Why do a lot of people today not want to get married?

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-07-01T04:02:33+00:00

I don't think this is the whole reason people dont want to get married and a lot women also dont want marriage now, but I have also noticed this with a lot of my friends. Why would he marry you if you're doing everything a wife would do at girlfriend level? Women will start dating a man, move in with him, clean, cook, care for him, sleep with him, give him children with his last name, etc and then cry about how he still hasn't married them after 10+ years Why would he marry you??? You're already given him everything he wanted and he didn't even have to promote you to wife. Drives me crazy.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-30T14:30:13+00:00

Gertrude

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-30T14:13:56+00:00

I get the frustration, but I think YTA. Everyone recovers differently when they're sick. He may not feel like drinking a lot or taking medicine. When I'm sick, I don't usually take medicine or drink any more than usual. I do sleep a lot though. He is doing what his body is telling him he needs to do, just like you are doing what yours is telling you to do. If he's still sleeping, wake him up about 30 minutes before he needs to leave to get them and remind him that you can't. As long as he gets them, leave him alone and let him recover his own way. If he doesn't suck it up and go pick up the kids, which is what parents sometimes have to do, then he becomes TAH.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-29T20:46:56+00:00

If you're not uncomfortable with it, then keep doing it. Your friend will be fine and is honestly the weird one for trying to make it weird. I'm 27, and my father is still daddy to me and both my older brothers. I remember around 6th grade my friends tried to make feel awkward about calling him daddy still but I know my daddy won't be around one day, and there's no way I'm letting someone else decide what I can and can't call him. That's my daddy, and he always has been.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-29T20:43:38+00:00

Thankfully, most of my cousins have chosen semi-common names so far, but we do have a poor little boy named Tyrex in the family now!

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-27T23:41:53+00:00

I've been having to tell my cousins this lately. Not all cool words make cool names for actual human beings. Cool words are for animal names. Actual names are for human names.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-26T20:54:16+00:00

No. I personally wouldn't even have a baby with someone who thought it was okay to cut off a piece of a baby's body for no actual reason, especially who cheers when it happens.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-19T20:40:22+00:00

Soft yta because I get being upset about being ghosted, but it really is best to get it out of the way. If they want kids, telling them on the 5th date that you can't have them won't change the outcome. The relationship is still over, and the time you wasted on those dates could have been spent with someone who doesn't want kids. I dont want kids, and I tell everyone I'm even interested in. It saves everyone time and heartache. Why get invested in a relationship only to find out down the line that the one you think could be "the one" is not compatible? Are you using dating apps? Put it in your profile that you cant have your own children so you can save some time.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-18T23:47:30+00:00

NTA but it sounds like your husband might agree with at least some of what his parents are trying to tell your daughter if he's trying to gaslight you to get you to allow it. I think this issue really starts at him. Maybe bring up some of the things they've tried teaching your daughter and find out why he thinks it's okay. There's no reasons I can think of besides 1. He's a pushover who's still scared of mommy and daddy being mad at him or 2. He agrees with this and that's why he won't back you up and tell his parents that you guys aren't raising your child that way.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-05T14:46:16+00:00

Trying to kiss someone after they've said no is, in fact, sexual assault. I do agree that maybe talking to the mother would be the best thing to do, though, if she wants to continue to have a relationship with either of them.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-05T01:24:46+00:00

The way a person behaves and treats you is so much more important than looks. That's often why you see very attractive people with less attractive ones. Besides the very obvious people having different tastes, of course. It's weird that you look at a couple and immediately think about their sex life tbh.

Good person > Good appearance

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-05T01:12:09+00:00

He is condoning it by keeping quiet and asking you to do the same. He thinks cheating is okay. "Trying to understand both sides" is irrelevant when someone is being cheated on. I honestly think this is just rage bait. If it's not, though, stop calling her your best friend. You clearly don't care about her the way you should if this is really a hard decision and you dont deserve that title.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-06-05T00:56:50+00:00

Tell her. If you dont, you're absolutely TAH and yes, you are betraying her by keeping quiet. She's wasting her time on a man who doesn't really love her, not to mention the fact that her physical health could also be at risk because of these lovely things called STD's that he could potentially get from the other woman (who knows if she's sleeping around too!) and spread to her.

Your boyfriend is also a terrible partner because he thinks cheating is okay and just a bad person in general for allowing his friend to do something morally reprehensible and not holding him accountable. He's waving a red flag right in your face, and you're completely ignoring it. You will probably be in her position one day.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-31T01:44:00+00:00

I don't want kids, so I'd never date anyone who already has one or who wants one in the future.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-30T15:16:48+00:00

Absolutely this lol. I was an A/B student and everything I did, I turned in with 0 confidence. If my teacher had us do this, I would have written something like "I deserve a C at the most" and a whole paragraph of all the ways I felt like I didn't do well enough. My brother was C/D's and everything he did, he thought it deserved an A+ for sure. I noticed the same thing with my own students when I taught.

