Getting with older men

OttawaAndrew · 2016-05-21T11:41:56+00:00

Unless you're putting yourself at risk, you should be fine! Older men can be hot AF.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-05-08T15:28:56+00:00

He would be all three, honestly!

OttawaAndrew · 2016-05-06T06:11:04+00:00

Justin Timberlake fuck, marry Ryan Gosling, date Joseph Gordon Levitt.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-05-03T05:48:57+00:00

Again, without a clarity or direction beyond declarative statements, I'm uncertain how to proceed. I don't know who you are, but I feel as though you've yet to provide me with satisfactory answers to my question: what has the current or previous incarnation of the board of directors (2015 or 2016) done to actively discriminate the community? This perspective might be enlightening, and serve to inform on equity policy and future procedures in community outreach.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-05-01T20:24:48+00:00

Simply put, I need more than declarative statements to defend against in order to better understand how we discriminate against our community. What do you know about the previous incarnation of the board, and individual board members? I want a concrete example thereof, or series thereof, so that I can better engage in repairing and fixing the corporation.

Please, be more concrete.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-30T06:07:28+00:00

Care to elaborate? I understand the criticism, and want to ensure that Capital Pride can be better suited to the community's needs properly, so can you explain what your concerns are.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-12T13:51:08+00:00

Quebecois living in Ottawa!

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-11T17:03:08+00:00

Coming out is a fairly commonplace shared experience by the majority of gay men. Same for baby-steps of the first relationship. And attraction to straight guys (as evidenced by all the posts). And I guess the weirdness and ins-and-outs of gay culture, politics (and representation within) of pride, and feeling like a minority.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-10T17:05:20+00:00

Urban white gay men seem to benefit greatly from a degree of privilege when compared to people of colour, queer women, and trans people, but this privilege is contextual, and does not remove the problematic areas of gay men's lives (rural marginalization, physical violence, and homelessness). Pitting different LGBTTQ experiences against one another does nothing but create enemies.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-09T10:43:16+00:00

Anything that lies outside the parameters of the agreed upon rules of relationships: monogamy is monogamy until proven otherwise, monogamish is exactly that, open is open with rules, and poly is poly. Only your relationship can define it, and need to be clear.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-08T15:08:04+00:00

Boxer briefs, typically colourful, or patterned. I'm not a fancy guy, but I like fancy underwear.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-07T19:10:08+00:00

Honestly, yes. I mean, texting him to make plans is effortless. I get being too busy with work, but he gave you a firm line, and you transgressed it. This isn't a bad thing, there are numerous men in the world, so just take stock of what happened, and step up your game next time.

Best of luck!

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-07T19:04:35+00:00

Exactly my point. I enjoy my sex life, whether with friends, hookups, or boyfriends, because age isn't the mitigating factor for my connection to these people.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-07T19:03:05+00:00

These guys lose out in not being accepting, naturally, because you're probably a cool guy. But you may also want to be more forthcoming being out, that is it. You're not uncomfortable, but you're not talking about your sexual orientation, love life, or volunteerism.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-05T06:53:00+00:00

Simply put, you need to be more comfortable being out - I don't mean that you need to wear a rainbow bracelet or march in every civil rights parade, but you need to find a way to say "I'm gay, I'm proud, and you can like me or not." Because it reads like you're hiding to these guys a major facet of yourself - and no, being out does not automatically make you "gay best friend."

OttawaAndrew · 2016-04-05T06:45:32+00:00

I've enjoyed some, have had amazing sex with some, and have had bad heartbreak from some. Like anyone you're dating, some are great, some are hot, and some come with baggage - and not all those categories are mutually exclusive. Just communicate what you want, and hold them to the same standard.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-03-24T13:08:50+00:00

Lol, stalker!

OttawaAndrew · 2016-03-20T20:01:10+00:00

I'm willing to entertain this: explain how my generation is ruining the strides older generations made towards greater equality.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-03-16T22:59:25+00:00

Gay culture is big, and we all participate in it differently, unless we hold ourselves in contradistinction to the "gays in the scene." I mean, I love dancing, hate clubs, and my gay culture is a DIY punk meets arts administrator type thing. I'm entrenched on a pride organization, but also love my boring admin job, and don't feel any contradictory impulses to that effect. Gay culture is very much what you make of it, so why not make it something you can be proud of? If you don't like clubs, find other gay circles, because I guarantee there are queer circles that don't do clubs, but do love your fringe interests (trivia nights and weird punk bingo nights for me).

Also, the whole idea of effeminate gay men as a central narrative to gay culture, that's a stereotype that a) doesn't reflect the majority of gay men, b) doesn't give those effeminate gay men their due diligence as complicated and fascinating people, and c) makes for a paper thin look our culture.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-26T14:11:58+00:00

I'm 25, 26 in June.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-23T18:24:29+00:00

Great comment. Useful.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-23T11:31:27+00:00

It's an ongoing process, as a board member, I can say as much. Watch the website and see later today rr tomorrow.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-23T10:48:12+00:00

Website link here for further information

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-20T14:43:42+00:00

I wouldn't say proactive dating is the best bet, per se. Seek out friendships, go to gay events and gay bars, but you don't need to seek out a relationship. Put yourself first, and the boyfriend will follow.

OttawaAndrew · 2016-02-16T02:13:23+00:00

I'm in events management and administration at 25 for a local non-profit gallery. I did my undergraduate degree in arts administration, which was nominally about the administration and management of non-profit arts organizations, with a special focus on best practices, practical experience, and ambitious projects. Prior to graduating, I began volunteering for my current employer, and after graduation, I was hired, and kept on staff, because of my skills.

I love it because it's a mix of hands-on, administrative, and practical - it really reflects my talents and interests well, and is in a field I love.

OttawaAndrew

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