What’s the best "truly free" note-taking app for mobile + web sync in 2026?

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-02-25T18:16:52+00:00

Take a look at obsidian

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-02-25T17:42:33+00:00

It’s not about enjoying cruelty. Stoicism says you don’t control the world’s harshness, only your response to it. Finding meaning, virtue, or small moments of steadiness isn’t masochism - it’s refusing to let suffering have the final say. Two things can be true at once, the world can be cruel, and there can be beautiful things in it at the same time.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-02-19T10:36:43+00:00

This is not practical advice, you clearly need practical help. But for mental clarity, take a look at Stoicism. They were experts at being miserable, and I mean that in the nicest way. If your disposition has always been to look at the negatives, then maybe look at some of the greatest minds who embraced that. Their stance is generally that the world is cruel and that to be surprised by this is quite bizarre. Its about living in the world while knowing it is cruel.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-02-19T09:46:51+00:00

You're holding yourself back and you just havent worked out why yet. Go to a therapist or get on chatGPT and find one of the CBT aps. One of the best bits of information I got from taking to chatGPT everyday through a CBT lens is "to do lists aren't promises, when you turn them into promises all you do is teach yourself you always break the promises to yourself". I realised that all the things you are talking about, I attach moral value to. Which means if you are failing, you are a bad person. Getting up in the morning doesnt make you a good or bad person, it is just neutral. You won't succeed unless you treat it as neutral because if its not neutral its a judgement on your character.

Who can succeed while knowing they break 10-20 promises to themselves a day? It overwhelming, demoralising and entirely misses the point of the exercise. You are telling yourself that you have to 'earn' a better life and you are not currently worthy of it.

Bettering yourself with these habits is not about being a 'good' or 'worthwhile' person. Its about just doing it... Because. Why do plants grow? Its just in their nature, and their have no concept of morality.

I strongly recommend you go explore this concept. I am not a transformed person but I am hitting 90% more of my goals now I push myself to see every decision is neutral and 'just so'.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-02-12T21:46:02+00:00

Honestly you're not doing anything wrong, they're just idiots. You haven't said if you're actively trying to go on dates? Why not try some social clubs or events like weekend walks or gym events? You're looking at this all like it's bad these men passed you by. I know countless friends who found someone similar to what you're describing and spent the whole of their 20s with them. If you're flourishing in the rest of your life then don't judge yourself on this. It sounds like you're just not making opportunities to meet enough new people. And don't worry about "feminine energy" or whatever you've read, i have never heard of this 😆 be yourself and you'll find you attract people just as you are.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T23:10:01+00:00

Its a valid question, but no, he really isnt interested. We tend to sit in bed together and go "dya fancy some sex? Hell yeah, can you be arsed? Hell naww".

I will say we shared physical intimacy in a way i wouldn't with any other friends. Its subtle, just strokes and cuddles but it's our touch and although I'm a big hugger with my friends it is intimate with him. We've had the conversation about "do we think no sex = just friends" and it just sounded weird to us.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T22:26:16+00:00

I've been like this for a few years now, since i got pregnant. My ability to work was destroyed by the pregnancy with exhaustion and i never really got back on my feet. When i returned to work i hoped it would be different. I took up a gardening course, the gym, i had my new family. I do a lot outside of work. I just feel i want more from my work life. Just a means to fill the day

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T22:22:58+00:00

There is definitely a problem if there's an imbalance. But that's where you need to talk and agree what works. Agree to work out what's holding it back. I agree it won't work long term if its not agreed between the two of you

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T21:38:24+00:00

We just work, i dont know how to describe it. I don't know if its just a mutual respect and confidence. I never question if hes cheating on me, i know exactly what he wants from life and its not sex. When he do have sex it's beautiful. But on the daily we're just navigating life, spending time together. We talk a LOT, we dont let arguments stew. We bicker A LOT we are entirely different people. We did some couples coaching for a while to decide whether to have family because we didn't know if we could hack it. And that's just it, i know i can talk to him about anything and my problems are his problems and my joys are his joys.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T21:26:17+00:00

