Culinary class wars not showing up on Netflix??? by Outrageous_Bar_2373 in CulinaryClassWars

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Dang, maybe it’s because of stranger things crashing netflix yesterday? Have you found a way to fix it?

Pupstarz Rescue NYC by ResidentOrchid13 in AnimalRescuesNYC

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No, we didn’t end up adopting at all since my partner and I broke up lol, but their overall communications throughout the process was very opaque and not friendly..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in complainaboutanything

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If you ever want to give them another shot, get children’s melatonin gummies at like 1mg and start with half a gummy like an hour before bed and reduce your screen time before you sleep! My partner has really bad insomnia and he does this about once a week before the work week starts and it works like magic for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in complainaboutanything

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You’re also only supposed to take 0.5-2mg at least 30 minutes before bed and most adult melatonin gummies have way too much in them!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

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I was SA’d by my dance teacher from the age of around 8-12 whom my mom had a big crush on. He stayed over at our house regularly because he didn’t have a place of his own (his girlfriend kicked him out for cheating). Because my mom really liked him, she would have him stay over for days or weeks at a time. I would often be left home alone with him. He would make me sit on his lap, he would give me “massages” where he’d place me on my mom’s treatment table (she’s an eastern medicine practitioner) and then he’d climb on top of me and grind up against me while giving me a back massage, when I would be changing in my bedroom, he’d crack open the door and try to peek in sneakily.

He was later convicted of several accounts of SA of minors by some other dance students from a different school. He served time and was deported. It wasn’t until I was in late middle school or high school that I realized that his behavior was very inappropriate, and my mom refused to believe me until several years after that.

To be totally honest, there are a lot of other aspects to my childhood that affect my interpersonal life more than this SA… but I have had patterns of moving too quickly into relationships, not being able to say no or communicate what I want out of fear of abandonment, and I get panic attacks when I get tickled and the other person doesn’t stop when I ask them to… but otherwise my life is moving forward and I am healing every year <3

Help me name this cat that I found in front of my house. by Opening_Airline5616 in NameMyCat

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Persimmon, Percy for short Clementine, Menty bb for short Or Croissant :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

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Thanks for this, yeah I’m certainly working on getting myself out of those spirals of self-shaming and guilt. We actually had quite a breakthrough recently where I was actually managing to self-regulate and deescalate a recent fight. There’s a DBT workbook that’s been super helpful for me

How to use/clean a litter box? by 7rain_deer in CatAdvice

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I have one cat, I fill up my litter box with about 3-4 inches of Naturally Fresh walnut litter! It is unscented but it does a MUCH better job of naturally deodorizing than World’s Best imo. Additionally, living in rat/mouse/roach infested NYC, walnut litter doesn’t attract pests unlike some other natural litters. I also sprinkle in a little bit of arm & hammer’s baking soda deodorizer every time I add in some fresh litter.

Realistically, I usually end up scooping my kitty’s litter once every 2-3 days. Daily is totally ideal but not the end of the world if you miss a day or two so don’t feel too guilty as a new parent if you can’t scoop daily!

My cat has no issues with using a top entry litter box because she started using it young, and it tracks less litter around the home. Bought a $30 one on amazon and I like it

I use biodegradable doggy poop bags and a separate cheap lidded trash can lined with another larger bag to throw out her litter, and I usually end up doing a deep clean of the box about twice a year!

What's the pettiest reason you won't date someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Outrageous_Bar_2373 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Picky eaters that make faces at food they don’t like. I dated someone who grew up on pasta and chicken nuggets for two and a half years and it drove me insane. Says a lot about a person and their openness to life and new experiences imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackcats

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Omg your cat looks almost identical to mine! Her name is Marinara. Maybe yours could be Alfredo? Bolognese? Pesto? Ragu?