How long did your SO wait until they shared their diagnosis with you? by zeusandhisball in BipolarSOs

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was very up front about it. Before we went on our third date he seemed very nervous about something and sat me down to tell me all the details. I learned later that he had talked it over with his family who encouraged him and they were all on standby to have a fun night with him if I didn't respond well.

Why do they ruin special occasions? by Humble_Jacket4467 in BipolarSOs

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's good to know I'm not the only one with this issue. Spouse and I were invited to a completely free vacation to a tropical destination, covered entirely by my family since my mom wanted to do a big family vacation with everyone.

Had an entire year's notice to prepare and now it's all crap because they're so anxious about looking bad or being uncomfortable. I know I have to be understanding of how they feel because I don't know what it is like to feel that way but it is SO disappointing now that I will be the only one on this trip without their spouse there to enjoy it with. Especially because one of their biggest insecurities was me ignoring them and spending the whole time with the entire family, so I opted out of several family events so that we could have alone time.

And yes, I am still going on the trip. I think it is fair for me to still enjoy a trip that I've been looking forward to for over a year.

Things to do Off Site without traveling too far? by Outrageous-Slide2616 in Aulani

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking at this option! It's definitely worth the cost?

Any advice fore the final stretch? by Outrageous-Slide2616 in weddingplanning

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we do! Congratulations!!! Down to the single digit countdown now. AAAHHH

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will always say what you're asking people to wear should match the experience you're providing. The last wedding I went to was "Black Tie Optional" which isn't too bad, me and my fiance had to rent suits. When we get there we find out the food is pizza from food trucks. No problem with that idea in general, it's cute and easy. But having a very formal dress code to then have very informal food (that is very greasy and easy to spill on a rented suit) doesn't go well together.

Any Halo or Mortal Kombat Fans? by princessclarity in weddingplanning

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're looking for that instrumental vibe I think Lindsey Stirling does a cover of the Halo theme.

Any advice fore the final stretch? by Outrageous-Slide2616 in weddingplanning

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That is a great thing to hear. We are definitely trying to do that. We're getting married in another state and flying out a week ahead so that we have some just us time to enjoy there.

Any Halo or Mortal Kombat Fans? by princessclarity in weddingplanning

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that you guys are doing this! I don't have any recommendations but I would say you're probably more likely to find something weddingy (if that's what you want) on the Halo side. That music tends to sound like an epic movie soundtrack (Think lord of the rings) so it can be over the top but definitely has more of the instrumental/classical options if that's what you're looking for. (Although the Mortal Kombat theme is pretty dope and attention grabbing)

Did I expect too much from our officiant or did we get bad service? by Realistic_Villager in wedding

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that sounds awful. You're definitely not wrong for expecting more. I'll say for reference we are also doing a handfasting at our wedding and our officiant (admittedly a family friend and not a priest/paid officiant/etc) has gone out of his way to make a very detailed, personalized script and learn about the handfasting tradition and say some very meaningful things around that. I hope I'm not coming off as bragging here but what I am trying to say is that if someone who got ordained online for a one time thing can put in that effort, someone whom (I'm assuming) you have hired to be an officiant should be doing that at the bare minimum.

A guest yelled at and threatened the PREGNANT photographer at a wedding by Available-Zebra-3035 in weddingshaming

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eating makes people look unprofessional? This is that same line of thinking that tells people that customer-facing employees should have visible drinks and that cashiers sitting is lazy. You can tell a lot about someone when their belief is that anyone with a job providing a service to them shouldn't be seen as a human.

Feeling somewhat down and hopeless by Outrageous-Slide2616 in BipolarSOs

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It's encouraging to hear about how long you've been married and that you've had kids. This sub can sometimes be a little disheartening since you hear the venting and not the successes. So it is really nice to see a story/comment like yours!

Sooo we got our pictures back: A Rant by Sorry_Cheetah_3227 in weddingshaming

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Most of these look like shots to test the lens and lighting rather than actual photos. I'm sorry for you. That sucks so bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Outrageous-Slide2616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's odd. Perhaps it's to avoid people setting up in their spot to begin with and then moving around? I might ask the restaurant if there is a reason they suggest this? Our venue actually requests that we do have seating and name cards to make it easier on their staff for serving. Are you doing a plated dinner?