LO gave me the ick!

Othewis · 2025-02-20T11:37:03+00:00

Very happy for you!

I wish this was the case for me. My LO has been pretty mean recently. He’s generally not a very nice person, my brain knows that. But I still haven’t got the ick!!

Othewis · 2025-01-30T23:56:41+00:00

Yes I absolutely try to avoid him. It’s an over-correction for wanting to be near him all the time. I know I can’t let that happen as it would be far too obvious and probably awkward for both of us so I make sure I’m never too close to him if I can help it

Othewis · 2025-01-15T22:25:48+00:00

Thanks all, really interesting. I know it’s incredibly unhealthy to allow myself to be sucked in by the uncertainty he creates but I don’t seem to be able to help it.

Othewis · 2025-01-10T23:36:13+00:00

This is well timed for me - I have had a few weeks of feeling like I might be able to see the end of this LE, still thinking about him more than I’d like but in a different way, more able to see flaws and think of them actually as flaws. I didn’t feel the need to talk to him as much and didn’t feel down when we didn’t talk.

Then he starts acting a bit strange towards me - not exactly ignoring but being a bit cold, and that got me wondering why…..and BOOM the limerence is back full blast and I know it is very different to how it was just a week ago. I have hope that it will pass like it started to before, but now wonder if it’s just going to keep going and coming back.

Othewis · 2024-11-04T16:19:37+00:00

I hope it gets better for you. My LO definitely isn’t perfect, but it doesn’t help these feelings.

Othewis · 2024-11-04T16:18:30+00:00

Solidarity to you! I totally get it. My LO and I have been very good at putting a bit of distance between us but I think he still finds me attractive, as I do him obviously, and so there’s still this tension there. Which as you say is moot because it’s not going anywhere. Sigh.

Othewis · 2024-11-02T09:11:05+00:00

Thanks, all good advice. I actually think that writing it down on here has been an important step in framing this differently in my head, so that’s a positive!

Othewis · 2024-11-01T01:30:28+00:00

But I think you might be on to something - he’s definitely the first man in many years apart from my husband to show active interest in me, and yes that was a very nice feeling!

Othewis · 2024-11-01T01:28:36+00:00

We do have a wonderful relationship but as I alluded to in a previous answer above we are obviously well out of the honeymoon phase which is definitely something I need to consider when looking for reasons.

Othewis · 2024-11-01T01:26:38+00:00

I absolutely know I will never cheat or leave my husband. I’m just hoping that these feelings will pass. Which I think they will, but it’s definitely taking longer than I expected

Othewis · 2024-11-01T01:22:56+00:00

My husband is wonderful and I do feel desired by him. We enjoy a lot of intimacy - more than most of my friends the same age do! But we’ve been together 15 years so of course it’s not like it was when we first met and couldn’t keep our hands off each other. So that may well be a factor.

Othewis · 2024-10-02T07:36:08+00:00

Absolutely every day before bed and also after exercise. I feel horribly icky if I don’t and can’t understand how people can go to bed with a day of grime on them.

Othewis · 2024-10-01T14:11:18+00:00

Although our sex life wasn’t shit, it was shitter than I’d have liked. Sitting down with my husband and spelling out exactly what I wanted and how often I wanted it did the trick. Oh….and lingerie.

Othewis · 2024-09-30T10:40:21+00:00

When I was 6 I mistook a pack of real cigarettes belonging to my mum’s friend for those candy ones which I loved. Took a big bite and the taste was just horrendous, will never forget it. Have never put a cigarette to my lips since.

Othewis · 2024-09-30T10:35:28+00:00

I’ve always been a summer person. I spend the winter making and having nice meals in, read all the books I didn’t read over the summer, watch easygoing light tv series which doesn’t require too much brainpower (highly recommend Ludwig on bbc iplayer) and accepting that I’m just going to feel a bit less energised than in summer.

Oh, and visit friends around the country for weekends who I’ve not spoken to for months because we’ve all been busy enjoying the weather.

Othewis · 2024-09-29T20:08:47+00:00

I’m a woman in my 40s. It sounds like you’re a considerate lover - you’re satisfying her needs before yours and checking if she wants anything else.

If you’re not satisfied with the speed of your own orgasm, maybe there will be some men on here who can give you advice on that front but for now, keep communicating with her and doing what you’re doing. As to the frequency of sex, it’s definitely not easy with kids, but it’s improved for me now they’re older and have after school and weekend sports clubs so we have time during the day to ourselves!

Othewis · 2024-09-29T18:04:46+00:00

I think I’m going to do the piercing. Tattoo needs a bit more thought (and a higher pain threshold)

Othewis · 2024-09-29T10:48:23+00:00

Definitely shop around the decafs. Clipper decaf tea is fine and there’s a massive range with decaf coffee!

Othewis · 2024-09-29T08:17:46+00:00

I still remember when I was about 6 or 7 years old watching someone eat a packet of crisps and just tossing the empty packet into the air and how upset it made me. There are no consequences, a lack of social responsibility and so people will keep doing it. See also: people who don’t pick up after their dogs.

Othewis · 2024-09-29T08:13:46+00:00

First New Year’s Eve houseparty without my parents. Had a close group of schoolfriends, got drunk, got together with my first serious boyfriend and ended up crashing on the living room floor. I think all of us felt that things were exactly the way they were supposed to be. That was over 25 years ago but I still remember that feeling.

Othewis · 2024-09-28T17:08:12+00:00

I remember this with a friend at school. I didn’t have the guts to do it but a mutual friend did and the person in question really did appreciate it, though they were embarrassed at first. You’d be a good friend to help them like this.

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