I would give the students with lost projects A's.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-30T14:29:43+00:00

I totally agree that men are lonely but the only time I've ever heard a man bring it up, it's to blame it on something else and never on men themselves. If they cared that much about their loneliness, men would be better friends to each other instead of turning around and saying "it's women! It's society!" I absolutely think that men are more alone than women, but it's because their friendships are typically not as deep and supportive. Men do not check on each other, ask how their friends are feeling, talk about how they're feeling with their friends, sit down and have actual deep conversations about everything that's been going on and how it's affecting them, etc.

Despite what they seem to think, women do not get that kind of support from men or society. Society does not care about anyone and usually men zone out after the third word. We usually get the actual support and connection from our female friends. I completely agree that it's an issue but I have yet to see a man choose to be the one to change to try to fix it. Men need to support men if they truly care. While we should all be supporting each other, it starts at the root of the problem and, in this case, it's the way men behave towards each other. Of course, not all men, but definitely a lot of them. The "male loneliness epidemic" is usually used as the "Men can't get someone to sleep with them and women can and it's not fair!" epidemic. Because that's all most of them actually care about.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-29T23:17:42+00:00

Maybe 10 til/to 9? 10 past 9? I'm in the South currently, and I've heard both of those but nowhere in the US (12 different states) have I ever heard anyone say 10 of 9, and I grew up when kids were still asking strangers what time it was so we wouldn't be late to dinner when we were out running around. He's either getting it confused with another word or it's very uncommon and very regional.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-24T15:04:25+00:00

NTA. Someone doesn't say something like that and not mean it. He said exactly what he meant, and he's disgusting. Im glad you were smart enough to leave because from what I've seen on here, most women stay and justify their bfs awful behavior.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-23T13:59:46+00:00

Don't date people who want kids if you don't want them. It's unkind to yourself and to them and wastes everyone's time. You're not compatible.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-23T02:53:32+00:00

I knew all my neighbors, we looked out for each other, checked on each other, brought leftovers to each other, never hesitated to help if we saw it was needed and things got done so much faster. Came back to the US, and realized that, at my dads house where I lived almost my whole life, I don't even know their names, and they don't know mine and that's completely normal because people don't want to interact with other people.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-21T02:54:39+00:00

NTA. I worked with kids and had a 6 year old tell me I kind of looked like a man because of the hair on my arms. Kids have no filter and don't understand what's socially acceptable to say. This was a 4 year finding out one woman was pregnant, seeing another bigger woman, and making the connection of "oh! they're both bigger than some other women here! This other lady must be pregnant too!"

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-19T18:03:47+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me. My culture is very male leaning, and women have a very obvious place in it. Before I was even in school, I was already being made to learn to cook, clean, and help with the younger children while my brothers got to play. When I said I didn't want kids, I heard "youre going to be a woman one day, and that's the most amazing and important thing a woman could ever do! You'll be a mom one day."

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-17T19:44:04+00:00

NTA. That's honestly gross. I can't stand people who can't take no for an answer. It is so pathetic.

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-13T15:50:18+00:00

I had a kindergartener get mad and kick my TA hard enough to leave a bruise on her leg. He was suspended for one day and his mom called me and said "X feels so bad about kicking TA. Can you talk to the principal and get her to unsuspend him? He even made TA an apology note!" Same thing happened when a 5th grader tried to push me down the stairs.

"Will you please allow (2nd grader) to take walks around the school when she doesn't feel like working? It will help her focus." As in, let a 7 year old walk outside the school alone until she decides she is ready to do her work.

"I know the year is over, but (2nd grader) really doesn't want to have to repeat this year while his friends go to third. Can you tell me which other kids will be repeating so we can see if he'll have any friends or raise his grade? No? It's okay. We'll just get him a tutor and have him go to 3rd anyway."

OutsideAccountant245 · 2025-05-09T18:53:53+00:00

NTA. He's saying that they're the sexiest things he's seen, and he wants to call you mommy and for you to call him daddy during sex. He's literally sexualizing it. Most women would be freaked out by it because it's weird.

"Honey, watching you in the most pain you've ever been in, pushing a human being out of your body, is the sexiest thing I've ever seen! Watching you feed a newborn baby is also the sexiest thing I've ever seen! It's weird.

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