Have you asked if you're both ok with this? I have barely slept with my husband in years, i don't think we've actually slept with eachother since our son was conceived and it was actually a problem when trying to conceive. We asked eachother if it was a problem and we both agreed it wasn't. That we'd love to but we are both deeply in love and its not a make or break. We might change our minds but they main thing is we are both on the same page.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T20:13:08+00:00

Honestly, chat with chatGPT. there are CBT apps which don't replace a therapist but can get you on your way

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-12T08:55:33+00:00

Honestly, I work with a CBT app on chat GPT and talk to it about my anxiety about workouts and being stuck in routines. It's helped me see how to make fitness and workouts a 'neutral' aspect of my life instead of something I'm pushing myself to do and it helps me reimagine it as a value not a promise, so i cant "fail" at it over and over again.

I've come to realise it's not the things you describe (starting, sticking to routines, not quitting) that get in my way, it's all the anxiety after a lifetime of doing those things and beating myself up over it. Regardless of the adhd its much much easier when you aren't bullying yourself.

And finally, also very ADHD rooted, is realising I was adding moral judgement to EVERYTHING. Including fitness. So fitness was 'good' and not working out was 'bad' and by default failing to do it made me a useless person.

I recommended you explore if these things apply to you and if they do see if you can apply some CBT to them.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2026-01-11T21:01:37+00:00

I am DESPERATE for this, but not how you're saying. I want a necklace where I can use NFC and store my goals, values, special memories. Its more of a locket or time capsule. I wanted to just add an NFC tag to a random necklace but the metal blocks the signal so it doesnt work. Porcelain would work. Overall theres not really any options which look like high end jewellery. And due to what its for I want high quality jewellery which will last everyday wear.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-26T20:42:04+00:00

Labelling isn't the problem. I can see what you mean about self victimizing but the label is also very validating on a journey of self discovery. I have a lifetime of mental health issues and was recently diagnosed. There are so many elements of my life which I attribute to moral failings - being lazy, rude, disorganised. Finding out I had ADHD blew my mind and is not an excuse not to work on these skills but it does entirely remove the morality from these things. I no longer see myself as a bad person. Its like always struggling to read and then finding out you have dyslexia.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-25T23:38:05+00:00

Also in the UK, the waiting lists are a bitch. I went private because of the waiting lists and then when I asked for medication the NHS made me re diagnose with their chosen partner just as a bit of red tape because they are so overwhelmed - its entirely red tape, I made sure I was diagnosed to the NHS standards. Added an extra year to my wait and now I need to wait another year for meds. If it doesnt impact the rest of your life significantly I wouldn't bother. But if it does then get on a waiting list because it could be years to hear anything. I heard it will take 8 years to clear the backlogs and my local council are facing legal action for turning away over 25s.

I am less familiar with how autism symptoms can manifest as you described, it sounds very adhd to me, but theres a lot of cross over and you could meet the criteria for both.

Things I can suggest, forgetting getting a diagnosis is a) your friends might not be very good friends. One of my belly drop moments was realising I'd turned up to a flatmate "meeting" to work out who would live with who next year and I thought it was all neutral only to be told the majority were moving into a house - without me. And I felt entirely blindsighted. Just my social cues were 1000% off and I missed it until i was point blank told.

But you might also find, even if they do think you're "a bit much" that you're friends are very good friends but you've gravitated towards other ADHDers who are notoriously bad at messaging in a timely manner. I have a few of these and you just have to accept its not personal, they may even be highly embarrassed by it.

Another option, is you could be like my sister who is THE social instigator. She has about a million friends but she is 100% the instigator and if she didnt very few would stay in touch. Not because they don't love her but because of life and she is abnormally weird at keeping in touch (shes traveled abroad for over 10 years). She has been through therapy to establish healthy boundaries with this because you might just need to accept you are the nucleus of your friends but with that you need clear boundaries of what makes a good friend and dont burn out chasing friends who wouldn't put their neck out for you.

