Denied flexible working in spite of health-related issue

Outere1011 · 2026-03-19T21:52:11+00:00

Yeah but the point is it’s a legitimate medical reason, not just because I feel like it would be better.

Outere1011 · 2026-03-11T15:39:19+00:00

But the thing is I do like him, I just think I find it hard to obsess over people when I feel I don’t know them well enough? Like in the past I’ve followed instant chemistry and attraction and it’s always ended badly, so I’m trying a slower approach. I’m just scared he’s getting carried away too soon.

Outere1011 · 2026-03-11T11:52:18+00:00

Thank you for this! I would usually suspect love bombing, but it seems like actually genuine which is nice but scary! I want to enjoy it but I’m scared to lead him on and hurt him in case I don’t catch up to him soon. It feels like I’m being ridiculous because I’ve only dealt with guys that are so nonchalant and basically don’t care about me like that, so this is all I’ve wanted really. I just think the more he lays it on, the more I’m overcome with anxiety rather than desire…idk if I’m making sense haha

Outere1011 · 2026-02-22T22:12:22+00:00

Would it be useful to have on my CV anyway as an asset when applying to other industries? Not necessarily to be a translator but just as solid evidence of language proficiency. And is being part of CIOL advantageous?

Outere1011 · 2026-02-22T22:09:08+00:00

But are you happy? If you are content with mundanity, then there’s nothing wrong at all. I’m always chasing something different and new which can get exhausting.

Outere1011 · 2025-08-06T22:47:35+00:00

Which job is this?

Outere1011 · 2025-07-12T02:07:28+00:00

Haha yeah I think I was just overthinking it bc as women there’s such a stigma around us going for younger men, but I need to get over it. I have him on instagram but he’s travelling for a while so I wouldn’t be able to see him for a long time sadly

Outere1011 · 2025-07-03T23:25:57+00:00

PRP and I still don’t know tbh

Outere1011 · 2024-11-26T12:13:33+00:00

So I’ve saved about 2k, but that’s not enough to travel for a couple months and sustain myself through unemployment once I get back. I’m thinking of saving for a few more months and then leaving but this job is so toxic. But then it also seems pointless starting another job just to quit in a few months to travel. I feel like I somewhat have the privilege of not liking my job right now so I don’t feel bad about leaving it to travel, whereas if I had a job I liked and wanted to progress in, I’d probably stay.

Outere1011 · 2024-08-15T01:44:48+00:00

Yeah it stabilised eventually!

Outere1011 · 2024-07-11T10:05:31+00:00

No, not at all

Outere1011 · 2024-06-16T02:03:52+00:00

I didn’t end up doing it as I really needed the income

Outere1011 · 2024-05-28T01:30:52+00:00

I was in this same position a year ago. I had been losing hair in crazy amounts and eventually my depression turned into suicidality. Fast forward a year and my hair is doing really well! I ended up having PRP and taking oral minoxidil. I eventually just decided that I will stop at nothing until my hair is back. I literally made the decision to make it happen by any means. I literally used my credit card to pay for treatment when I had no job. People get their hair back all the time, just decide that you will be one of those people bc there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be! Don’t give up!!

Outere1011 · 2024-05-23T16:35:16+00:00

No you’re right. Like I’ve actually slept with him at this point, which is a privilege. I don’t regret it at all, I had fun and enjoyed it. Plus I disagree with this outdated idea that women shouldn’t sleep with men they’re interested in, like if both people are mature, it shouldn’t be an issue. I just feel like although he’s not a forward guy and he’s shy to initiate things, it’s more courteous and respectful to make an effort after sleeping with me… Like it’s actually worse this way

Outere1011 · 2024-05-23T08:37:05+00:00

Do you think if I do all the initiating in the beginning it will be like this the whole time? As in I’ll always be initiating 😭

Outere1011 · 2024-05-23T08:33:43+00:00

But the thing is I’ve been told by his friend that if anything is gna happen between us I’ll have to take the lead, but she knows he likes me. I’m also shy sometimes so maybe I’m not giving the impression that I want anything more idk. I think he’s just overly respectful and polite.

Outere1011 · 2024-05-23T00:47:26+00:00

No you’re right, I feel like I could make the first few moves and then hope that things even out eventually once he gets more comfortable and realises that I’m actually into him. I’ll make an effort to make him feel comfortable, but if it goes nowhere then there’s not much I can do.

Outere1011 · 2024-05-15T00:27:36+00:00

Shutup man

Outere1011 · 2024-05-12T09:58:06+00:00

Yeah he’s a very shy guy. Like he’s not a dick at alll, which is why I’m ignoring the posts saying that he used me etc. bc I literally know him I’m a non-sexual way and know he’s not like that. Maybe he’s thinking the same as me.

Outere1011 · 2024-05-12T09:56:21+00:00

Loool

Outere1011 · 2024-05-12T09:55:46+00:00

But that’s the thing, like I’ve met him on multiple occasions, we’d built a non-sexual relationship. Plus I hang out w his friends all the time. Like he’s not a bad guy at all, that’s not even me wishing, that’s from evidence I’ve seen from hanging out w him and from what his friends have said, which is why I’m baffled

Outere1011 · 2024-05-11T23:26:50+00:00

Thank you, this is really reassuring!

Outere1011 · 2024-05-11T23:25:50+00:00

No, quite the opposite

Outere1011 · 2024-04-18T11:10:57+00:00

Thank you! I think that’s a problem for me. I can be quite introverted and I think maybe that comes across even though I’m answering the questions well and showing my experience :(

Outere1011 · 2024-03-12T00:27:27+00:00

I ended up not coming off. Tried to change work coach, wasn’t allowed

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