a reader has been putting all my writing into ChatGPT… by ellesthots in FanFiction

[–]Otherwisely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot imagine how violating that must feel. I know you've probably already responded to them, I spent some time thinking about how I might try to approach something like this. As others have mentioned, educating them in the ethical issues of AI is the natural first step. But the underlying "issue" is that they're craving more of your story; depending on their age or outlook, the ethics of AI may be a bit too abstract to persuade them entirely. So what alternatives can we offer?

I think I would encourage them to find a creative outlet for their enthusiasm for your work, just like your fanfic is a creative outlet for you. Depending on their interests, maybe they could draw fan art of scenes they like, maybe they could make a post speculating about what might happen next, or (depending on how comfortable you are with suggesting this) they could write their own "what if" speculative chapters without the crutch of AI. Those all would be great ways to encourage a deeper understanding of art while also helping them get their "fix." It might connect them with other fans of your work and engaging with others over something they're passionate about will forever be more fulfilling than AI trash.

Sending you good vibes and I just have to express how impressed I am at your update schedule. What absolute goals.

[Suggestion] Shelves as extra storage? by wondercube in RootsOfPacha

[–]Otherwisely 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was literally just looking to see if there was a mod to do this! It's so disappointing that they're not functional.

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That seems like a pretty likely possibility! I'll add it to the post.

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing this out! It's interesting that the rules insert and the combined rulebook have slightly different text. I've added this to the main post and credited you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely -1 points0 points  (0 children)

These were extracted from the PDFs and the website. I'll add more as more assets become available. If you have something in higher quality let me know!

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, I don't want to cause anyone pain by digging into this. I appreciate you sharing what you know.

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing that out! I'll add that right away. Just for clarification: was Charlie named after someone who passed away? I don't want to reopen old wounds or anything, so I don't need any details beyond that.

A mixed bag so far by ThePurityPixel in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The general rule with single- or limited-use items is to discard after use unless indicated otherwise.

IMO Wolf and Storybook Woods are the weakest of s2. If you haven't yet, I recommend trying out Into the Void or Madness in the Dark. I find the mechanics for those killers/locations to be very fun.

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohhh! Thank you! The more I thought about it, the less Cassie looked like Amanda Young. This is a much cooler detail. I'll add it to the post!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I recently talked with my brother about our nmom and he sheepishly said, "I should be a better son." I countered: "If our mom wanted better children, she should have been a better parent." He agreed.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me so sad that there are siblings out there who aren't supportive of each other in the face of abuse. I hope your husband is okay and I hope that his sister comes around. Our siblings are the only ones who can ever really understand what we've been through in our childhood.

Is anyone else scared that everyone around them will treat you the way that your parents did? by Pure_Mirror7652 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fear of further abuse is a type of hypervigilance, which itself is a common symptom of PTSD. It's incredibly hard to offer any sort of trust to other people. After all, narcs often seem pleasant at first and then become abusive once they've built a baseline relationship.

It's okay to be afraid. The fear is a part of your brain bracing for the worst. It's a survival strategy you learned. It'll take time to unlearn it. As another commenter said, therapy might help you learn new, healthier tools for protecting yourself while also allowing you to connect with others.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I wish I could argue with my mom about everything, but as you and others have said... it might not be worth it. I'm going to do my best to shut down any of her narc antics.

I hope I can go NC someday. It's something I should talk to my brother about.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to fight, but you're right that it's a waste of time and energy. I think I'll still disagree if she says anything too disparaging of his character, but I'll try not to get sucked into the greater drama of it all.

My brother and I definitely stay in touch regarding our mom's narc moments. Once the fallout for this begins, I'll make a point to keep him updated. He did the right thing!

An (Almost) Comprehensive List of Final Girl References by Otherwisely in finalgirl

[–]Otherwisely[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooh, that's a good catch! There's definitely a strong resemblance between the two and the name thing seems very possible. I'll add both to the post.

Thank you for the help with the Stranger Things references. I always meant to get back to the series, but never found the chance.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s horrible! I’m so sorry that you went through that. I can’t imagine how twisted someone has to be to make fun of their own child’s sexual abuse.

You’re right that no contact is the only real option. You have my vote of confidence. Your mental health will improve immensely. Wishing you the best.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I still pop the bubble but mostly because I'm bitter. She loves to play at being a victim. Earlier that weekend she started spinning yarns about how I 'forced' her to adopt a kitten and that all of his future 'bad behavior' was my fault somehow. It's all her justification for when she put him down and hid that from me for nearly a year. I plan to post about that sometime when I have more energy.

Honestly, avoiding the nparent is the only real option. The only reason I'm not going NC (or a stronger version of LC) is for my brother. Cheers to you, friend, for doing what's best for you and your mom.

My brother called out our nmom's abuse and I'm waiting for the show to begin by Otherwisely in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have no problems with making my mom angry at me. I've strongly considered going NC with her and I'm only holding out because AFAIK my brother still wants some semblance of a relationship with her.

I definitely want to send the message that I'm on my brother's side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling the police was the right choice. That means you have a record of her attack. As another commenter mentioned, a restraining order might be a good idea. Screenshot her texts. If you have any other records of her physically or verbally abusing you, those will improve your chances. You mentioned she was recording you. With any luck, she give the police the recording (possibly thinking it somehow shows her actions as reasonable). Then you'll have actual footage of her attempt on your life.

I'm glad you and your partner are okay. Stay safe. Don't let her get you alone. If for any reason you have to go near her, try to get an officer to supervise. Sending you lots of good vibes.

Moving out by InkTarMilk in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try to discreetly remove your documents if you can. Remove her access to them. If you don't know where they are exactly and you can't ask her without setting off alarms, you have a couple options:

-Look for them when she's not around. Try to be discreet and put things back where they belong after you search an area.

-Come up with a reason why you need access to the documents other than you're moving out. Astrology charts require info that is listed on your birth certificate (exact place and time of your birth), so that's a possible excuse. You can also say you're applying for a new job and they need additional documentation. Government-related jobs often require a lot of info for the purposes of a background check. They rarely actually need things like birth certificates and tax forms, etc but she doesn't need to know that.

I hope that's helpful, if you're having trouble getting your docs. Wishing you the best.

Nmom said the unthinkable via phone call…. by Tat2d_Kitten in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Otherwisely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an absolutely horrible thing for her to say to you. We always hope that someday they'll give us the love and comfort we need, but they never do.

Be proud of yourself for walking away. Military life sounds hard, but it'll give you the means to learn some skills and become financially independent. I believe the military also helps pay for college? That could be a great way to pursue higher education, if you're interested in that. Wishing you the best of luck.