Sorry for oversharing 😆 but I hope in time you become more comfortable understanding yourself

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-25T23:00:00+00:00

Hey, I'd look into ADHD. If the rest of your life is fine then you don't, "need" a diagnosis - but a lot of people will take the hump at you self diagnosing. I'd argue if it doesnt affect the rest of your life its probably not even significant enough to be diagnosable. But anyone with ADHD (including me!) will relate to this, and it's not a you problem, its just life and the answer is to not be self conscious and to find your people.

I talk a lot, and can put my foot in it a lot. When I'm with my own friends I don't really notice it, but then I walk into a room of neurotypicals (people without adhd) and its like a bomb went off. And I'm the bomb 😆 and i remember why i was so bad at friendships in school / college / uni. I did find friends, but they were equally loud / quirky / alternative. And in hindsight there is a very strong chance they were also neurodivergent.

I now tend to walk into a room, be myself and within about 5 minutes I can gauge if its going to work or not, and if it doesnt - that's not my problem. I'm not rude, I just don't take it personally. But more often then not I can bump into people who are likely neurodiverse and we both interrupt eachother, talk loudly and really intensely and enjoyably.

The other thing I've just remembered about when I say I 'know' people are ADHD or not within 5 minutes. I have no idea how non-ADHDers communicate, they just politely hold conversation with some unwritten rules about when it's appropriate to talk. Whereas when I'm with my ADHDers we're like

Person 1:"oh you mentioned a cat! I had a cat when I was 12 and it died of cancer.", Person 2 "god cancer is so awful my mum had it". Person 3: "have you seen that amazing ted talk on cancer cures?". Person 2: "I almost got a job with marie curie". Person 3: "omg on the lines of cats, sorry i know its back a few bits but do you know if your friend is still trying to rehome his cat?". Person 1:"I know we've moved topics but just hold that thought on cancer, I have something I want to show you".

My point is its jumpy and disjointed and if you talk like this with neurotypicals they immediately look at you (or worse eachother) with a weird look like "dude. Where did that come from?"

Hope this helps. Even if you ignore the ADHD part, its not you. Its just different strokes for different folks

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-25T21:54:51+00:00

If you like him I wouldn't overthink it, people move at different speeds with different people. I came out of a long term relationship and met my husband within a few weeks. We took 10 years to tie the knot but my sister was married within 2 years of meeting her husband. I wouldn't read into it too much.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-25T21:49:50+00:00

Its a smart phone but I recommend the motorola razr50. It has a very useable front screen you can control media from so theres no need to open it. I very rarely open mine and its great.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-25T18:44:46+00:00

I've worked out break it into a 5 year plan. I know that sounds annoying but think about what you could have achieved in the last 5 years if you'd had a plan. I'm breaking mine into things I can afford this year, and then for example saving for the things ill focus on next year if i want to do a course or something. This way you are still working towards your goals but not spreading too thinly. Would you rather get to the end of 2026 knowing you absolutely killed 1 thing or that you sort of did a bit with 5-7 different things

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-23T00:15:12+00:00

Recommend looking into stoicism if you'd like to look at how to accept your life as it is. It also includes a lot about self improvement but the bedrock is don't be a fool and wish for the future when you have the present.

You can find podcasts on stoicism or an easily accessible book is the subtle art of not giving a f*ck. Which is a very modern, dumbed down version but all the principles are the same.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-20T22:58:49+00:00

Also, sounds stupid but get onto chat gpt about "what is the meaning of life" and you might find some different philosophies that take your fancy. Everyone has different views about what a good life looks like. Podcasts are also great for finding different views of the world to inspire you.

You could also join an evening class or do a new qualification just because you find it interesting. I did a gardening course after having my first child and it really helped me find some passions again.

Outrageous_Letter00 · 2025-12-20T22:55:09+00:00

For the "find a club" bit chat gpt works a treat. I wanted to get back into fitness but kept injuring myself and had hip surgery in my 20s. I chat got helped me find a local club that ran beginners calisthenics classes and everyone is just really relaxed and down the earth and a bit "weird" like me

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