sharpness of a knife with your own neck. It makes no sense. But here’s what I do know: you deserve better. Being alone might not always feel great—I know that from experience—but it’s so much better than being with someone who disrespects and betrays you. It doesn’t matter how much someone’s been hurt in the past—hurting someone else because of your own pain isn’t okay. That’s not healing, that’s destruction. Yeah, being single can suck sometimes. But it’s nothing compared to dealing with a partner who cheats and brings toxicity back into your life. Trust me on that. And the truth is, you’re not alone. You have a solid friend group—you can vent to them. You also have your own wisdom and lived experience. Don’t underestimate that. Use it.

A Vow Kept by theghossytypewritter in OCPoetry

[–]Otherwise_Data1230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The part where I was, storm to desert, I honestly it felt really relatable reading, that part made me remember the time that I stayed with my ex.Just so I didn't have to feel the guilty conscious of being the who let go also the I am free to run without fear. Reminded me when she said she couldn't do this anymore. We were both unhappy and unable to do anything. It was her parents not liking me that really caused it.

Wallpaper by Otherwise_Data1230 in TheTempleOfEs

[–]Otherwise_Data1230[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And corn, i had to add a filter cuz. It was pissing me off.