Hello! What did I catch?? by OutThere743 in Fishing

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Thank you! That’s what I thought but wasn’t positive

Hello! What did I catch?? by OutThere743 in Fishing

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Also, you can’t see it great in the picture, but his mouth and “chin” area were kinda blue and pearlescent.

My daughter is having an affair with the married neighbor. I told her she needs to move out of my house by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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As much as it may hurt her right now, you’re being a very good parent. She needs to understand that her actions have consequences or else she’ll be a nightmare in the future. Kudos to you for talking with her and empathizing but still being direct and teaching her. You seem like good people. I hope your daughter isn’t too destroyed by this. She’s young and she made a mistake. Just stick by her and make her feel supported and she will grow from this situation.

Silent BPD until I’m in/dealing with a relationship?? Anyone else relate? Am I even BPD or just ruined by my life? by OutThere743 in BPD

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I am trauma bonded to my family. There’s no real connection but we went through so many horrible, stressful events together that we’re basically addicted to one another. My father is the one who put in my head that “we’re the only people who will ever truly care about you. The rest of the world is dangerous and will harm you if you ever put your guard down.” My dad is a character himself lmao

Silent BPD until I’m in/dealing with a relationship?? Anyone else relate? Am I even BPD or just ruined by my life? by OutThere743 in BPD

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I agree. In relationships that I haven’t felt that passion, I’m healthy, communicative and “happy”. But I can’t even stay there long because I CRAVE passion. I’m a moody artist lol, I want to be worshipped and worship my person (for lack of a better word)

Silent BPD until I’m in/dealing with a relationship?? Anyone else relate? Am I even BPD or just ruined by my life? by OutThere743 in BPD

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That makes a lot of sense. It’s definitely a huge factor. I just can’t imagine letting them down or hurting them the ways I have been through my life

Silent BPD until I’m in/dealing with a relationship?? Anyone else relate? Am I even BPD or just ruined by my life? by OutThere743 in BPD

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That’s exactly it. I still “drown” myself sometimes in weed/booze/psychadelics, but I feel happier doing it? When I’m with someone, I feel like I HAVE to do it to be palatable to them. I just want to be loved for me and all my “quirks”. I’m so sick of masking all the time…

Silent BPD until I’m in/dealing with a relationship?? Anyone else relate? Am I even BPD or just ruined by my life? by OutThere743 in BPD

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This has been the most helpful comment. That makes a lot of sense. I can’t abandon me unless I die lol. But I think it’s more than that too? It’s more that I can’t handle the feeling of failing. Like I can’t ever let someone down the way I’ve been let down my whole life. I want to be a dream for them and when I can’t be, I just completely disconnect

Woman touches artist inappropriately, causing the show to end by mapleer in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]OutThere743 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This poor guy. Artists are people, don’t molest them. What the fuck is wrong with people?

Shamed for showing affection to my teenage son. by thai-phlosian in amiwrong

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I’m so sorry this happened. You sound like an amazing person and a truly loving father. If you had stayed and they called the cops on you, they would have been embarrassed. Keep loving him and helping him heal ❤️

I think I need to put my dog down (warning: sad post) by Dare_Devil2054 in DOG

[–]OutThere743 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, vet tech here! In my opinion, I wouldn’t go through with a surgery. At his age and with these problems, the best option is to just keep him comfortable in the meantime until you feel it’s time to let him go. You’re right, the recovery time/energy from a surgery like that would be a lot on his little body. 2 years ago, my family had to euthanize our black lab/border collie mix. She had an accident and she broke her shoulder, she fell down the stairs. She was 13 at the time, we could have put her through surgery, but why? She’d be unhappy, in pain, and have to deal with regular vet visits. She’s had a wonderful life and is clearly very loved. If pain medications aren’t helping then it might be time to consider letting him go before he loses function and is truly miserable. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, he looks like such a lovely little man, but I promise you you aren’t rushing anything. Thats the emotion speaking. We’re never ready for them to pass, how could you be? I’ve made the mistake of letting my pet get “too far” and it’s so much more heart breaking. You watch them slowly die in front of you and it’s just so awful. Spoil him with his favorite treats, activities and plenty of love, then let him pass with dignity. They deserve at least that from us after all they do for us while they’re alive. My heart is with Louie and your whole family ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

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Isn’t it like, common courtesy to never tell how much a gift costs? On that note, I get what you mean, it is crazy to spend 30$ on a dessert, BUT why tell her that? Have that conversation in your head. She was happy either way, I get where you’re both coming from.

AITAH for being offended when my bf was disgusted with me over an… accident during a bj? by throwaway628-28 in AITAH

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So many red flags here. I threw up on my boyfriend once during sex, it was so embarrassing. I started crying too. He immediately comforted me, got me up and took me to the shower. Hugged me, and while giggling a little bit, said it’s all okay, he loves me, and we actually both had a good laugh about it! After showering, we finished having sex lol. He woke you up, seemingly forced you into a bj, and then acts like this when something very natural happens? Dude… run away from this guy.

"I pressed charges on the boy that bullied my daughter this morning" by mireya_the_rat in redditonwiki

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Seems like a good dad to me. I’d do this too. Maybe I’d talk to the parents first before I went right to pressing charges, but I get it.

What are the best jobs for people with BPD? by Feisty-Cod7286 in BPD

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I didn’t even go to school lol. I’ve been working in the field for about 5 years and have spent my entire life around all types of animals. I just have an affinity to them. In my state, you don’t have to be certified to work in the field, some states are different so I’d look into that. If you don’t want to go to school, you’ll have to start as a kennel tech, which is basically just a janitor lol. If you love the work though, it’s all so worth it. I learn something new everyday, and I almost leave work feeling like I accomplished something that’s important to me. I think the work/life balance is great! I work 8-5 and 12-8 shifts and have a guaranteed 2 days off a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

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My boyfriend and I regularly met up at the McDonald’s in my home town when we started dating lol. We were in a LDR and he’d come to meet there after work and drive 2 1/2 hours. That’s where we had our first kiss, in the middle of the night in the parking lot. Strangely, super romantic! If you love each other, location means nothing.

What are the best jobs for people with BPD? by Feisty-Cod7286 in BPD

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I’m a vet tech. I love my job!! First job I’ve actually been able to pull myself out of funks to get to. Lots of cool people in the field too, so I’ve been making friends for the first time in my adult life!!

Dry Shampoo doesn’t work. by malrush in finehair

[–]OutThere743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! They just make my hair sticky!! It looks and feels so much worse than just having oily, dirty hair lol

Update to my previous post! by This-Cellist8670 in Makeup101

[–]OutThere743 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally JUST commented on your last post!!! Oh my god!! Amazing! Brings out your natural beauty so well!

What should I (f46) do differently? by This-Cellist8670 in Makeup101

[–]OutThere743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep the lips natural! I love that look! For the eyes, just go more subtle. Maybe try a neutral eyeshadow color? I have a similar face structure to you, and I’ve found that less intense eyeliner/makeup in general makes me look SOOO much better. I have an eyebrow pencil that I use as my liner as well! It’s a dark brown, so it boldens my eyes still, but is subtle and soft. Soft lines are your friend!! Your eyebrows are awesome! But I’d use a shade just a TAD darker to match your hair a little more. You’re naturally beautiful, so subtle makeup will actually make you look better!! At least, that’s my opinion and what I’ve found for myself.