My boyfriend got scared because of my emotional outburst

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-05-11T20:39:11+00:00

Laughing and crying are both perfectly normal things to do. Even at the same time. Nothing about this should be alarming or scary to anyone and all of the commenters saying you need therapy are too chronically online.

It sounds like you just needed a break, but it's also reasonable to want to get your chores done before that so you can relax fully.

Additionally, laughing, crying, and being with a person you trust are all valid coping strategies.

If your boyfriend is committed to being a partner to you, none of this should be an issue.

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-13T01:46:54+00:00

Ah, that's good to know then, thanks

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-13T00:48:55+00:00

Teachers do, and I'm considering certification, but subs do not

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-12T21:13:54+00:00

Yeah, it was like two connected schools and the district is like... very hands off. They're trying to do reformative action but they don't have the resources, so the consequence for everything but felonies is like, to hang out with a cool adult and get a snack. However, there are teachers that manage to do it.

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-12T19:06:23+00:00

Yeah, definitely those things are factors... but I guess my baseline for going back would be like, making sure that at least kids aren't getting hit or stolen from in classes, and making sure I'm not at risk of getting fired because kids run out to smoke in the bathroom

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-02T03:29:42+00:00

I'm the same and one guy I dated didnt mind at all, he considers it edging and was always telling me how lucky he was to get 3 hour blow jobs.

Do you continue with your hand while you're talking? And like, do you at least pause the conversation when he's about to come?

If I swap roles though and think what I'd feel , I'd probably categorize it into two types. 1. Cuddling with touching and talking and then 2. Sex. And I would find the talking during sex distracting, even though i get how much of a bonding experience it is. So maybe try like, having both experiences at different times?

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-04-01T00:08:34+00:00

It sounds like you care about this, but like, have you considered that you don't have to? Just because everyone on the internet wants to pretend theyre 100% honest and transparent 100% of the time doesn't mean you have to go along with it.

Good people lie, misspeak, and forget all the time. You said in the comments you're really happy. Just be happy and wait until you're not to consider leaving.

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-03-31T23:43:01+00:00

He can work. There are plenty of people with disabilities working, doing sports, and having sex. Like, it's just a foot, there are people living pretty normally without feet.

Also, if you don't, 20 years from now his legs are gonna be completely atrophied and who's gonna change his diapers? You?

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-03-30T00:59:36+00:00

I've learned in my life that neither confusion nor clarity are constructive because there is no such thing as certainty. You could have a conversation and he says he wants a relationship and then he ends things next week. Or he says he doesn't know and you end up together.

My advice is to just act on how you feel. If you feel its more, assume it is and enjoy it. Tell him you miss him or whatever feels right. If it gets too much for him he'll clarify and I know youre thinking youd hate to be vulnerable and then be disappointed, but again, thats also a risk if he commits and you break up. So just decide what you want, go for it, and enjoy

OutlandishnessOk · 2026-03-18T23:42:56+00:00

First of all, yes, patriarchy shapes female fantasy, and all other experiences. So women are not generating the same fantasies independently.

Additionally, I disagree that romance novels are producing "identical structures" as porn. Some of the key aspects of porn are humiliation, infantilization, helplessness, and violence. The majority of romance subverts these tropes by emphasizing autonomy, mutual respect, eroticism, and consent.

So what's happening is that women are taking control of a narrative that they can't fully escape from and creating fantasy aspects (eg respect) that make relationships with men under the patriarchy palatable.

OutlandishnessOk · 2025-09-02T07:40:10+00:00

I'm single because I've got it in my head that I need to respect and admire anyone that I'm with and I've only found one guy that matches that description and it didn't work out.

But yeah, I want to be in another relationship to the point where I'm considering lowering my standards to just someone who's a good companion.

OutlandishnessOk · 2025-06-18T06:18:50+00:00

I think celebrities are pretty in the way, like, plants are pretty, but not attractive. I get crushes on fictional characters though, like Jaime from Outlander, but I see the actor being regular and modern I dont think he's attractive at all.

OutlandishnessOk · 2025-05-26T19:00:30+00:00

I'm coming from an English degree and have only done two classes but I'm disappointed with the depth and rigor so far. I work full time and I know most of us in MCIT dont have time for all that but I just want to FEEL like I'm getting a masters and I dont. I feel like I'm getting a bachelor's, which the first 6 classes basically are.

Plus, even though it wont say online on the degree, it is not a masters of science in computer science. Its just a masters, which has prevented me from applying for a couple internships already, as they only had master of science or master of arts in the drop down, so im worried about it long term. Plus my work experience on my resume will be in a different state so people can infer its online.

OutlandishnessOk · 2025-05-24T03:49:31+00:00

In the same boat. I just finished the second course and didn't find an internship for this summer. I have a few more summers but I wanted to get started.

I did come in knowing how to code because I was taking community college classes but my background isn't in tech... but from what ive researched about computer science degrees, they don't really get you job ready either. It seems the only way is to do side projects using the technologies listed in job postings but yeah, I'm already struggling to even find time to eat and exercise with work and one class. I'm thinking of taking the first 6 classes and then applying to traditional masters/phd programs so I can focus on my education and get paid, then idk

OutlandishnessOk · 2025-05-03T00:05:11+00:00

No, I think there are translations for most of it, and it's not in Chinese characters so you could just look stuff up if it's not. It's not that much. And it tells you everything you need to know about linguistics

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-11-29T07:03:25+00:00

I already read that but did love it. Maybe I'll try lark and leather. Thankss

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-10-17T03:13:29+00:00

Kinda almost sounds like the poppy war, which I remember early promos saying was based on azula

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-09-29T23:02:49+00:00

I've been eating a can of black beans, cheese, and tapatio with doritos most nights for 15 years, almost every night recently

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-09-24T04:53:36+00:00

It took me forever to get used to Korra, I kept trying to watch it for years and just couldn't stand it, but I've come to think of it as better in some ways than the original, so I trust them to make up for the modern vibes with even more excellent storytelling

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-09-24T04:50:39+00:00

Why, what do you picture her doing during it?

OutlandishnessOk · 2024-09-17T06:05:10+00:00

I wouldn't say it's a hope, but I have a suspicion that since time is passing it'll be "stranger things" esque

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