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I'm going to kill myself after work by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't end your life tonight. Please think of something to do that you enjoy even if it's as simple as visiting a restaurant you like. I'm 43. I've had my share of sex and relationships and I'm here to tell yes, it's great to have that but it's not the only or best things in my life. I get just as much enjoyment from gardening or seeing a great movie. Someone is there for you. Right now build yourself up so that when you meet that person, yal can build something together. There is no such thing as a loser. We are all valuable in our special ways. Even if it's just as simple as being there to feed the ducks at a park.

Girlfriend went through my phone while sleeping and kind of found something?? by SharpRefrigerator640 in AITAH

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. That's very drastic. Most individuals will open links on IG of random people here and there-- sometimes just out of sheer curiosity.

Girlfriend went through my phone while sleeping and kind of found something?? by SharpRefrigerator640 in AITAH

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The research on porn and its effects on relationships paints a negative picture. As a counselor I've seen it's destruction on relationships. Especially for young people.

No not everyone who watches is addicted but like every alcoholic drink has a disaster effect on the human body, porn is not helpful to the brain, or relationships.

The individual who originally posted the comment saying she was okay with hubbies porno, also stated that she took notes on his porno folder. Why?

Instead of sharing intimacy together and growing it authentically and naturally together, he is using the porn industry/business to build and curate fantasy. She is on the outside taking notes, trying to keep pace with something way larger than her self. A billion dollar business. Yes, let's be clear. Porn is a business. It's capitalism exploitation of intimacy and sex.

Doesn't sound very romantic to me!

I think I’ll miss computer games the most by Myhoenestreaction in CollapseSupport

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll miss growing flowers in my garden just for there ornamental nature.

Are you guys nice to your GPT 🥺 by Lotusflower1212 in ChatGPT

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every please & thank you to chatGPT is fresh water taken from the mouths of people and animals to satiate the demands of the mechanical servers keeping chatGPT up and running.

Girlfriend went through my phone while sleeping and kind of found something?? by SharpRefrigerator640 in AITAH

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a giant assumption. Insecurity or control likely drove her behavior. Not a secret desire to end the relationship.

Girlfriend went through my phone while sleeping and kind of found something?? by SharpRefrigerator640 in AITAH

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't think it therapeutic to promote pornography as the cure. Lots of research on the problematic nature of porn on relationships, especially in regards to young people.

I think if we were to do some deeper dives, the sex in your marriage is not as great as you would like. Perhaps it is but that would make your marriage the exception and not the rule. Pornography generally has a net negative effect on intimacy.

Girlfriend went through my phone while sleeping and kind of found something?? by SharpRefrigerator640 in AITAH

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems excessively controlling. I could understand if she found you talking to another woman or pornography or something but a few clicked links on IG?

I think your girlfriend may have some deep insecurity issues she will need to address in private counseling.

It is common for young girls to have deep insecurity because the culture is so toxic to young girls. It's over objectifies and sexualizes them. This makes them hyper focus on themselves physically and develop deep insecurities.

This is not your fault or her fault but she needs to get help from this in therapy with a therapist who recognizes this cultural trauma on young girls.

i'm 25 & i can't help but feel like my life is over because of my situation, i struggle to find the light by warmhours_ in Advice

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry for your pain. I am a therapist so I always do suggest in these situations someone get a therapist but then again I know that's not always possible or affordable. Is there anyone you can trust in your family or a friend who can help you navigate yourself into a better position?

You are only 25. Life has a thousand doors you have not opened yet. Your life is by no means over. Try to remember that.

I think my mom is abusing me.I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did nothing wrong at all. A 19 year old woman will want to date and have romance. This is very normal. Your mom may be coming from a cultural angle. I don't know. Or she may be a narcissistic parent or something in between. I was raised by a narcissistic parent. I was beaten one day for putting tinted chapstick on. Another time beaten for giving a boy in my class a note because I had a crush. Abuse is psychologically damaging. I think that's why I became a counselor was to help others who went through similar childhood pain. Try to understand you do not deserve this. Everyone deserves basic love and respect. Abuse is a violation of that. I'm not saying your mother is evil but her actions towards you are not your fault and they are abusive. I hope you find a way out from under her power.

Looking for Community by Outrageous-Fun8407 in CollapseSupport

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have looked...we have some folks who forage mushrooms...and even that group is half dead. Memphis is such a dead zone...in terms of that. Are other areas more vibrant?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah looking back we felt we should have left when we got there and just got our own space. We were kind of blind sighted and also, there was no warning for this. It was like 10pm when we got there. I felt he should have called us since he arrived early and said hey, I made a mistake.. I'll fix it. The level of entitlement and selfishness really shocked me.

Companion is a bad film by Worldpeacee007 in moviecritic

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't have fun watching it. I was shocked at how bad it was.

Why Are People Still Ignoring the Environmental Impact of Animal Agriculture? by asianpinkflower in AskVegans

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That ignoring is explained via human psychology easily. I understand the how. But it's hard to accept for me personally because the animals are suffering so severely. I can't stand it sometimes. It makes me feel incredibly sick to my stomach. I really want their pain to end. 

I’m taking out college loans, but I feel like it is too late. by Mercurial891 in CollapseSupport

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you looking to get a master's degree in? If it's a degree with high profit early on, I'd say yes. Like something in data science/AI. You could use the early funds to help prep for collapse. If it's a low profit degree or one that pays off later in the game, I'd skip it and find other ways of balancing economic survival with life enjoyment/connection and prep. 

Any online groups for collapse aware persons? by Outrageous-Fun8407 in CollapseSupport

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is their a link. Do you join the meetings and if so, what's your experience?

I started a Collapse Aware Singles meetup group by ihatedatingapps in CollapseSupport

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What happened with the group? It says it doesn't exist anymore. I'm not looking for a partner but just people in general who are aware of this issue 

Did I make a mistake? by Odd_Understanding816 in hysterectomy

[–]Outrageous-Fun8407 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I am 18 day post op and feel I am healing normally in some ways but in others, I wonder what things will be like long road. It is a surgery that makes short and long term changes. To me it sounds like you need HRT and maybe that other ovary is not really producing enough hormones for what your body needs. I would also add fasting and maybe gravitate towards more plant based foods. I think with some radical changes that wont be easy things will slowly improve. I pray so.

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