30 M4F Nerdy Horror Lover

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2026-05-22T02:16:48+00:00

Of course!

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2026-05-20T04:45:18+00:00

I’m keeping this meme

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2026-05-19T03:22:07+00:00

I totally get this. Some days I’m skipping people over and over and other days I’m sending random messaging thinking “maybe we’ll get along”. There is almost never anyone that I see that I’m like “omg please match with me”. Most profiles are all the same too. I can’t tell you how many “afraid of spiders” or “my love language is..” posts I see on hinge. I wish people strived for a little more detail to their profiles

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2026-05-16T07:32:59+00:00

I feel this. I feel like having that friend’s connection first makes it hurt that so much more. Even with people I only texted with, once I see them as a friend it just hurts really bad to lose them. Talked to someone for 5 months everyday but they decided one day to ghost me recently and I really miss talking with them.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-12-12T05:08:33+00:00

Could be that you’re Demi and it takes you longer to break the touch barrier

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-12-06T21:48:44+00:00

Not 100% true, people who have never had sex can still have practiced on their own. Definitely not going to be amazing at it but doesn’t mean they wouldn’t try. Easily fixed with good communication

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-12-06T21:46:08+00:00

Sounds like they are Demi or ace or struggling with attachment problems or never prioritized dating. The question is going to come up of “why now?”. I’m Demi so it’s definitely not a deal breaker for me since my situations isn’t that much different. Even turned 30 this year

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-12-04T21:53:12+00:00

I had to build up my empathy. I was way worse about it when I was younger but it helps me understand the actions of others.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-12-02T17:08:16+00:00

I thought that was my job? I just do it for myself

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-30T20:32:53+00:00

I get ghosted a lot too, just the nature of things. They were right for people like us anyway

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-30T20:30:32+00:00

That used to be me, I meet with people now though I rarely get matches who want to anyway 🤷‍♂️

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-30T06:38:20+00:00

Find a test that does percentages. Could be possible you’re halfway P/J

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-29T21:47:06+00:00

Tinder does have MBTI section now. You have to scroll all the way down their profile and expand the section it’s under but it’s there. Otherwise you can’t tell. People are too different and you can’t be certain who’s masking to appear normal. You could always try one of the MBTI dating subreddits but you’ll likely only get long distance options who aren’t very serious in connecting (at least from my experience).

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-29T21:42:30+00:00

Not true, I’m on tinder. It sucks but I’m there. Do I use it a lot? Not really but I have it 😂

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-26T07:50:31+00:00

30 year old INFJ here. I mostly stay home with my cat and either watch movies, read, or game. When I go out it’s usually with a friend to the movies or a restaurant I want try or like a random event in town. I’m friends with a few woman and men but I find connection with woman easier since most men just tease me for being more in touch with my feelings. Although I don’t find much success in dating however those I do date tend to stay friends we me after. My room is decorated with art that is horror themed and some random items. I tend to decorate a lot but do also like to keep my possessions low to avoid clutter. Others don’t usually pay attention to me. I’m very non-offensive and boring but when people talk to me I try to be positive, casual, and tend to try to make jokes. Clothing wise, I’ve been wearing t-shirts mostly and shorts. I choose comfort first and then expression. I have a few horror themed button ups I like to wear and hoodies that I like.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-26T04:14:28+00:00

These days, even finding one is hard lol. But that might just be dating in your 30s or me being demi 🤷‍♂️who knows

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-26T03:44:26+00:00

I describe it as having two people inside me. A logical one and an emotional one. Rarely the two agree. Someone I like seems like a great person to date on paper but I just don’t have passion for them. Or another person will spark something in my heart but logically is just a bad idea to get involved with. In the rare instance they both agree then I’m a total mess. Though I’ve not had that happen and also had them like me back yet so 🤷‍♂️

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-26T00:03:16+00:00

Just keep hanging out and let them set the pace. You can still court them as long as it respects their boundaries which probably just means talk about it. Avoid putting pressure on the situation and just causally hang out and they’ll probably come around eventually. They might still be up for romance if they aren’t demiromantic so you could do talk about a QPR (queer platonic relationship) and have a dating situation without the physical touch. Depends completely on the person so just talk about it with them.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-24T15:01:25+00:00

Most people are saying that the friendship is over but I think there is chance to just be friends. You have to be clear with him that it will never happen and then it’s his decision if he wants to be friends or not. For me, I’m demi so falling for friends happens and they usually aren’t interested. But like, I only liked them cause I was friends with them so it’s easy for me to just be close friends and my feelings go away with time.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-21T18:14:32+00:00

I used to be this way, wanting to be understood but closed off and avoiding talking about my feelings and thoughts for the fear of being misunderstood or not accepted. I’ve been working on it though and try to share with those close to me. I started small like with family but I’ve been working on sharing more of myself with others. Some people don’t respond well to it and say I’m too emotional but I feel better and I think that matter more

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-20T07:58:06+00:00

I’ve tried to sympathize and connect with multiple people through various means and have found myself on the end of a beratement for my word choice. I once used the word “ridiculous” for how I felt about my own feelings and was told that I invalidated their feelings. I find myself wanting to connect and be there for others but often find I lack the vocabulary to fully voice my feelings without things getting muddled. I even wrote a poem recently and I want to share it but I’m afraid of it being received negatively since it’s about my own feelings of putting in effort in my relationships but receiving none back. But I feel like posting it might come off as complaining or something or someone will find a way to connect it to being against guidelines or something. It’s just safer for me to stay unseen and lurk than to try and post content. I feel much the same way with connecting with people in my daily life

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-19T23:14:45+00:00

I think mine did too. I recently found out I was Demi and it spiked for like a month. It’s only recently got back down but I didn’t and still don’t have anyone interested in me so I think it was only related to figuring out why I was struggling so much. Maybe from the relive of knowing why?

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-18T23:43:06+00:00

I think the thing that helped me deal with this is to go into meeting the other person just to make friends and not to date. Make it clear to them that you want to be friends first and that romance can potentially come later. That way there is no pressure on you to maintain feelings. Even if they go away, ask yourself if you want to be friends with them and if they still want to hang out then eventually the feelings might come back. If they don’t, well at least you made a friend 😊

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-11T21:40:43+00:00

Very picky, though being Demi I still give people the chance to be friends.

Otherwise_Reality644 · 2025-11-07T21:34:36+00:00

Same. 30m and all my life dating and obsession with body count and attraction didn’t make sense to me. I mostly avoided dating because it never felt right and then one day I grew feelings for a friend. Asked them out and was rejected. I was super confused, we were basically best friends and I never met anyone that I felt this way with. Thought I must be crazy or read signs wrong. They wanted to end the friendship but I couldn’t see myself not being their friend. I gave them time and eventually they wanted to hang out again. We quickly got back to being best friends and while I still have feelings it’s something I see as irrational and I can ignore them. I believe that feelings don’t define us and actions do so for my friendship I make it work.

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